What's life like for a youngish African American male in SFO? (San Francisco: transplants, home)

[Darkonesun]

Originally Posted by City Boy

To the brotha at Cal State Hayward. I can tell that school is full of racists, a friend of mine went there for graduate school and wrote his dissertation on the media portrayal of Blacks. These two racists professors in the anthropology department told him to do it over because it's biased and is anti white. It took him an extra year to get his degree because of this. Those two professors are the writers of prop 209 that ended up banning affirmative action. They believe in the bell curve and feel that blacks have no right to complain about racism. You should have gone to SF state I don't advise anybody to go there.

That may be why I am having so many problems man, most of my time is spent a Cal State Hayward, except for this semester; however. That school has literally depressed the **** out of me man. It's hard to focus when you have things happening to you like racist Asian chicks saying stuff out loud like: "Would you date a black guy? No way!!" "Racist white women saying stuff like: "Negro at 6:10" when you are coming their way, I had this happen to me during the spring semester when I was walking to my car from the North Science building. I mean this white ***** said this **** for nothing man; absolutely nothing. Her and her Arab friend just started insulting me out the blue for nothing at all. This is commonplace in the bay. No manners whatsoever.

Women out here who act as if they are scared to death if you even look their way as a black man. I mean the **** is just crazy. I never went through this much **** back in VA. I can't believe I have even been out here this long--11 years.

Snobby, snooty ass black women who try to throw it in your face when they are with white or non-black boyfriend--even when you aren't paying attention to them whatsoever. I mean, I go through **** almost EVERY day on that campus. It is just CRAZY how much **** that I have been through.

Also, can somebody please explain what is UP with black women out here? Why does it seem like damn near 90% of them have some type of attitude towards black men out here; and every time they are with a non-black man, they do everything in their power to get some black man to notice them? Living out here in California has really made me dislike black women. California black women seem really self-hating and evil. They seem to be only black in skin, but nothing else.

I have gone through so much stuff since I have moved out here that it isn't even funny man. Too damn much. That is why I can relate to what UrbanQuest is talking about. He is only half-black and sees the ****. I am full-black, and catching pure-d hell in the bay area. It has totally affected my life in the worst way living out here.

Every black man that I talked to is gearing up to leave this place. I am talking, EVERY DAMN ONE OF THEM. They all hate it man. Out here, from what I have seen, even if you are a nice-looking clean-cut black man, the woman still don't want to date you. Maybe it is the school that I attend, I really don't know. I get tired of everywhere I go, people always grimacing and frowning up when they see a black male--unless your ass is sweeter than a damn pack of Cane Sugar and ****. You have to absolutely show that you don't have a damn heterosexual heartbeat whatsoever before people loosen up--especially women--and I ain't trying to do that. I am a man. You get tired of it. You can't even look straight at people without them tripping. I mean I don't know what in the hell the deal is with people out here.

About Cal State Hayward, you are right. That school is so racist it will turn your damn hair white going to school there; however, it seems only be that way if you are a black male. It's crazy how it is that way. Also, what is up with women and this cell-phone bull****? There is a culture out here where women will pull this cell-phone, sun-glasses, pull the hoodie over the head routine--particularly, this 20-something generation--when they think a man is coming their way that they aren't interested in or some other bull****? Why in the hell are women out here so damn EDGY all the time?

I have had some very, very, ugly encounters with the women out here; and the majority of the damn time, I wasn't even interested in them AT ALL. I am a smiley face guy, but I have learned that you can't even smile at anybody out here; especially women. If you smile at them, you want them, if you try to be nice and talk to them, you want them. They always think your black ass wants them. You can't convince them OTHERWISE man!!!

Anyway, like I said, I can totally relate to what UrbanQuest was saying.

Later,

[Darkonesun]

Originally Posted by Snooters

I'm half-black and moving there in a couple months, and you're starting to freak me out.

You may have a much better time here though bruh. Especially, if you don't really look black out here. You will have the time of your life; but you will probably hear everybody talking about black people when they don't think any black people are around. At least the women will date you out here. I think that half-blacks are more palatable to people out here than full-black males.

