Where do the hot girls live in the Bay Area ?? (San Diego: transplants, move)

[ttocs99]

This is the craziest thread on this message board. It takes a while to become less shallow, it's a learned process. Looks aren't the end all be all. When I was younger, all I'd go after was super model quality women, I was so shallow. And though I was probably what you would call a 6 or 7, my confidence is through the roof. Why would anyone NOT have confidence, unless you are a real jerk (was gonna use another word), you have worth, you are a good person, you should have a ****load of confidence, because you have a lot to offer other people. Anyway, I'd go after super models, and I didn't care about the ratio of rejection to sucess, If I dated 1 out of 100, that was fine for me, as long as I was dating 9's or 10's. BUT, a ton of these women, were so full of themselves, and such jerks who had nothing else to offer but physical beauty, I found myself getting frustrated by the situation.

Then at age 25, I met the coolest women I had ever met to that point, and she was definitely not a 9 or 10. She was more like a 6 or 7. But man was she awesome, she was cool, she was funny, she was ultra smart, she was cute, and sexy (most of that was attitude and the way she acted), she was thoughtful and sweet, and man did that open my eyes. She was the total package. But most shallow guys might not even look her way. That's when I realized, what a ******* I had been most of my adult life, and changed my ways asap. Now, to me, a confident, smart, funny, thoughtful, caring woman is very sexy in my book. Those type of people are very hard to find.

And by the way, some very shallow women out there as well. When I moved back to NYC, I was overweight due to going through a divorce, I didn't want to talk to a woman for a year. Well I finally decided to get healthy, lost 65 pounds, and boy did some women's attitude's towards me change. I remember a woman smiling at me, giving me heavy eye contact, while walking with her boyfriend/husband. I had women approach me, because I was looking pretty good, and it was all because of looks, not because I'm a great guy (I am, lol).

[HockeyMac18]

Originally Posted by rah

A lot of you sound delusional. It's weird. There are lots of good looking and ugly people here, just like everywhere else that is populated by humans. And no one part of the Bay Area has a total monopoly on good looking people of a certain type.

I just walked through Oakland yesterday, took BART to SF, and was there for several hours. I saw many attractive people of various races/ages/sexes/sizes in both cities (more black people in Oakland of course, and more Asians in SF...but like I said, no total monopoly). And I saw many ugly and completely average people too. Which isn't exactly surprising, if you're not blind, don't have ridiculous unrealistic standards, and have lived around other people ever in your life (and are thus used to the concept that not everyone is a "10"). I guess this thread just proves that a lot of people only see what they want or expect to see (based on their emotions or misconceptions).

Here's a theory that might explain some people with this mindset though: in places with hotter climates, people tend to wear less clothing. That means their bodies are on display more often when compared to a place that's colder. So if you're used to living in a place that's say, constantly 70-90 degrees, you're used to seeing a bunch of people in short shorts, dresses, tank tops, without shirts on, etc. That draws your eye, and you go "Damn, that person is sexy!" But if you take that same person that caught your eye, and put them in jeans and a sweatshirt instead, suddenly you're less likely to notice them. So then you go to a place with a cooler climate, where people are more likely to bundle up, and you start claiming that there are way fewer good looking people around. It's not really true though, there's just less cleavage/ass/muscle catching your attention, because it's covered up.

Alternate theory: you aren't attracted to Asians or some other race or ethnicity that's in an area in disproportionately high numbers, and have decided that your personal opinion is fact.

Pretty much this post. I don't really get these threads, they're always so ridiculous (and entertaining) when they come up.

People are people...are people. Pretty much the same everywhere. Also think there are plenty of really attractive girls here, so don't really know what the OP is going on about. By the natural law of averages, there are always going to be more average looking people than "good" looking people. Just the way it is. It's the same pretty much everywhere. I don't notice a difference in this from my time living in NY or Boston, or other parts of the country.

And if you describe girls by a number, you're pretty much letting everyone that you're a douche. Not that this matters on the internet...because it's the internet (where you're free to do whatever you want in anonymity). But I suspect this "douchiness" spills out into real life, and isn't a good look for anyone.

[BodegaHead]

All the hot girls are priced out of the Bay area.
The few that aren't are living with their boyfriend to afford it, looking to date only guys with enough $ to afford it here or they are lesbians.

[Dave Coe]

Originally Posted by BodegaHead

All the hot girls are priced out of the Bay area.
The few that aren't are living with their boyfriend to afford it, looking to date only guys with enough $ to afford it here or they are lesbians.

Generally wealthy and expensive areas tend to have more attractive women. NY is full of young rich women living off their parents. A lot of them grow up in wealthy suburbs but leave for cities when they are older.

[rah]

Originally Posted by BodegaHead

All the hot girls are priced out of the Bay area.

Nope, not true.

Originally Posted by BodegaHead

The few that aren't are living with their boyfriend to afford it, looking to date only guys with enough $ to afford it here or they are lesbians.

That's some good acid you dropped. How many leprechauns did you have to question to come to that conclusion?

[BodegaHead]

Doesn't matter, they're priced out of SF, LOL.
Actually a lot of the attractive girls that grow up in the Bay Area that I've met over the years all moved down to SoCal or somewhere else. If you want that NYC effect you're talking about its like that here but they all moved to LA,OC & Diego.

[BodegaHead]

Originally Posted by rah

Nope, not true.



That's some good acid you dropped. How many leprechauns did you have to question to come to that conclusion?

3 Leprechauns & 1 fat chick that thought she was a 9

[Dave Coe]

Originally Posted by BodegaHead

Doesn't matter, they're priced out of SF, LOL.
Actually a lot of the attractive girls that grow up in the Bay Area that I've met over the years all moved down to SoCal or somewhere else. If you want that NYC effect you're talking about its like that here but they all moved to LA,OC & Diego.

LA just attracts a lot of superficial materialistic people. The Bay Area does to but with LA the obnoxious materialism is so over the top and in your face.

[jessemh431]

Originally Posted by Dave Coe

LA just attracts a lot of superficial materialistic people. The Bay Area does to but with LA the obnoxious materialism is so over the top and in your face.

Sorry we like to look good and wear nice clothes and drive nice cars? What's so bad about liking nice things? The Bay could learn a thing or two from LA in that category. There's a reason why this thread exists in the SF Subforum, and not the LA one.

[treedroppings]

They are both so $$$ oriented!