Dating in the IE

[tu2mama]

Don't give up hope. My daughter has tried all sorts of things to find companionship. Even the dance thing netted so many losers that she turned to online dating. She met her present BF online shortly before she moved for her job. Now they are doing the long distance thing. In hopes to help her settle in I found this message board. I also found some meet-up sites online that might be a good way to break into new areas. Some meet-ups focused on hiking, happy hours, attending events, and even shopping. Personally when I want to meet people I take classes that interest me. I used to tap dance with senior ladies for fun, now I'm one of them. Good luck yazndIE!

[Twinkle Toes]

Originally Posted by yazndIE

Wow! I've been away and what a surprise! So there is hope for people and dating, who live in the Inland Empire (did online dating and its just "NOT" in the cards for me, I seem to attract all the "wrongs", or is that common with all people anywhere?????)

Well I'm still here, had a few blind dates (dreaded) and well its discouraging
but one of those blind dates was set up in LA, and proves to me (unless your desparate) its just like picking a needle in a haystick, or the other saying "you win some, you lose some"....I am hanging in there though, its just lonely and I'm homesick, theres not much to do out here, unless you love hole in the wall bars (or biker bars) or casinos....all of which I dislike...

What do YOU like to do? Start doing the things you enjoy doing and you will meet people. It isn't necessarily "boring" in the IE - you just have to get out and DO SOMETHING! Is there something you think you might be interested in but have never tried? Get out there and try it.

Do you like the outdoors? The weather is so nice right now - get involved with a hiking group, or a wine-tasting group and go to tastings at the local wineries. Take a dance class, get involved with a bicycling group - there is SO much to do if you get involved in something. You will meet people who share your interests. You don't HAVE to go to biker bars or casinos - most of us DON'T.

Concentrate on making friends - male and female - and when you least expect it somebody of interest will come into the picture. That's how it usually works. It's like shopping. When you go to the mall specifically looking for something, you never find it. Then, when you aren't looking, whatever it was you were looking for but couldn't find is everywhere! LOL Finding a mate is very similar. Best of luck!!!

[Kin Atoms]

If you can be a sincere and decent person, wherever you go, that will attract a bevvy of lookers. There aren't that many of that type anywhere, so you should be yourself, get out there doing what you like, having fun, and you should have no difficulties. You may also want to try asking trusted co-workers for recommendations; getting set up for a date is just as fun if you are in it to enjoy yourself.

[agnt.starling]

Originally Posted by tu2mama

Don't give up hope. My daughter has tried all sorts of things to find companionship. Even the dance thing netted so many losers that she turned to online dating. She met her present BF online shortly before she moved for her job. Now they are doing the long distance thing. In hopes to help her settle in I found this message board. I also found some meet-up sites online that might be a good way to break into new areas. Some meet-ups focused on hiking, happy hours, attending events, and even shopping. Personally when I want to meet people I take classes that interest me. I used to tap dance with senior ladies for fun, now I'm one of them. Good luck yazndIE!

Good Ideas, Im w/you tu2mama, also wanting to make new friends & meeting people, although w/dancing I have two left feet
but I love the enthusiasm & ideas, I have explored my new area and love to go hiking, take my dog w/me at times (although he won't stop barking at people, other issue I need to resolved gentlely), the local festivals, heck even at yard sales, tend to mingle & find bargains at the same time, it just takes time getting adjusted to ones new area.......

Originally Posted by Kin Atoms

If you can be a sincere and decent person, wherever you go, that will attract a bevvy of lookers. There aren't that many of that type anywhere, so you should be yourself, get out there doing what you like, having fun, and you should have no difficulties. You may also want to try asking trusted co-workers for recommendations; getting set up for a date is just as fun if you are in it to enjoy yourself.

Good Ideas

Originally Posted by yazndIE

Wow! I've been away and what a surprise! So there is hope for people and dating, who live in the Inland Empire (did online dating and its just "NOT" in the cards for me, I seem to attract all the "wrongs", or is that common with all people anywhere?????)

Well I'm still here, had a few blind dates (dreaded) and well its discouraging
but one of those blind dates was set up in LA, and proves to me (unless your desparate) its just like picking a needle in a haystick, or the other saying "you win some, you lose some"....I am hanging in there though, its just lonely and I'm homesick, theres not much to do out here, unless you love hole in the wall bars (or biker bars) or casinos....all of which I dislike...

I feel you, although I'm married, its the loneliness of friendships from my past home life that I miss and thats were I'm feeling homesick myself. But I gather from all these posts, all good ideas, you should find things in your community to keep you busy, I wish you good luck too!!

[tu2mama]

Well hopefully my daughter will have a bowl of courage and go dancing tomorrow night. Please let it be an encouraging experience. I give her a lot of credit for moving away from her comfort zone for a job. I know I wouldn't have done it alone at her age. Thankfully the technology has sped ahead so rapidly and barring bad reception we are connected.

[Msrocketgirl]

YazndIE is correct about people in LA, I worked in the wilshire area and downtown LA, no matter, people greet you, talk to you about anything and everything. I live in Rialto now, initially we bought this house as investment, a fixer-upper, which my husband was going to do must of the sweat equity we were going to sell it then buy another one and so on...But due to a traggic accident he became disable and we're stuck here, no much to do around here. I like to dance, and was considering taking dancing classes at Arthur's studio in Redlands, just for the sake of meeting people with same interest. If u like to do same let me know.
Happy Feet!

[Twinkle Toes]

Originally Posted by Msrocketgirl

YazndIE is correct about people in LA, I worked in the wilshire area and downtown LA, no matter, people greet you, talk to you about anything and everything. I live in Rialto now, initially we bought this house as investment, a fixer-upper, which my husband was going to do must of the sweat equity we were going to sell it then buy another one and so on...But due to a traggic accident he became disable and we're stuck here, no much to do around here. I like to dance, and was considering taking dancing classes at Arthur's studio in Redlands, just for the sake of meeting people with same interest. If u like to do same let me know.
Happy Feet!

Trust me - you DON'T want to take your lessons at AM in Redlands. The owners of the studio (yes, I know them personally) are incredibly greedy. You will pay $15,000 for a "Bronze Package" and STILL be stuck doing a 'box step'. And West Coast Swing? You can forget about that! AM will ONLY teach WCS if you buy the "Gold Package" for over $30,000. You are going to learn more dances, more steps, and have better quality of teaching at an independent studio where the instructors hold several competition titles. Go to D&D's in Riverside, or Steppin' Out in Riverside, or Buddy Schwimmer's 5-6-7-8 Studio in Redlands, or Shake It Up in Redlands - but don't go to AM! At an independent studio you are never going to spend that much to learn social dance. You would spend that much if you are training competitively, but being trained by a Blackpool Champion. There aere NO Blackpool champs - or finalists at AM. Trust me on this - I know what I'm talking about.

[tu2mama]

Twinkletoes I have a question for you. Where are the good studios in or near Palm Springs? I think that my daughter would like to go that route. She hasn't been brave enough to go out alone and I feel she'd be more comfortable in the studio setting. She dances for fun only and isn't interested in competing. She was over the top serious about ballet and I think it broke her heart when she realized she didn't have the body for it. She has hip problems from years of forcing turnout. I'm sure she'd welcome suggestions. She has looked and looked online and feels everything good is in Riverside and if she drove there she might as well go all the way to the OC. She goes to Atomic in the OC for the most part. They had a team that did a swing number on Dancing with the Stars on an earlier season. She really misses her dancing friends and needs to find new friends in PS. She's spending her first weekend out there alone so I'm expecting to hear from her a lot this weekend.