In my opinion, there seems to be a strong disdain for black males out here man. I can't speak for other parts of Cali, only the Bay area. In the Bay Area, everybody is included but black men. That is what I have seen. Of course everybody experiences racism, but it ain't the same. You get it from ALL sides out here dude. That's the problem. As black men, you kind of expect to experience some racism in your life. I experienced quite a bit of it in the south. However, it wasn't like it was a damn system there. It was basically coming from one direction: whites. The thing about it, is that the racism on the east coast was DIRECT. You could actually confront it, and not only that it wasn't happening to you all the time. You could catch a damn break. That is why it didn't affect me that much.

It really didn't affect me like it did out here. The racism out here is coming at you from ALL directions. I am talking whites, Asians, Indians, Hispanics--to a much lesser extent--Arabs, black women, they all have nasty ass oppressive attitudes towards black men here. They ALL think that they are up above you; especially, if you are perceived to be a young black male. Living out here, you almost wish your ass was an old black man; because they seem to be the only type of black men that people leave the hell alone. Cali has a class/caste system. If you come out here, you better get used to it. However, the caste system out here is dependant on HOW YOU LOOK. If you look anything but BLACK, you won't have a problem out here.

The racism out here isn't evenly distributed. Black males out here experience a damn disproportionate amount of hatred from people. Some of it is understandable, don't get me wrong now. As you do have a criminal element that does exist in Oakland.

However, I live in Oakland, and it isn't as bad as people try to make it out to be. It depends on what part you live in. I live around Lake Merrit; one of the best parts in Oakland next to the Oakland Hills. I have definitely experienced my car being broken into several times, but I haven't had any static with other black men at all since I have lived out here. All of my problems have come from EVERY OTHER GROUP OF PEOPLE. Put it like this, I would rather live my black ass in Oakland, than be a black man in Brentwood, or Antioch. I have heard stories about how racist that place is towards blacks.

Anyway, I thought that I would give you a heads up.

Later,

[Darkonesun]

Originally Posted by Nella925

hmm I still dont think it is worse than other places. To me it has gotten better, but of course you'll have people who's mind is still stuck in the 60's

It has gotten better for black women over these past 10 years. I have even noticed that. At first, black women were catching it as bad as black men were out here back when I first moved out here. All blacks were looked down upon in a major way. Back when I first came out here in '97, black women's attitudes were ALOT nicer than they are now. I mean ALOT nicer. Black women were actually sweet back then.Even the ones who dated outside their race didn't seem to have any real malice towards black men.

However, I have noticed a very ugly attitude change in the black women out here that has taken place over the past 10 years towards black men. This nasty attitude change seems to have simultaneously coincided with the pushing of WM/BW relationships in the media also. It also seems that society is lifting up black women OVER black men by glamorizing all of your successes while talking about us being total failures. And alot of the things that people are saying ABOUT black men have come straight from black women's mouths. Alot of black men have noticed this change too; particularly with this new generation of black women coming up now.

This is the generation that I am currently going to school with; I dub this generation, the "Something New" generation; because they don't seem to care too much for non-thuggish black men AT ALL. It is either some thuggish clown, or they don't want to mess with a black man AT ALL. I don't like this new attitude in alot of black women.

It wasn't like that whatsoever when I first came out here 10 years ago. Somehow, this generation necessarily believes that black man ain't worth a damn from the jump street. That is why I asked what is up with black women these days; because something is REALLY up with them the way they are hating on black men.

From what I have seen, black women's social status has kind of been bumped up at the expense of the ain't **** black man. Black women have basically blamed all the problems of the black community on us. We are seen as the poster-child for all the faults of the black community. When in truth, you all are just as much to blame as us; however, nobody sees that. We just get blamed for every damn thing; when many black men ain't doing a damn thing wrong at all.

That is what is so frustrating about living in California; you can be a decent black man, but nobody even knows that you are alive. I even heard a black woman say that black men in California are blase' so to speak; because alot of these men of other races act so much like a damn black man that women can just negate black men and date them minus the stigma of being with a "negro".

You would be surprised at the things I have heard alot of these women say about black guys out here. I have heard Asian women say **** like: "Who wants a black guy anyway?" I have seen a black girl walking with her latina friend, and upon seeing me, say stuff like: "Black guys are played", and they both start laughing.

