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Old 05-13-2010, 11:38 AM
 
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Don't know that there's a "pecking order" in my rural area either, but there is a definite divide between the "city" and "county" folks.

What I saw where I grew up (eastern WA and OR) was more snobbery among farmers concerning how long their place had been there...more so in OR. Which tickled my Tennesse wife, whose family had been on their place since the 1790s...

It's human nature...and some folks are just toxic and that isn't a country/city thing.
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Old 05-13-2010, 12:22 PM
 
Location: South Coast of Nebraska
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I think you're right, skinem; it's human nature..insecurities. But, I still think the general population feels like it can woo the country hick faster than he/she can snow the city slicker. And, for some reason, feels it's more necessary. Why is that?
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Old 05-14-2010, 09:59 AM
 
Location: Interior AK
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I think there is a general misconception that country folk are stupid and ignorant. Maybe some of them didn't go to college to get lots of book-learning and an onion-skin for their walls; but most of them aren't stupid or clueless... just have different interests and priorities.

I've been in the city the past few days buyiing building materials for our cabin... not only am I getting attitude because I'm a woman, but some of the guys are also treating me like I barely have an IQ higher than my shoe size because we live out in the sticks. After about 2 hours, I finally got peeved enough to set one of them straight. Told him to "quit looking at my husband for confirmation everytime I asked something because *I'm* the designer and engineer. So when I ask a specific question about such-and-such product, I do know what I'm looking at, what I'm talking about, what it's used for, and what I need it to do!" He turned about 15 shades of red, excused himself, and I got to work with a more amenable associate after that!
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Old 05-14-2010, 01:38 PM
 
Location: South Coast of Nebraska
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Applause for anyone who "sets 'em straight," as that helps all of us who end up where you were.

The OP wanted to know if it was common to find social climbing, in small towns. I think it is. And, I'm just wondering why we can't shake it. Why someone always has to be "cooler." I especially enjoy being with the friends who just say, "I'm not, I can't afford it, and I don't have it all figured out..." even though I know (and they know I know) they've seen it all and they could have it all if they wanted it Period

Maybe it should be a requirement that country folk live in the city, for awhile. Maybe that would cut down on the jockeying for urban credits.
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Old 05-14-2010, 07:43 PM
 
Location: Interior AK
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I think social climbing is just as bad in the city, especially in suburbia ::shudder:: It just seems to be a relatively level percentage of the population no matter where you go. Corporate politics and neighborhood associations are just as overbearing and ridiculous as the small town master/matron nonsense.

At least in a small town, there's only a handful of them and you usually know who they are so you can avoid them.
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Old 05-14-2010, 10:20 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Cities big and small have plenty of uneducated residents. They just fly under the radar of the snobs.
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Old 05-15-2010, 02:36 AM
 
Location: Interior AK
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Even some of the educated residents can manage to fly under the radar of the snobs if they work at it
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Old 05-15-2010, 11:29 AM
 
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I'm just glad that most of the snobs and social climbers usually reveal themselves fairly quickly...some fairly well advertise it.

Then my radar goes off and they can easily be avoided...or had fun with as the mood dictates.
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Old 05-15-2010, 02:05 PM
 
Location: Interior AK
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Best way to deal with social climbers is to ignore them... they hate that since everything they do is driven by the need to get attention

Them "Isn't my brand new ____ just awesome."
Me "mmmm, uh huh"
Them "Don't you just wish you could have one, it's just so awesome."
Me "Not really."
Them "But it's so awesome"
Me "Whatever. Gotta go"
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Old 05-15-2010, 05:55 PM
 
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I do like messing with the climbers...

I love the looks I get when I ask questions like "What kind of ground clearance does your beemer have?" "Do you think it can tow a horse trailer?"

Or making comments to them like "Yeah, we looked at buying in that neighborhood, but it was all pretty much just starter homes. But, I'm sure yours is nice." (Many people in McMansions love hearing this.)

I know, I'll have to answer to God one day for these types of things...but they make it soooo tempting!
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