hello there....sounds like you are indeed torn
my fiance and I bought a house in Crestline almost a year ago now and we love it (the house, that is). the area can be dealt with too, though even Crestline has it's share of interesting citizens. we love the mountains, and I even commuted into LA until very recently in order to not live in the city. if you love the outdoors, then i think it's worth a shot for you...i'd avoid some of the restaurants in town, though, and check out Lake Arrowhead for some better options.
as for SB, it does have a bad rep, and there is something to that, but in general if you just have to go down for errands or shopping it isn't so bad. maybe check out Redlands or Ontario for work? that's what I'm in the process of doing myself, and both of those communities are much better.
let me know what other questions you have...i'm happy to help if i can
good luck!
