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Old 12-27-2011, 04:01 PM
Location: Everywhere and Nowhere
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I have a female family member whose husband is trying to convince her to buy and live on a farm in a rural area for their retirement. They've lived in the exurbs of a large city all their married lives and neither has ever done any farming. I'm wondering if she's going to find it getting old pretty fast. Am curious how others whose spouses talked them into it found the experience after a couple of years.
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Old 12-27-2011, 04:05 PM
Location: United State of Texas
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Some people just have dreams of escaping the rat race of the city. My parents bought land and retired to the country about 10 years ago. They love it.
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Old 12-27-2011, 08:00 PM
Location: Stuck in NE GA right now
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BAD idea, not just for her but for him, they need to maybe find an interum place that's like a mini-farm of a couple of acres so they can learn what it's like to take care of critters and land.

Too many people have these "green acres" dreams and then move out here into the sticks and are very very unhappy.
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Old 12-27-2011, 09:48 PM
Location: Way up north :-)
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I agree with finding an interim place to get a reality check on how much work is involved in maintaining a rural property. That's before you add animals. We don't have animals but in summer we'd be overgrown completely without our riding mower. Also, how much isolation and seclusion would they be comfortable with? Having said that, living in the 'burbs is often the most isolating and lonely experience a human can have. At least out in the sticks you don't actually expect the 'roos to answer back.

I never thought of myself as a rural type of girl but our little plot of paradise is the only thing I'll miss when we leave to live in the U.S. I love the clean air, privacy, quiet. However, we both had to maintain p/t jobs in the city (and a p/t rental apt there) to maintain our rural lifestyle. I feel lucky we weren't trapped in the city 24/7.

I'd look at buying a few acres near a smaller, reasonably lively town. That way you have your rural lifestyle but can be near enough if you want company. I don't mean to be insulting, but if they're near retirement age they possibly need to consider being close to assistance in case of medical emergencies. My DH became very ill from a suspected tick bite, trust me you really feel alone out in the sticks when your otherwise healthy strong spouse gets sicker than you've ever seen them.

If you can buy or have access to an established farm, so much the better. Ours was built from scratch and after a few camping 'adventures' I would've been happy to never see the place again. But a few creature comforts (roof over head, shower, comfy bed) make all the difference. I'd never dismiss anything outright as a 'BAD' idea, better to at least have a try at it. Good luck to them!
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