Is Roseville CA gay family friendly? (Sacramento, Davis: 2015, house, neighborhoods)

[Looking2move80]

Hello,

My wife and I have lived in the Bay Area are whole lives. We are a lesbian couple raising 2 special needs kids and are searching for a community where the children can play outside with other kids and we can afford a large home. My wife's sister lives in Roseville and we love how the neighbors and kids hang out outside together and it feels like a real community which is really hard to find any more. We are thinking of moving but having lived in the Bay Area my whole life I'm concerned about how gay friendly a suburb like Roseville will be. I just want our family to be apart of good community. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you

[MrsApt]

If you don't put emphasis upon your sexuality like you're doing here, they won't either

Don't push it on them, be respectful of your neighbors and their children.


Allow your kids the chance to play with the other kids without pushing any agenda of your own like you have here in starting a thread about your sexual preferences.

Yes, Roseville is a perfectly nice place to live. But there are *rougher* areas like many cities have, such as in old town Roseville. It is cheaper there but there may be a price to pay. I would spend the night and drive the town at night beforehand if that is the area you start looking into. Good luck

[wburg]

And that pretty much sums it up, sad to say.

[Looking2move80]

See MrsApt I don see how I'm putting an emphasis on my sexuality, I have never in my life put an emphasis on my sexuality, it's other people who do. All I want to know here is can my family and I be respected and enjoy a life raising our children without being judged for who we are. Or will me kissing my wife in public be an emphasis on my sexuality? What if I'm wearing a tank top and short hair cut, is that going to be too much emphasis on my sexuality? We are not planning on painting our house rainbow and having the village people over, at least not every night. I'm just trying to learn if by being myself, a person who runs a non-profit and supports her community who happens to also love another woman am going to be accepted in this community. Yes it sad that I have to ask,but answers like yours prove why I should.

Thank you for your input.

[xenxes]

I think MrsApt's uncomfortable regard to sexuality being pushed as an agenda, and the description of sexual orientation as a "preference", sum up how many folks in Roseville feel.

Further into the burbs / boonies, more of that attitude you'll see. I know this is California, but let's not forget it's the same California that pushed forth Prop 8, that "agenda perceiving" but "intending no harm" crowd is still abound, they don't like change, they don't like different, and given the opportunity they'll happily vote again to homogenize the world.

OP's not emphasizing her sexuality on an anonymous forum, how can she? She fears for her safety and comfort, and that of her partner and children, that's why she has to ask what parts of California that should be avoided.

Closer to Sac or Davis, the more LGBT population you'll see, there's rarely any perceived "emphasis" or "agenda". People are more confident in who they are, and that other people are who they are. Rainbow flags abound. Nobody cares.

Check out these old threads:
gay friendly neighborhoods?
Gay Life in Sacramento?

[Midwestern Maniac]

I'm speaking generally as a gay dude in a marriage here:

Most suburban and urban areas are friendly to gays, as in no one gives a crap. The only places in 2015 where you'll run into issues in urban areas are perhaps areas that are primarily newly arrived Hispanic immigrants or black ghetto areas. In rural areas it's a different story but whatever.


It also depends on your idea of gay friendly. Do you want to left alone to live your life, with people treating you the same respect that you give them? If so then you'll have no issue anywhere from Dallas to Frisco to Seattle to Cincinatti to DC to Miami. However if you are part of the fringe of people that demands that everyone rolls out the rainbow flag, has exactly the same views as you and is a gay rights activist, then most areas outside of the Castro or Chelsea or South Beach (not even really these days) won't be considered friendly by your standards. I hope your the type that just wants to be treated like an average human being with mutual respect (that means knowing and being okay with the fact that most of your neighbors aren't gay and they might have some views you don't agree with but that's irrelevant as long as they're gracious) because the second type is what makes us look bad.


(I'm speaking for the majority of homosexuals here) All we want is to be treated like everyone else, it's a vocal minority that wears chaps and feather boas (men) or buzzes their hair and rides a chopper (ladies) and demands everyone to venerate them:..unfortunately that vocal minority makes it harder for everyone



Enjoy Sac, it's the only part of Cali that feels like a normal place in America (in the Bay Area it's all revolutionary socialists, junkies and techies. In LA you're either a pretentious tool or a non English speaking Chicano nationalist..etc etc)

[anderscl]

Have you checked out Davis? It's a bit of a drive to visit your wife's sister from there, but the schools are just as good as Roseville's. It's ridiculously family-friendly: miles of greenbelts, parks, farmers markets, all of that stuff. The LGBT vibe will be open and relaxed. The main downside is going to be cost.

[wburg]

To the OP, have you considered Sacramento? We're kind of a big blue city surrounded by red suburbs, many of our neighborhoods are quite comfortable and livable, plus there is a large local LGBT community.

[MrsApt]

Originally Posted by Looking2move80

See MrsApt I don see how I'm putting an emphasis on my sexuality, I have never in my life put an emphasis on my sexuality, it's other people who do. .

Um...your sexual preferences are inserted in the thread title so please spare me just this basic level of respect. Thank you

My reply is not debatable so please don't try. I answered you truthfully to my own knowledge, impression, and personal experience of Roseville. You didn't like my answer and that's ok

Again, don't push your sexuality on others as part of your intro to your childrens possible playmates. Lay off this agenda, think of your innocent kids and you will fair just fine. It's a nice place. Again, this is my take on Roseville as a place to live in relation to your concerns about your sexuality. Best of luck to you all

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[nightlysparrow]

Originally Posted by Looking2move80

Or will me kissing my wife in public be an emphasis on my sexuality?

Kissing in public between any two people...yuk, IMO