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Old 07-15-2011, 06:15 PM
 
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I'm considering moving to San Antonio because I'm losing my job in Atlanta, and I would like a change. I also have a friend who is moving there with her family, and I've gotten some leads about jobs in my profession. I'm a 37 year old christian who likes trying new restaurants, shopping, and plays as well as concerts. I always wanted to get married and have a family, but the men in Atlanta only seem to want to play the field. They ask you for a committment, but they continue to see other women. My concern about moving to San Antonio is the lack of African American men and whether men of other races would be interested in an African American female.
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Old 07-15-2011, 07:06 PM
 
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From an African American woman who has been here since she was a baby, I have had a few interracial relationships with Hispanic men. It should be easier for you since the non-black men who tend to be open to dating black women are usually middle-aged. San Antonio is not the most open place for this combination. I have found that interracial dating is easier for black women in Dallas. What I found weird is that when I would go places with my mother or sister, people would assume that we were a lesbian couple; but when I went to places with my white boyfriend, no one ever assumed that we were together. You will see black men in interracial relationships here at a much higher rate than black women. You almost can't go a day without seeing a black man with a non-black woman if you're out and about; but for the 20-something years I've been alive, I can count all of the BW/non-black man couples on my hands. Most of my boyfriends have been black; but it's hard to find single, professional black men here in my age group.
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Old 07-15-2011, 07:16 PM
 
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As a black female, while San Antonio doesn't have the racial tensions other cities have and is filled with interracial relationships, it is the one place I've actually had a bit of a tougher time getting in with interracial relationships compared to other cities. There are men both black and non-black that are interested, and I've seen a few black women/non-black men combinations but not many. The dating scene for blacks is pretty small, and it can be a little tough for the interracial scene when a black female. There are men that would be interested in you but the scene here is usually geared toward Hispanics or whites. If you come here, I'm sure you'll be fine and if you keep yourself interested, you'll find a guy.
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Old 07-16-2011, 03:32 AM
 
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Hmm from a mans view, I date black women and I'm Hispanic/Italian...most friends in my social group who are not black are open to dating black women as well. But then again were in the age bracket of 25 - 30... But hey if your social you should have no problem meeting a nice man. Your still young so mingle! Don't worry about race too much us San Antonio men love all women! Lol
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Old 07-16-2011, 07:02 AM
 
Location: Schertz, TX
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From what I have seen... you may do just fine.

There is a single black lady who lives in the unit
across the breezeway from me. If she was more
friendly we might actually start up a conversation
one day.

The attitude seems to be... "oh a man... evil...
must avoid
". I seem to run into that a lot.

BTW, I'm white and from Canada... and no not
looking to hitch up with someone and get married
just so I can stay here.

I am looking for companionship if it ever comes
around my way.
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Old 07-16-2011, 07:20 AM
 
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you will do better in houston by far, SA just isnt the place for interracial dating for black women
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Old 07-16-2011, 08:41 AM
 
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Your a Christian if you prayed about it and God is leading you here come and God will send you the right mate. And that doesn't matter where you are. With Him all things are possible. After all if and when HE send you a mate it will be the mate for you no matter the race. It is a african american popoulation here though not huge but what HE HAS FOR YOU IS FOR YOU. Also remember it is a mixing pot because it is also a huge miltary community and college community. We are miltary came here at first feeling a little disappointed but now that we have prayed and accepted where we should be God is opening doors. This is coming from a family of many beautiful beautiful colors Dark Chocolate, Caramal, Cappuchino, and all colors. Have a great day.

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Old 07-16-2011, 08:55 AM
 
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As a black female, while San Antonio doesn't have the racial tensions other cities have and is filled with interracial relationships, it is the one place I've actually had a bit of a tougher time getting in with interracial relationships compared to other cities. There are men both black and non-black that are interested, and I've seen a few black women/non-black men combinations but not many. The dating scene for blacks is pretty small, and it can be a little tough for the interracial scene when a black female.
I saw some stats about 3-4 years ago on interracial marriages in the U.S., and although I don't remember the exact numbers, what I do remember is that the numbers were very heavily skewed toward black male/non-black female.

So I wouldn't think the dearth of black female/non-black male relationships is a local aberation.
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Old 07-16-2011, 09:14 AM
 
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No, it's definitely not a local thing, but that is kind of what makes it harder. The OP is coming from an area with a very large black population to an area with a much smaller one. San Antonio is geared more towards other groups. Plus, I've had a harder time dating interracially in San Antonio than I have other places.

To the OP: Again, don't worry, if you have a great personality and stay focused, I'm sure you'll find a guy.
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Old 07-16-2011, 09:21 AM
 
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I saw some stats about 3-4 years ago on interracial marriages in the U.S., and although I don't remember the exact numbers, what I do remember is that the numbers were very heavily skewed toward black male/non-black female.

So I wouldn't think the dearth of black female/non-black male relationships is a local aberation.
The nationwide numbers are that way; but each, individual city has its own statistics too. Some places have a lot of interracial dating in general while others have very little.
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