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Old 05-06-2010, 09:59 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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I spent time with my family in a small town in Kansas a few months ago...Had a great time. Seem to fit-in really well...Thinking about moving to the area...But something seemed to bother me a bit. Couldn't put my finger on it until now...I picked-up on a "social hierarchy." Not sure what to call it but some people definitely "put on airs."...This is not what I expected...I was hoping to get away from "social-climbers" by living in a small rural town. Is this common? Appreciate your comments and insights....Thanks.
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Old 05-07-2010, 03:15 AM
 
Location: California
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I think it's MORE common in small towns where people all know each others business and everyone knows it. It's easier to be anonymous in a bigger city and not care about such thing. Not that it doesn't happen but there are more people who don't care that do. It's not necessarily a horrible thing, just one of those "little differences" that comes with each kind of place. You should be fine, it's not a make or break issue.
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Old 05-07-2010, 03:34 AM
 
Location: Texas
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You can always choose not to play the game.
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Old 05-07-2010, 04:56 AM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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You find it everywhere. My brother-in-law lives in a rural area (on a farm) in western PA, but on the "wrong" side of the state highway. The folks on the "right" side call their side of the road Upper____ _____. It's a source of amusement for me.
Same way in small towns, I grew up on the "wrong" side of town. In PA, and MD for that matter, there are entire towns that are considered "wrong". Where I am the folks nearer to the water are always throwing in how their street (actually 2 streets) are so much "better". This in a town that's 5 very short blocks deep.
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Old 05-07-2010, 11:28 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Thanks for your responses. Guess I still have a lot to learn about small town life...I don't want to compete with anyone...I don't want to feel obligated to keep up with the Jones'....I've been surrounded by this "stuff" too much in larger cities...Guess it goes on everywhere...The small town in Kansas I visited had several blocks of larger homes...My cousin and her husband referred to it as the "BIG HOMES" area....It definitely stood out...Their small little city even had a "country club" and golf course for the socialites in town....I was really surprised....The town isn't very big. Some people flashed their "iPods" and fancy electronics....Everyone was super friendly and I was too...It seemed like I was handed some status because I live in the west....This seemed weird to me because I am a very low-key and modest type of person....I am not very materialistic. I don't want to be caught-up in having to buy "new stuff" all the time.....Maybe I won't fit-in very well after all. What do you think?...Thanks for the advice.
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Old 05-07-2010, 01:22 PM
 
Location: Niceville, FL
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It's inherently a part of humanity wherever you go, though there are a thousand differnet ways that the socila hierarchy develops and expressed.
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Old 05-07-2010, 02:14 PM
 
Location: CasaMo
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I spent time with my family in a small town in Kansas a few months ago...Had a great time. Seem to fit-in really well...Thinking about moving to the area...But something seemed to bother me a bit. Couldn't put my finger on it until now...I picked-up on a "social hierarchy." Not sure what to call it but some people definitely "put on airs."...This is not what I expected...I was hoping to get away from "social-climbers" by living in a small rural town. Is this common? Appreciate your comments and insights....Thanks.
There are social climbers in small towns. I live in a rural area and pay no mind to them. For the most part, they've never stepped outside their little social gossip bubbles in their lives. Ever.
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Old 05-07-2010, 03:57 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Thanks for all the insights...I think I was way off base about life in small towns...Very unrealistic and idealistic...My cousin showed me some of the nearby towns in her area when I spent time in Kansas....I fell in love with one town because it was small and full of beautiful groves of trees....It seemed like "paradice on earth" to me....Everyone in the area refers to the town I liked the best as a "ghost town" because it's population has dwindled so much through the years.....No one could understand why I would want to live in their "ghost town" but it just seemed so peaceful and quiet and far away the "maddening crowds" to me....I don't want to be part of a social hierarchy if I can help it....I've had my fill of manicured lawns and feeling pressured to keep up with the neighbors out here in the west.....What do you think life in a "ghost town" might be like?....The town has a co-op grocery grocery store and small cafe.....It's close to the interstate and easy to get to neighboring towns....I clicked with the lady who works in the grocery store and some others in the town. They were happy that I liked their town so much.
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Old 05-07-2010, 07:15 PM
 
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I wouldn't consider anyplace with a cafe a ghost town.
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Old 05-07-2010, 07:28 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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I wouldn't consider anyplace with a cafe a ghost town.
I thought it was great that the town had the co-op grocery store and small cafe...I couldn't understand why my relatives and others put this town down and sort of made fun of it...I guess it's not the type of town that social-climbers are interested in and this makes the town even more desirable to me at this point in my life.
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