I am telling, it has been a damn hatefest for black guys out here, while black women are being accepted, black men are being REJECTED; and that sh*t ain't right.

Later,

[sonarrat]

Originally Posted by Darkonesun

That may be why I am having so many problems man, most of my time is spent a Cal State Hayward, except for this semester; however. That school has literally depressed the **** out of me man. It's hard to focus when you have things happening to you like racist Asian chicks saying stuff out loud like: "Would you date a black guy? No way!!" "Racist white women saying stuff like: "Negro at 6:10" when you are coming their way, I had this happen to me during the spring semester when I was walking to my car from the North Science building. I mean this white ***** said this **** for nothing man; absolutely nothing. Her and her Arab friend just started insulting me out the blue for nothing at all. This is commonplace in the bay. No manners whatsoever.

I wonder if this is a college or maybe even an East Bay thing. I never noticed it at SJSU, or on the peninsula either. Then again I have never lived in the East Bay, unless you count a quiet neighborhood in the foothills of Milpitas. In any of the areas I've lived, if you dress like a punk and act like a punk, then people will treat you like a punk. Doesn't matter if you're white, brown or some Simpsons pastel color. If you dress at least halfway decent and act respectful, then you'll encounter a lot less resistance. Maybe the East Bay is different. I don't know.

[Joe Bama!]

Originally Posted by Darkonesun

It has gotten better for black women over these past 10 years. I have even noticed that. At first, black women were catching it as bad as black men were out here back when I first moved out here. All blacks were looked down upon in a major way. Back when I first came out here in '97, black women's attitudes were ALOT nicer than they are now. I mean ALOT nicer. Black women were actually sweet back then.Even the ones who dated outside their race didn't seem to have any real malice towards black men.

However, I have noticed a very ugly attitude change in the black women out here that has taken place over the past 10 years towards black men. This nasty attitude change seems to have simultaneously coincided with the pushing of WM/BW relationships in the media also. It also seems that society is lifting up black women OVER black men by glamorizing all of your successes while talking about us being total failures. And alot of the things that people are saying ABOUT black men have come straight from black women's mouths. Alot of black men have noticed this change too; particularly with this new generation of black women coming up now.

This is the generation that I am currently going to school with; I dub this generation, the "Something New" generation; because they don't seem to care too much for non-thuggish black men AT ALL. It is either some thuggish clown, or they don't want to mess with a black man AT ALL. I don't like this new attitude in alot of black women.

It wasn't like that whatsoever when I first came out here 10 years ago. Somehow, this generation necessarily believes that black man ain't worth a damn from the jump street. That is why I asked what is up with black women these days; because something is REALLY up with them the way they are hating on black men.

From what I have seen, black women's social status has kind of been bumped up at the expense of the ain't **** black man. Black women have basically blamed all the problems of the black community on us. We are seen as the poster-child for all the faults of the black community. When in truth, you all are just as much to blame as us; however, nobody sees that. We just get blamed for every damn thing; when many black men ain't doing a damn thing wrong at all.

That is what is so frustrating about living in California; you can be a decent black man, but nobody even knows that you are alive. I even heard a black woman say that black men in California are blase' so to speak; because alot of these men of other races act so much like a damn black man that women can just negate black men and date them minus the stigma of being with a "negro".

You would be surprised at the things I have heard alot of these women say about black guys out here. I have heard Asian women say **** like: "Who wants a black guy anyway?" I have seen a black girl walking with her latina friend, and upon seeing me, say stuff like: "Black guys are played", and they both start laughing.

I am telling, it has been a damn hatefest for black guys out here, while black women are being accepted, black men are being REJECTED; and that sh*t ain't right.

Later,

America.

[Darkonesun]

Originally Posted by sonarrat

I wonder if this is a college or maybe even an East Bay thing. I never noticed it at SJSU, or on the peninsula either. Then again I have never lived in the East Bay, unless you count a quiet neighborhood in the foothills of Milpitas. In any of the areas I've lived, if you dress like a punk and act like a punk, then people will treat you like a punk. Doesn't matter if you're white, brown or some Simpsons pastel color. If you dress at least halfway decent and act respectful, then you'll encounter a lot less resistance. Maybe the East Bay is different. I don't know.

