Any hope of the single atheist? (Daniel: job, hospital, house)

[Danielsam]

Hello everyone, this is my first post, so be kind! I did some searches and read a bit about single life in SLC and I have a few questions:

I'm moving to SLC pretty soon for a job (local hospital), but the more I read about SLC the more I'm getting concerned that I may be single for the rest of my life!!! So here is the story:

I am single, 35, attractive, with an advanced degree (MD)... sounds good right? Here is the issue:
- I am recently divorced
- I am pretty liberal
- I am extremely non-religious. That is, I am an agnostic, but just because I'm too chicken to admit I'm an atheist. Yet, I am non-militant, and have dated (and even once married) people of various faiths, including some very religious.

So, let me pause here. I know about 40% of SLC is LDS, which likely then eliminates 40% of single girls for 2 reasons: 1) I am 35 and most LDS girls in their mid to upper 20s and 30s would be already married - right? 2) I am non-LDS, which means it is unlikely that anyone would be interested, especially since I'm divorced AND non-religious! Right?

So this leaves just the non-LDS girls... Which brings me to my second point.

I'm hispanic. But a weird type of hispanic. I'm actually from South America (very south) and never fully assimilated with the hispanic-american culture. We are very diverse down there despite most people's assumptions that we are all the same just because we speak the same language. Since I was 19 I've lived in the east coast, mostly in pretty non-diverse college towns (undergrad to med school).

I'm saying this because I got the impression from reading the posts and other sites that there is significantly more hispanic-white segregation in the west coast than in the east coast, and especially in SLC. I'm anxious about this, although I hope I'm over reacting. I will probably be moving to The Avenues, Sugarhouse, or some place near the university, and not to one of the mostly hispanic areas.

Ok, let me finish before I start sounding like Sarah Palin. The real question is, what do you think dating life will be like for a 35 year old, divorced, liberal, hispanic atheist, with a sense of humor living in Sugarhouse? :-)

[Danielsam]

Actually I quick update. I just spent 10 minutes looking at the SLC pictures post and I have to say, I don't care if I have to be single for the rest of my life... SLC is the most beautiful place I've ever seen! :-) 18 years living in the east coast and no one told me what I was missing! DS.

[chazcrew]

Honestly? From reading your post, I think you'll be fine. Sure, the dating pool will be smaller, but you clearly have a lot to offer. You are articulate and well-educated, your sense of humor comes through subtly in your post, and, let's face it, being a doctor isn't going to hurt any!

[kwm03160]

Salt Lake is a farily diverse community. Stick around SLC and you'll be fine (don't venture out to the suburbs to live).

[VC dreamer]

Don't worry.....they're are plenty of people here who do not hold to religion. Just be yourself, and do the things you enjoy, and you will meet lots of other people who share your views as well.

[Topaz]

Try an online dating service and maybe you'll find a thirtyish, divorced, liberal, multicultural atheist woman living close to Sugarhouse. (Just research the sites before you join because some of them are known to discriminate against atheists).

I met my husband through a personal ad...we are celebrating our 10th year of happy marriage this year.

We discovered after we met that we visited a lot of the same places (book store, coffee cafe, grocery store, movie theater, etc.) but we were never there at the same times and we would likely never have met unless we had connected via a dating ad.

[alexei27]

You'll be fine....SLC needs more people like you anyway :-)

[cinnabon]

Originally Posted by Danielsam

:-) 18 years living in the east coast and no one told me what I was missing! DS.

That's because no one of the east coast knows what you've been missing! To the vast majority, Utah may as well be Siberia, for all they know about it.

I just moved from there myself, and yes, it's gorgeous here and the weather is much better than the Northeast as well. There are plenty of non-religious Liberals here - you'll do fine... especially if you're hot. lol

[alexei27]

Originally Posted by cinnabon

That's because no one of the east coast knows what you've been missing! To the vast majority, Utah may as well be Siberia, for all they know about it.

I just moved from there myself, and yes, it's gorgeous here and the weather is much better than the Northeast as well. There are plenty of non-religious Liberals here - you'll do fine... especially if you're hot. lol

Isn't it funny how being hot can allow you to rise above all those religious "shortcomings"...;-)

[Topaz]

Originally Posted by alexei27

Isn't it funny how being hot can allow you to rise above all those religious "shortcomings"...;-)

Being "hot" is pretty much the cure for many things: religious "shortcomings," poor qualifications for a job, obnoxious personality, etc.