Funny you say that I should plan on raising my kids as a single parent with that commute....I've been practically doing that for the past 4 years!!!

We moved from CA to TX at the end of 2001 and he travelled almost every week for the first 2 years sometime for 18 days at a time, then the past 20 months he's been commuting from TX to Chicago Mon-Thr every week. Just to have him home every night would be a blessing!
He would have a fairly flexible schedule. He was thinking about leaving the house at 6am and heading home around either 5:30-6pm or 3-4pm depending on what he has going on. Would he beat most of the traffic...at least in the am?
I'm thinking our budget is somewhere between $245-$300k. I don't think that would buy much in Livermore and I was hoping to stay close to the Sacramento area since I have a sister and best friend there. He says Tracy is out of the question because there is nothing there. We live in the DFW area and we are surrounded by LOTS of cities with LOTS to do.
I will check out some of the other cities that you mentioned as I have never even heard of them before.
I appreciate your suggestions!! Although i'd love to stay close to family and friends, I'd much rather make it a little easier on hubby and myself and have him spending time at home rather than on the road commuting.