I think that it may be an EastBay thing, but why? What makes the EastBay so different from everywhere else? Can you explain that to me? Also, are there any black man who are living anywhere else around the bay where things are actually cool for a black male? Because they are NOT cool where I live.

Later,

[maaci]

Originally Posted by Snooters

I'm half-black and moving there in a couple months, and you're starting to freak me out.

I am full black, moving out there in 3 weeks and I agree this conversation is freaking me out as well. I have a young son, that hasn't experienced much racism besides the occasional school yard brat. He is already extremely upset about moving, I am really hoping that this will be a smooth transition for him. My brother currently lives in Southern California and swears that racisms doesn't exist in California. I knew that he was missing something.

[Darkonesun]

Originally Posted by maaci

I am full black, moving out there in 3 weeks and I agree this conversation is freaking me out as well. I have a young son, that hasn't experienced much racism besides the occasional school yard brat. He is already extremely upset about moving, I am really hoping that this will be a smooth transition for him. My brother currently lives in Southern California and swears that racisms doesn't exist in California. I knew that he was missing something.

I would take a long visit here before relocating. I am just here to tell you. You may not see it at first. The Bay Area's beauty will fool you. You will be sucked in by all the diversity and all of that mess. You won't see anything at first. However, over time, you will immediately start becoming real tense living out here. There is a very tense vibe out here. People are always uptight. When you look to speak to people, most of the time, they ain't going to speak back to you. I am primarily talking about the East Bay where I have l lived.

After awhile, you will start beginning to see how others view black males out here; and you will start to look down on them. I know that doesn't surprise most people, but you will quickly see what I mean. You will start doing so yourself after awhile; it is just part of the Bay Area Culture.

The number of homeless black men out here, especially in Oakland, is just off the hook. I am just telling you the truth. Your biggest problem will probably be learning how to deal with other black women; because they are a trip out here. California black women are something else. I don't care for them at all. They are not like black women from the South. You might wind up very lonely out here too, because people in the Bay are VERY cliquish and to themselves. You have to be EXTREMELY extroverted to really make a way for yourself out here if you want to make friends and stuff; because people out here simply ARE NOT FRIENDLY AT ALL.

They are quick to latch on to you for what they need; acting like they are your friend, but when your usefulness has ran out, they will discard you faster than a old pair of shoes. That is just the way it is.

It is extremely rare to see a black family out here; much less a black couple. It don't seem like black men OR women like each other too much out here. It can really bother you after awhile. People say that is progressive due to all the IR couples but it doesn't really feel progressive to me when I can't even speak to the other half of my race without feeling like I am consorting with the damn enemy.

This is the only place where I have seen where you can have a damn enthralling conversation with somebody, and see that same person elsewhere, and they will act like they don't even know you; especially if you are black. It is very classist out here; and it has a racist Eastern feel to it from all of these immigrants coming over here from racist subcultures.

You will probably fare well; but not your son; particularly if he is a little black male. He may not encounter too many problems if he is little, but if he is a teenage boy, he is going to catch it out here. I am just telling you.

I think that black women have a much easier time out here than black men do. At least from my observation. Black men out here are TREATED AS CONSTANT OBJECTS OF FEAR. Like I said, as a black man, that kind of comes with the territory, but not like this though. The sneers and looks of disgust are a little ridiculous. The constant patting off the pockets, clutching of the purses, and **** just starts to get on your nerves after awhile. You realize these people aren't doing it because they are scared, but because they are trying to make you feel like a damn criminal. It's a way to keep you in your "n****r" place.

I rarely ever experienced that type of **** growing up in the south. However, the south was segregated. However, the whites still didn't quite act like they do out here. These California whites are racist as hell; but they try to feign like they aren't. They are racist as hell; trust me on that one. Don't even get a damn position up over these other races, or they will give you HELL if you are black.

Well, the good thing is, as a black woman, these men of other races have no problem running up on you. You can date a white man without getting too many looks or stares. I can't really gauge the motives of these other men, but you can date out pretty openly without getting too much crap from people.

