Is SD a good place to meet men?

[SEAandATL]

Originally Posted by YoungSanDiegoDude

Hey bro, I' am quite a fan of cougars myself. Most them here in SD are in fact very mature, classy, and sexy. However, if I happen to run into a younger lady who is mature for her age and has the qualities of an older women and the other qualities that I' am looking for, then I won't turn her down if she is interested in dating. But until that happens, I' am focusing all of my attention and affection towards the cougars.

I wouldn't turn down the young ones either. In fact, I had fun on occasion going to Revolution in TJ and meeting 18-20 year olds. My age range when I was living there in my mid-20's was 18-45, and maybe older than that. Now that I'm 30, it's more like 21-49. I have noticed that girls in their early 20's tend to like older and more mature guys, and I get more looks and smiles from them now than when I was that age. But yeah, cougars have always turned me on and still do, especially the career oriented ones in the business/finance field who wear suits to work.

[jkoz]

Originally Posted by TheCaliforniaBear

Women sometimes say they want a nice guy around here. But in real life, they don't go for guys like that. And they are the female counter-part to the most materialistic guys with a total barbi doll type of style. Yet they expect to meet a really kind and down to Earth guy?

If you want a nice guy, you need to forget about the gold digging and go for personality. You can't have it both ways usually.

In all fairness, it goes the same way, though, for you guys. . . you want the large chested, botoxed Pamela Anderson look-alike to also be down to earth and in the kitchen baking sugar cookies for you when you come home from work. You can't have it both ways usually either

[YoungSanDiegoDude]

Originally Posted by SEAandATL

I wouldn't turn down the young ones either. In fact, I had fun on occasion going to Revolution in TJ and meeting 18-20 year olds. My age range when I was living there in my mid-20's was 18-45, and maybe older than that. Now that I'm 30, it's more like 21-49. I have noticed that girls in their early 20's tend to like older and more mature guys, and I get more looks and smiles from them now than when I was that age. But yeah, cougars have always turned me on and still do, especially the career oriented ones in the business/finance field who wear suits to work.

Yeah, I noticed that younger women have been giving me a lot of attention to now that I' am 25. I' am always catching younger women checking me out and or smiling when I' am in public. The thing is though, I' am not interested in them, unless she is a one in a million find like I mentioned earlier.

Also, most of them react differently when they see that I' am not loaded with cash and don't drive a fancy car. A few days ago, after a year of not having one, I finally got my own ride (a 2003 Toyota Camry/Dark Green). It's clean and in great shape (it looks brand new), but today when I was dropping my best friend off at San Diego State, a few young blonde ladies (probably freshmen) walked by the car and as the did they looked at us and the car and started to chuckle.

Of course, I really didn't care what they thought about my ride (because I know that a mature woman either wouldn't care about what I was driving or would agree that it is a nice-looking ride for it's age), or what anyone else thinks about it for that matter. The only thing that those girls really did was further damage the reputation of younger women and give me more reason to avoid them like the plague.

Like I said in another post, I know that there are younger women who don't fit this profile (including some here on this forum), but I' am sure that you and many others out there would agree that most of them do.

[Sassberto]

Originally Posted by YoungSanDiegoDude

when I was dropping my best friend off at San Diego State, a few young blonde ladies (probably freshmen) walked by the car and as the did they looked at us and the car and started to chuckle.

Don't sweat it kid. I drive by SDSU every day coming home from work. I got the gear. Slacks, dress shirt. Nice watch. Nice sunglasses. I drive a nice, newer european car that's always clean. I look like money. Those girls don't care one bit. They are too young and starved for attention to understand money. They are desperate for a jerk to treat them like crap.

You had a sideways ballcap and a lifted truck (or your mom's old 3-series), you're in there. Most of those girls are inland OC or Norcal trashola. They wouldn't know what to do with my money. They got Louis bags already, they got the Jetta mom bought. What do they care about money for?

[thepinksquid]

Originally Posted by jkoz

In all fairness, it goes the same way, though, for you guys. . . you want the large chested, botoxed Pamela Anderson look-alike to also be down to earth and in the kitchen baking sugar cookies for you when you come home from work. You can't have it both ways usually either

I don't think that's true, honestly. I know my husband wouldn't care for a big boobed blonde chick one bit. I think a lot of men find that "hot caricature" type woman to be fun to perhaps glance at--but not to actually consider being with.

