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Old 12-04-2013, 02:57 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
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So I've only been in the Bay Area for about 4 months now. So far, it's not so bad, as far as people are concerned. When I first moved here I stayed with my cousin out in East Bay, and went through Oakland a lot. People there were pretty down to earth and cool. I then moved to South Bay/Silicon Valley. For the most part, people down here are pretty friendly. You get your occasional shortness from people, but that's expected in a big city. but I never spent much time in San Francisco (besides passing through it) until last week. I got a week off for Thanksgiving, and I decided to take that time to see San Francisco. Boy, did I not like what I saw.

Sure you have your homeless people, and your congested traffic, but I've been a city guy for awhile. That stuff really doesn't bother me like it does some people. But one thing that annoys me to no end, is snobbery. I'm a black guy, and when I was in San Fran, I would ask people for directions. They kind of look at me with their big nose, and straight up look pissed that I'm asking them for direction in a city that's as confusing as San Francisco is. It's almost like everyone has a big attitude. Now I've been to rude cities, and people who are rude won't even acknowledge you. IF they don't want to talk to you, they won't even bother. I'm cool with that. It's the people who engage you, but kind of talk in a condescending and smug tone.

I go to a resturaunt -arrogance
I go to starbucks - arrogance
I walk past someone and say "excuse me" arrogance
Ask "how do I get to such and such" arrogance
Ask where is the nearest ATM arrogance

People in San Francisco appear to be completely stuck up. It's a much different vibe than NYC, where people are busy, but fairly grounded for the most part. There is a sense of smugness. But it's one thing to bash it, I'm more interested in where it actually comes from. San Francisco is a VERY nice and photo genic city, but there are BETTER looking cities out there. Do they simply believe they live in the best looking city? Like I'm not really understanding where the attitude is coming from. Could someone clue me in?
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Old 12-04-2013, 03:13 PM
 
Location: East Bay, San Francisco Bay Area, CA
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If you think SF is bad, have you ever visited LA?

SF is friendly by comparison.
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Old 12-04-2013, 03:17 PM
 
Location: San Francisco
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My theory is that SF infects many who live here with a compulsive desire to be "interesting" in some way. Consequently, a lot of people seem to think that their entire lives are works of performance art. For example, doing yoga (and only at the "right" yoga studios) isn't so much about the yoga, it's about *being seen* doing yoga. It's the same impulse that causes people in the hilliest city in the US to ride absurdly inappropriate fixie bikes.

So when you interrupt their ongoing performance of "My Life, A Play In 58,982 Exquisitely Curated Acts, All Documented On Instagram" with your petty and boring demands for information or common courtesy, of course they're going to be cranky.
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Old 12-04-2013, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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I think it is a cultural thing. People do give off a smug or snobby vibe in SF, but I think a lot of times they don't even realize it. I think there has always been a presence of that vibe there. I am not sure why that is but maybe the environment and scenic surroundings bring that out in people. I think most of the time it is harmless and they don't even know they are doing it, but it can get really annoying.

Have you seen those Geico billboards around SF? The yellow billboards say "San Francisco Savings" and has the Geico gecko's face looking a little upwards, a little self-satisfied and with a somewhat smug smile. I think the ad agency picked up on that about SF because that is a classic San Francisco look! A guy with a handsome clean face, wind blown hair as if he just got back from yachting in the bay, a bit preppy looking, and looking upwards toward the sky with a smug smile. Haha. I just see it as adorable and a quirk of the city folk but of course would like to limit my interaction with those types because it can get tiresome after awhile.

Oddly, just across the bay, Oakland is like the complete opposite of that. I have never met so many down to earth, grounded people in one place in my life!
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Old 12-04-2013, 03:27 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I'm sorry all that happened to you, OP. I'm not that way at all when I'm in SF. The few friends of mine who still live there, barely maintaining a toehold in the City, aren't like that. But I guess they're from a bygone era. It didn't used to be like that. SF used to be, in part, a city of jazz musicians, poets, and working-class types. I guess a lot of 'em are in Oakland now.

Where did most of this happen, downtown? Get out into the neighborhoods. You should notice a difference, depending on the neighborhood.
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Old 12-04-2013, 04:12 PM
 
Location: San Francisco, CA
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My theory is that SF infects many who live here with a compulsive desire to be "interesting" in some way. Consequently, a lot of people seem to think that their entire lives are works of performance art. For example, doing yoga (and only at the "right" yoga studios) isn't so much about the yoga, it's about *being seen* doing yoga. It's the same impulse that causes people in the hilliest city in the US to ride absurdly inappropriate fixie bikes.

So when you interrupt their ongoing performance of "My Life, A Play In 58,982 Exquisitely Curated Acts, All Documented On Instagram" with your petty and boring demands for information or common courtesy, of course they're going to be cranky.
lol... there is some validity to this.
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Old 12-04-2013, 04:27 PM
 
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I go to a resturaunt -arrogance
I go to starbucks - arrogance
I walk past someone and say "excuse me" arrogance
Ask "how do I get to such and such" arrogance
Ask where is the nearest ATM arrogance
I flat out don't buy it. I work in a very touristy district and I've been approached with questions and seen plenty of other locals got asked questions and I never seen anything close to what you described.

When I first moved to the city, my absent minded brain caused me to left my ATM card at the machine and this guy who was behind me ran after me for two blocks to return my card. I've seen pedestrian who stopped and help a truck driver parallel park a tight space. I've seen plenty of rudeness and craziness for sure, there also a lot of kindness. SF is not that different from other cities, I just don't buy than it's any more rude that others. Maybe you just have bad luck with people.
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Old 12-04-2013, 04:32 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
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I flat out don't buy it. I work in a very touristy district and I've been approached with questions and seen plenty of other locals got asked questions and I never seen anything close to what you described.

When I first moved to the city, my absent minded brain caused me to left my ATM card at the machine and this guy who was behind me ran after me for two blocks to return my card. I've seen pedestrian who stopped and help a truck driver parallel park a tight space. I've seen plenty of rudeness and craziness for sure, there also a lot of kindness. SF is not that different from other cities, I just don't buy than it's any more rude that others. Maybe you just have bad luck with people.
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I never said it was rude, I said it was snobby. I don't see them as one in the same. NY, DC, Atlanta are RUDE. San Francisco just seems snobby and stuck up.
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Old 12-04-2013, 04:42 PM
 
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Old 12-04-2013, 05:17 PM
 
Location: Boulder Creek, CA
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I got a week off for Thanksgiving, and I decided to take that time to see San Francisco. Boy, did I not like what I saw.
Maybe everybody was stressed out after being around the family during the holiday. Weather gets colder right around then, too. Might have different results at a more normal time of year (maybe you ran into locals who had their fill of tourists during that week).

You didn't say "Frisco" to any of them, did you?
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