Personally, I am sick of this fake liberal place. I have had it as black man living out here. And unless something really changes. I am gone, if I can SURVIVE long enough to get my damn degree without being overridden with anger.

Wish you luck.

Later,

[UrbanQuest]

Originally Posted by Darkonesun

Hello Urbanquest, I absolutely AGREE with everything you say man. I have been here for 10 years, and everything you say CONTINUES to happen to me as a black male living in the bay area. I live in Oakland. I am just trying to finish getting my education so that I can get OUT of this nutty place. The amount of **** that black men deal with out here is absolutely ASTONISHING. Black men are blatantly insulted out here and everything. I am a current college student who attends school at CSU Hayward, and man, the **** that I go through on that college campus from these ignorant ass other races--and self-hating black women--would turn your damn hair white. I mean black men out here are just seen as subhuman, and treated as such. Nobody cares about your ass out here. Everybody thinks that they are up above you; and I do mean EVERYBODY. Black women out here don't even like BLACK GUYS, and the only types of black guys that they will even talk to is thug n****s, so that brother better get used to that reality. If they don't want a black thug, most of them don't like black men AT ALL; no matter how good he is. They see black men out here who are trying to do something with their lives as COMPETITION. Black men are very oppressed out here.


Every black man I know who came here to the Bay from somewhere else wants to leave because of how racist it is towards black men. And if that cat thinks that he is going to have all of these options on women, he may as well forget it. Most women won't even date a black male out here; no matter how cute he is, or how well-dressed he is. I am just telling the truth. Women in the bay simply DO NOT LIKE BLACK GUYS. I have talked to black men who came out here from as far as Philadelphia and Texas. They have all said the same thing. Something is wrong with this place. It is like everybody out here has got something terribly against the black man out here. If you are anything else, you will have the time of your life; but not if you are a black male. I am here to tell you; and I am pretty nice looking guy. I should've never had the trouble and **** that I had out here.

The only reason why black women like it out here is because they encounter blatant racism far less and they have all of these other men chasing after them. He shouldn't ask a black woman what she thinks because she will only give him a perspective from her limited female view. The Bay Area is better for black women than it is for black men. That is the honest truth. I have even made YouTube videos about this place. There is not a day that goes by that I am not slighted horribly in some way by these *******s out here. These people on this thread are not telling the damn truth at all. They are trying to treat racism in the bay as if it doesn't exist; and they are lying. It is more racist than the damn south. I came from the south, and I NEVER experienced the things that I experienced out here.

It has not changed bruh. I have been here since 1997, and this place has got to be one of the most racist places I have ever lived; especially if you are a black male. I can't believe these people are trying to make this place out to be some liberal bastion. If that brother comes out here, he better get used to seeing people grimacing at his ass all the time and patting their pockets CONSTANTLY upon seeing a black man's face. He better get used to dealing with racist ass asians, arabs, indians, and whites. He better get used to seeing women RUN from him and all of this other ****. I am telling you; that's how it is out here. They only see black men under the guise of stereotypes; and that is the ONLY way they want to see black men. If you are anything other than what they think that you should be, they will try to FORCE you to be how they think you should be by insulting you, discriminating against you, and everything else; especially this 20-something generation we have now.

That brother better bring a woman with him, because unless he has got alot of money, he won't be getting one out here; I can tell you that. He may be able to get sex, but a relationship is a totally different matter entirely.

They are telling that brother LIES; and I really don't know why. If you are a black male, straight up, the bay area is NOT for you. You may not see it when you first get here, but you will soon enough. Let him stay for about a year or so; I am telling you. I thought the same thing when I first visited the bay area from Virginia; and now I regret the fact that I ever moved here. I have had experiences out here that were so bad that I have been going in and out of depression for 10 years.

It never ends man. It has been a real struggle living out here.

You speak the truth dude.

