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Old 03-28-2014, 05:07 PM
 
Location: Austin
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It's even worse for single black women. I'm stuck in this region until I
finish school.
Same here, 400 days until I finish out my grad program here then I'm going to try for Houston!
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Old 03-28-2014, 05:32 PM
 
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I could imagine the pain for a black woman living here.

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Maybe less a change of scenery and more a change of the area of the city you currently live in. San Antonio very big and spread out. You'd be surprised at what you'll find just moving to another area of the city.
I've been strongly considering moving to Colorado.

At one point I considered Austin, but it's incredibly pseudo liberal.
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Old 03-28-2014, 05:38 PM
 
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San Antonio is indeed an odd duck. I find myself agreeing with a lot of what you write, except that I'm young, decently successful, well educated and white... SA can be a polarizing town for those who have grown up in truly multicultural other cities, but there's still a lot to love about this place.

More than a few times, I've gotten pegged with a bit of reverse discrimination simply because I don't look like I would fluently speak Spanish (I do), taken some flak for my very Scand/Swed looks (from folks speaking in loud Spanish, thinking I wouldn't understand... I did) and definitely have times when I miss living in a city that's truly comfortable intermixing without people always having to either play the poor victim card or rich/powerful hand.

All of that being said, I still think the good seriously outweighs the bad in San Antonio. Perhaps it's the area you were living in? While my hood of Southtown has its own issues at play, I can honestly say that race/lifestyle acceptance is not one of them. Never has been in the 10+ years I've owned here.

Wherever you end up, never forget that 'no matter where you go, there you are.'



I wish you a better living existence than what you've experienced here in San Antonio
Oh I agree that these issues exist everywhere. I've moved roughly 10 times, this is the 6th state I've lived in and I've lived in the south east and the north east. Just to name a few cities I lived around are Atlanta and the DC area (think Northern Virginia not DC itself).

So I've been in cities that have a cosmopolitan vibe. I've also traveled a bit. Not trying to sound uppity :P

Like I said people here are friendly to me, but there's a difference between being friendly and genuinely being interested in someone. I regard it as being 'fake nice' to me and it frustrates me when I extend myself out to people. They just ignore it. I've sometimes felt at a point almost 'invisible' here so to speak, when in reality I have a pretty big physical presence. I believe you know what I mean.

I live in the North East side of town by the way.
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Old 03-28-2014, 05:58 PM
 
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.lI live in the North East side of town by the way.
I'd suggest moving closer to the urban core. You never know, it may sway you yet.
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Old 03-28-2014, 06:05 PM
 
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People will exchange pleasantries but it ends there. I feel people have been nice because they are expected to. I am a black male in my early 30s, single, in great shape and health, well off in my career and I'm having issues with dating. It seems that if you're not white or Mexican good luck.
Why don't you date black women then?
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Old 03-28-2014, 06:16 PM
 
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Why don't you date black women then?
I date all but I don't encounter many black women on a daily basis.
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Old 03-28-2014, 08:04 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, Texas
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I could imagine the pain for a black woman living here.



I've been strongly considering moving to Colorado.

At one point I considered Austin, but it's incredibly pseudo liberal.


Oh Gawd, not Colorado. There are too many white people up there, especially now since MJ is legal. Shoot, I'll bet every surfer, skater and snow boarder are now there.
Haha (this is not meant to offend any race nor assumption that all surfers, skaters and snow boarders smoke MJ. )
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Old 03-28-2014, 09:11 PM
 
Location: Boerne, Texas
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I'm disappointed to hear this about San Antonio, but I would guess moving into on of the urban neighborhoods around the Pearl or Southtown would help. And I agree with ggeorgie - if you are experiencing these issues here, it will be 10x worse in most locations in Colorado. LoDo is more of a melting pot, but it's still not extremely diverse.
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Old 03-28-2014, 09:12 PM
 
Location: Grey Gardens
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Oh Gawd, not Colorado. There are too many white people up there, especially now since MJ is legal
Um, gross generalization much?
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Old 03-28-2014, 09:24 PM
 
Location: San Antonio
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Sorry to hear. I can relate to how you feel. Houston definitely has better diversity.
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