I don't know how to say this without seeming full of it... but I feel as if I get a "fair" amount of attention here and there from men, and I'm about a far away from the Pam Anderson type as one can get. I think that's true for many women of all shapes, sizes and colors.

Originally Posted by YoungSanDiegoDude

Also, most of them react differently when they see that I' am not loaded with cash and don't drive a fancy car. A few days ago, after a year of not having one, I finally got my own ride (a 2003 Toyota Camry/Dark Green). It's clean and in great shape (it looks brand new), but today when I was dropping my best friend off at San Diego State, a few young blonde ladies (probably freshmen) walked by the car and as the did they looked at us and the car and started to chuckle.

Uhhh... why I hate to admit I share the same gender as twats like that. Seriously, don't give it one thought--those chicks are worthless.

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I've honestly, swear to god, never been attracted to "jerky" men. The odd thing is that I have many female friends who are decent, intelligent women that LOVE douchebags. They've balked at me for not wanting a puffed-out idiot of a man... it's just the sad thing is that many women do like jerks. I wish that was a stereotype that wasn't true.

[sd1]

after reading this thread i am more excited to move to sd. i'd like to meet ALL these girls. unlike you guys i try to set my standards as low as possible, that way i am pretty happy with whatever i get.

in all seriousness the girls where i live now on the east coast care more about getting married than who they are actually marrying. sd will be a nice change. the original poster actually sounds like a pretty cool chick--i'm sure you'll meet a great guy eventually. i will probably meet the biggest psycho girl in san diego--this has become my claim to fame. psycho stalkers love me.

[thepinksquid]

Originally Posted by Sassberto

You had a sideways ballcap and a lifted truck (or your mom's old 3-series), you're in there.

This is completely off topic, but this reminds of this douche bro-kid that I see at the gym that always runs on the treadmill/lifts weights with a "metal mulisha" baseball cap on sideways that's like barely on his head. Like he just took it and gingerly placed in the top of his head without pushing down. I really, really, really, want to go and knock it off every time I see him.

[tutti09]

Expecting something from a date - the blue book thought process AKA outcome -
hence reading from the expense side of the menu, not the less expensive side of the menu. Men always have expectations of what is going to happen on a date, will the woman be pretty enough, thin enough, smart enough, will I get her in the sac tonite or within atleast two dates so that I don't have to spend too much money, how much do I have to entertain her, how much do I really have to extend myself to her to actually get her. This Bulgarian woman drove for safety reasons, had extra tickets, and maybe it was different interests. But maybe it was you, only she really knows the answer. We will not be for everyone, and that is really ok, It didn't have anything to do with her being from another country, and stop bashing american women. Just say that you prefer Europeon women, and leave it at that. Why do people always feel compelled to hurt people's feelings, it is not necessary. What we are creating men and women is a world of men hating women, and women hating men, this is not good. Having said this, men historically have not really liked women. We have been dominated throughout history, some things have changed, and other things remain the same. Women like to cater to men, sadly men have to be told to cater to women. This has created a really bad imbalance in the world, hence women don't really care about remaining single. They can have the best of both worlds, have a black book, do as they please, travel whenever they like, come home whenever they like, buy whatevery they like, buy property, and just be whatevery they like, and no questions asked. They can date men, and then go home to their own happy clean abode. Because you see.....historically men are insatiable, they want it all. Women are always willing to compromise, well until they become a little older in life and begin to see that there is a really bad imbalance. Like a 90% men & 10% women imbalance, not good or fair. This is what is going on in the world, an women, girls, females are very much tired of it. So you go right ahead and hold on to your $20.00 date, cause we all have black books with mens phone numbers in them to call, money to take ourselves to the movies and dinner, and do whatever we like. We do however enjoy mens company, cause we just keep hoping that maybe the grandfather's have instilled in men how to treat ladies again. Cause there will always be ladies in the world, but gentlemen seem to be hiding out in their caves. Any kind of relationship with anyone takes give and take, with your mother, siblings, coworkers, friends, neighbors, just look at your relationships and see how they are doing. This is an indication of how we really treat people, most likely we treat our romatic partner not as good. People are very important in this world, and learning how to treat people is essential. It is always more important to look within before blaming other people for why a date didn't work out...maybe ask them why....most people will tell you. Peace and good luck. Stop the blaming game.......

[tutti09]

Thanks SD!...maybe one day..... stay away from the psychos

[sd1]

haha. will do. can't wait to move. sometimes you just a need a change. take care.