Later,

LET THE TRUTH BE TOLD WHITE WASHERS....
The crap I listed is just the tip of the iceberg of the racist/intolerant onslaught I had to endure in the Bay Area. Your bringing up of black women is something I totally forgot about. They obviously seem to notice how everyone else has jumped on the (crush the black man) bandwagon and they figure they better jump on it to or have to deal with it themselves. I pray that there could be a million man march leading from the Richmond District to the embarcadero (through the heart of chinatown and Russian Hill). Then continuing in Oakland right up the hill to Montclair ending with a gala at the Claremont Hotel. My Puerto Rican look was not known there and I suppose they thought I was a light skinned black or maybe even an illegal. LoLoLo... Black males need to either go all out and challenge every single messed up experience they have there with some serious volume, or maybe about a 1/2 a million to 1 million black men from the east coast need to roll up and teach respect. They would roll over those ignorant **** sticks in a second. I assume all the hurt egoes and absolute displacement of reality for the real racist pricks will cause some serious splash under the golden gate bridge. And I totally feel you when you talked about dealing with this crap with multiple instances on a daily basis. You almost dreaded what animalistic responses you would get on any particular day. Sometimes you had to ponder and even wager to yourself (racism today: 2 asians, 3 whites, 1 black female and the Mexicans are in their own world but if pressed have no problem expressing their hatred for those negros. Damn Bay Area, wtf...... Maybe you need some racial tolerance advice from the god ol boys in North Carolina.....

Oh, and btw, blacks have no problems in Bensonhurst in this day and age. I was just there and the Italian dude at the pizza place I ate was blasting rap music and flirting with a black women who came in. Full of Asians and Russians now anyway. (maybe only 1/3 Italian now).

[Darkonesun]

Originally Posted by UrbanQuest

LET THE TRUTH BE TOLD WHITE WASHERS....
The crap I listed is just the tip of the iceberg of the racist/intolerant onslaught I had to endure in the Bay Area. Your bringing up of black women is something I totally forgot about. They obviously seem to notice how everyone else has jumped on the (crush the black man) bandwagon and they figure they better jump on it to or have to deal with it themselves. I pray that there could be a million man march leading from the Richmond District to the embarcadero (through the heart of chinatown and Russian Hill). Then continuing in Oakland right up the hill to Montclair ending with a gala at the Claremont Hotel. My Puerto Rican look was not known there and I suppose they thought I was a light skinned black or maybe even an illegal. LoLoLo... Black males need to either go all out and challenge every single messed up experience they have there with some serious volume, or maybe about a 1/2 a million to 1 million black men from the east coast need to roll up and teach respect. They would roll over those ignorant **** sticks in a second. I assume all the hurt egoes and absolute displacement of reality for the real racist pricks will cause some serious splash under the golden gate bridge. And I totally feel you when you talked about dealing with this crap with multiple instances on a daily basis. You almost dreaded what animalistic responses you would get on any particular day. Sometimes you had to ponder and even wager to yourself (racism today: 2 asians, 3 whites, 1 black female and the Mexicans are in their own world but if pressed have no problem expressing their hatred for those negros. Damn Bay Area, wtf...... Maybe you need some racial tolerance advice from the god ol boys in North Carolina.....

Oh, and btw, blacks have no problems in Bensonhurst in this day and age. I was just there and the Italian dude at the pizza place I ate was blasting rap music and flirting with a black women who came in. Full of Asians and Russians now anyway. (maybe only 1/3 Italian now).

Exactly bruh. Man, black women out here, I just don't even know what to think about them. No wait, maybe I do; they think that they are white out here. The Native Cali Black Women Are Just LOST!!! No sense of black consciousness whatsoever!! Black men talk trash about them all the time, about how messed up they are, and how they only date white or non-black guys; and I will be damned if it ain't true from my experience with them. I ain't tripping off of the IR dating, but these women clearly hate themselves and their blackness. They are really disconnected out here.

I have even noticed how people of all races will talk to a black woman but treat a black man like a damn monster out here; even a well-dressed one. I am just going to tell you the truth, the Bay Area is one place that I don't think black men can really win in man. We are some strong mofos, but this s**t is just too much for the strongest of black men dude. That is why you have so much black flight from the state of Cali. It ain't really the cost of living that is causing blacks to leave the place. It's RACISM. Hell, I live in a good part of Oakland, and I still want to leave Cali. I have had enough of this place.

