Need a little Advice (moving to, best, child)

[tlwharton5683]

I made a huge decision by letting my child move to SF with her father (I'm in NC). He has a very insecure girlfriend. Now, one reason I want to move to SF is to be with my child but the other reason is to get away from my cheating husband who has a child by another woman but will not stop seeing her. My child's father girlfriend treats me less than human because she thinks I didnt take care of my child very well and that I am a bad mother. Oh,yeah that I want him still. You know how it is when you listen to people and you get caught up in thinking this the best decision for you. Move to SF and win back the father. After really, thinking about how our relationship was before he left me...I don't want no more drama AND I don't want to get back with my child's father. I just want peace and quite. And moving to SF will not give me the peace and quiet I want or desperately need.

My question is would you actually jump out the frying pan straight into the fire. In nother words, I am trying to leave drama to enter into some more drama. I rather stay in NC and let my child move back to NC with me.

Help!

[tlwharton5683]

Originally Posted by tlwharton5683

I made a huge decision by letting my child move to SF with her father (I'm in NC). He has a very insecure girlfriend. Now, one reason I want to move to SF is to be with my child but the other reason is to get away from my cheating husband who has a child by another woman but will not stop seeing her. My child's father girlfriend treats me less than human because she thinks I didnt take care of my child very well and that I am a bad mother. Oh,yeah that I want him still. You know how it is when you listen to people and you get caught up in thinking this the best decision for you. Move to SF and win back the father. After really, thinking about how our relationship was before he left me...I don't want no more drama AND I don't want to get back with my child's father. I just want peace and quite. And moving to SF will not give me the peace and quiet I want or desperately need.

My question is would you actually jump out the frying pan straight into the fire. In nother words, I am trying to leave drama to enter into some more drama. I rather stay in NC and let my child move back to NC with me.

Help!

No one has to answer this post because I have made a decision. My child is better off with her father. I cant stand his girlfriend's attitude and personality. I'm getting ready to leave a 9 year marriage because of my husband's cheating and having a child out of our marriage. I do not want no more drama in my life and moving to SF will be nothing but another battlefield. I am pretty beat up from this battle. Thank you anyway for helping.

[Tallysmom]

I hope you find some peace. You are right not to jump from your fire in NC to the frying pan in SF. You need to take some time and breathe before you make any major decision other than leaving your present husband.

Good luck to you...