My fellow Californians..Are you struggling with the possibility of leaving? (San Diego: new house, neighborhood)

[sheri257]

Originally Posted by kidyankee764

I think many people are just moving to the wrong places. In Southwest Connecticut, three of the seven homes in my culdesac house families from California. They LOVE it here, and I see many CA plates daily so it looks like many are considering the area.

Sorry but, I've already lived in the Northeast. You couldn't pay me enough to live in snow again ... ugh. Not only do I hate snow but the winters are way too long ...

[sheri257]

Originally Posted by CalGal953

Living elsewhere, even if it is cheaper, is pointless if I'm not happy.

I couldn't agree more. Obviously it does work for some people but, it definitely doesn't work for me.

[dogmom]

Originally Posted by sheri257

I couldn't agree more. Obviously it does work for some people but, it definitely doesn't work for me.

ditto..do lots and lots of research...and I agree with the poster that said it would be a good idea to move to an area similar to where you are from...we moved from progressive CA to backwards UT. Coming back....life is too short to live 25 years in the past..

[CityGirl72]

But what does one do, when one spouse loves where you moved to, but the other wants to move back? My dilemma

[osopaths]

I think as a couple, you would have to discuss each others goals and objectives in life and figure out what is important for the couple and then on an individual basis then weigh it from there.

[dogmom]

Originally Posted by osopaths

I think as a couple, you would have to discuss each others goals and objectives in life and figure out what is important for the couple and then on an individual basis then weigh it from there.

That's a hard one, but in the past you most likely have not made any move without being 'in tune' with each other, I hope. I have to say that through 31 years of marriage, a couple of our moves in the first 25 years were MY idea, thank goodness they turned out well, the last few years we have made a couple bonehead moves, when this house sells we are taking our sweet time figuring out where in CA we want to be and then we need to be sure because we are too old to move again and again...

Just be honest with each other, it's not easy..we have had our 'moment's of disagreement, that's to be sure. Good luck!

[Ultrarunner]

Originally Posted by CityGirl72

But what does one do, when one spouse loves where you moved to, but the other wants to move back? My dilemma

In all seriousness... I hope you won't be disappointed when you come back.

I posted before where my friends wife became extremely homesick after their first child was born... she longed to return to the place of her childhood and her husband eventually agreed. They sold everything and moved thousands of miles and nothing was as she remembered... so they ended up moving back to the Bay Area after two years...

[owengarrett]

We moved out of California (Bay Area) two years ago along with our kids and grandkids, their best friends, their best friends parents and the in-laws. We all relocated to the Lake Norman area outside of Charlotte. We've all improved all lifestyles by either being able to retire or being able to live on "one-income", allowing one parent to stay home with the kids. Schools are better, commutes are shorter, and the general pace is slower (which WILL drive you crazy at first no matter how much you think it won't!!)

We made the right decision and love it here and, but we also miss California. If you're considering moving and have never lived outside of CA (which we hadn't) then do your research well!! Subscribe online to local newspapers, TV stations, etc to see if the community would be a "fit" for you.
Good luck in whatever you decide!!

[CityGirl72]

Originally Posted by Ultrarunner

In all seriousness... I hope you won't be disappointed when you come back.

I posted before where my friends wife became extremely homesick after their first child was born... she longed to return to the place of her childhood and her husband eventually agreed. They sold everything and moved thousands of miles and nothing was as she remembered... so they ended up moving back to the Bay Area after two years...

I have only been gone four years and visit every couple of months

[Tiger Beer]

Originally Posted by Gal On The Move

We've been thinking about moving to San Anotonio because you can get a great house for much less then $300G's. We've also heard it's a great place to raise the family we want to start.

Have you been to San Antonio? I once thought it would be a great place to live because of the cost-of-living and lower-priced houses. Then I flew to San Antonio to look around, and nearly all of the houses throughout the cities are real dilipatated!! I could suddenly and immediately understand WHY they were priced the price they were.