We’ve lived in Oakland for 10 years now, but now that we have kids we’re ready for a change. The public school issues, crime, etc. are starting to get to us, as well as the commute time for my husband who works in the Hamilton Field area of Novato (I telecommute). We’ve been considering moving to Novato (even when my husband worked in SF). I’ve checked out some schools (Pleasant Valley, San Ramon, Rancho) and really liked them, enjoyed the parents I met, and it fits our home price range.
One of my nagging concerns is this: I grew up in Antioch and since my parents still live there I've seen what's happened there the last few years with overbuilding, Section 8 abuse, crime, etc. With so much open space in Novato, how much new housing is planned? I’m anxious to avoid the Antioch scenario.
The other consideration I have is, by the time we were in high school in Antioch we were bored and felt isolated from exciting places like Berkeley…Do older kids in Novato feel like that? I know kids can always find fault with any place they live

. But seems like its proximity to lower Marin/San Rafael, Petaluma provides a lot of options whereas Antioch really was geographically pretty isolated.
We’ve also considered San Rafael, the Dixie district, but seems like the public high school Dixie feeds to (Terra Linda) is not as good as Novato high schools. Although who knows by the time our kids are that age. Does that area have the nice community vibe I sense in Novato?
Thoughts (and data) appreciated, thanks!