I am just trying to WARN other black men as to what to expect. I am simply telling them: DON'T MOVE HERE. Black women, they may be okay here; but YOU WON'T BE. You won't be able to handle the s**t man. I am just telling you. The racism out here is subtle and very unwelcoming, and it is CONSTANT. No breaks, no chance to recuperate. It's all the damn time. You are CONSTANTLY LOOKED DOWN ON BY PEOPLE. You are constantly treated like an inferior out here. It is that eastern racism; the kind that exists in India, and China and s**t.

It pisses me off how people on this thread keep trying to act like racism ain't no big deal here; classical of the mentality of Native Californians; they like to think of themselves as progressive and enlightened, when they are really closet Nazi's. Number one these fools keep trying to act like racism doesn't exist out here--even the misguided blacks, and I am like GTFOH; especially the black men who try to act like this place ain't racist, and the are main recipients of everybody's **** out here--and they are fooling themselves like hell; but they aren't fooling other black men. I have been outside of California, trust me, there is better out there. This place ain't it.

Everybody wants to keep believing that the Bay Area is this liberal bastion, but the Bay has changed for the worse due to all of these damn immigrants who automatically think that they are number 2 at white man's dinner table. Many of these other races are worst than whites in their bigotry towards blacks, really wearing you down. I don't see things changing any time soon. It hasn't changed in the 11 years that I have been here.

They come OVER here thinking that they are better than blacks; and the problem is, is that ALL of them have this s****y belief; and the primary targets of their delusional bull**** are black men. Black women ONLY get it when WE aren't AROUND. We get it all the damn time. That is why you see so many black men broken down in Oakland. They have just given up out here man. It is too much, and people try to outright say there isn't a problem. It causes you to develop mental illness. You are experiencing one thing, and people are constantly TELLING you that you are not experiencing what you are going through. Black men just need to accept that the Bay Area ain't for you and get the hell out of it. Damn the IR couples; damn the exotic women, because if you don't have any MONEY, they have absolutely NO TIME for your black ass.

I see how many of these women truly feel about black men on the come up; and let me tell you, I wouldn't touch none of these racist women with another man's d**k. Their attitudes are just EVIL towards black men out here; especially on my campus. Whew Lord!! These cats BETTER stay having a damn high-paying job out here, because if you ever fall on hard times, the women out here WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND. Many of them already have a low opinion of black men out here to begin with; and that includes black women too. They will leave your black ass with the quickness if you can no longer afford their big willie lifestyle. There is no true love in this place.

I recommend the upwardly mobile black men to cut their losses and move on; because you will never feel a part of things here. I haven't since I have been here, and other black men haven't either.

That is why I am leaving after I finish my undergrad. Alot of these black women better be careful out here; because they are joining against black men causing all the black men to leave this place. If we leave, THEY will be left here to deal with all of this bull**** that black men are encountering.

My mother goes through IT ALL THE TIME on her job; because she is in a high position over a bunch of non-blacks; and they resent her for it. They don't want to see blacks in power out here AT ALL. They only want to see you downtrodden out here; especially the black man. They automatically go into oppressor mode if they think that you are a black male who has his **** together. They hate to see a n****r with anything going for himself out here.

I go through at at school because I am these high-level classes trying to get my BS in Computer Science. When I was Calculus III, I was getting major attitude from some of the whites and Asians in my class. They think that blacks are STUPID, and that we are all shooting each other in East Oakland. They will even try to subtly discourage a black if they think that you are on the winning trail. I mean, the things that I have gone through are just utterly amazing. I am in these high-level classes competing against Asians, Indians, and Whites with no former background, and sick as hell, and battling racism. I am pain all day due to health problems.

Personally, I want to move somewhere where there is a sizable black population that are doing DECENT. Or better yet, I just want to move somewhere else entirely altogether. Do you have any recommendations bruh? I can only imagine the **** that I will get in corporate America from these fools; and I am prepared to deal with that, but I HAVE to be able to live somewhere where A.) The women are cool. B.) The community is cool. C.) A place that is hospitable towards black men. D.) A place where people are friendly.

Later,