Something that Disturbs Me

[ComingfromAL]

Originally Posted by cinnabon

I support this post. I moved here 10 months ago, and I couldn't love it more! But I am so glad I was able to find out things like "live near Sugarhouse, not in Sandy" before I moved here. It's just a matter of wanting to fit in, not wanting to stay away from the big, bad Mormons.


I really DO understand where you feel the need to get defensive, but let me just offer another viewpoint here. I don't think the point is to "stick it to the Mormons", but your way of living and thinking is not something I can relate to at all (me being a non-religous person from the Northeast).

Now I am a decent, caring person, by most anyone's standards, a social worker, help people in need, love animals, etc. But I have a real problem with the attitude that people should wait to get married to have sex. Personally, finding out if you are sexually compatible before you spend the rest of your life with someone is pretty damn important! By the way, premarital sex does not necesarily mean "promiscuous", as you implied. I also swear like a sailor at times (lol), find nothing offensive about dirty jokes, sexual conversations, when kidding around, and I occasionally like to drink too much, etc... Not everyone is uptight about this kind of stuff.

I think it is important not to globalize your values as being the gold standard and assume that any "decent person" would share them. This is the very attitude that makes people who are not LDS worry that they will not be accepted here. You sound just as small minded and judgemental as you are accusing FrogandToad of being. It is important for LDS people to realize that you can still be a good person, while living a completely different lifestyle, and having a completely different set of values than the ones you embrace.

Very good post.