moving from virginia to california

[wasteland]

Thank you, STC888,
If access to a Chinese community is still important for you, it would be even more so for us who immigrated here as almost middle-aged adults. My 11-year old daughter seems to like Virginia better though she did have a chance to experience California life.
we would consider the good things in the Cupertino/Milpitas or Sunnyvale area, but we still need to weigh a lot of things out before picking anyone of them.
thank you again.

[wasteland]

Thank you, Mysticaltyger,
A lighter work pressure is important for us; and a family friendly place is also essential. There is still one more year before we can move, we'll look into different possibilities.
thank you again.

Originally Posted by mysticaltyger

I'm glad I could help. I don't know what the nursing salaries are specifically. But in general, if you are outside the technology industry, the salaries here are higher than other places but usually do NOT make up for the higher cost of living (specifically, the high cost of housing).

What would neutralize the housing problem in San Jose, and California in general, would be if they actually BUILT some!!! However, California's housing market is subject to all kinds of government restrictions, regulations, and poor incentives that create a situation where supply is never enough to meet demand.

Prices here have come down but are still very high. I believe prices in the Sacramento area have come down even more than in San Jose.

I still think Sacramento to be the more family friendly location. It does have it's drawbacks (hot summers, cooler winters). More importantly, it has higher (but not horrible) crime and the Chinese community there is smaller. Despite the drawbacks, I think the much lower housing prices would take a lot of the work pressure off and enable you to spend more time with family.

I am single with no kids, so the equation is different for me. But if I had kids I would not live in Silicon Valley (I'm not sure I'd live in CA at all to be honest).

[treedonkey]

Why is it okay for Chinese Americans to choose chinese-dominant neighborhoods when moving here, but it's racist when white people want to live in white neighborhoods? I say, stop segregating altogether, but that's just ME.

[stc888]

Originally Posted by treedonkey

Why is it okay for Chinese Americans to choose chinese-dominant neighborhoods when moving here, but it's racist when white people want to live in white neighborhoods? I say, stop segregating altogether, but that's just ME.

Get real, dude. I've known plenty of white people who prefer to live in "safe", white neighborhoods. Nobody cares where you decide to live, and nobody here said it would be racist if you want to live with other whites. Stop playing the race card, its a free country, people can move wherever they F--ing want to move to.

[treedonkey]

I'm not telling anyone where to live. It was a fair question (Dude) - and your choice of words betrays your own bad attitude.

[butlersingh]

Originally Posted by treedonkey

Why is it okay for Chinese Americans to choose chinese-dominant neighborhoods when moving here, but it's racist when white people want to live in white neighborhoods? I say, stop segregating altogether, but that's just ME.

Simply because Chinese Americans (or Asian-Americans) are a minority in US. It is very common for any minority to want to be close to people of their own ethinicity. I am originally from India, there are a lot of whites working in High-Tech in cities like Bangalore and Pune, and they always tend to stay in the same neighborhood where there are other 'whites' and they tend to visit the same clubs/restaurants where they can see familiar faces. Nothing wrong with that at all.
Also, when you are so far away from your home country, you try to latch on to anything which closely resemble your home country. There is absolutely nothing racist about it.
This is only true for the first generation immigrants. You will be surprised to see how few of second or thrid generation Asian American will actually want to move to an Asian dominated area. They would rather be in 'American' neighborhood.

[stc888]

Originally Posted by treedonkey

I'm not telling anyone where to live. It was a fair question (Dude) - and your choice of words betrays your own bad attitude.

My bad attitude??? LOL. You pretty much come in here and accuse people of being racist and you're telling me I'm the one with a bad attitude?

Thats really funny. When a minority accuses a white person of racism, its an "accusation" and they should "stop complaining". When a white person accuses a minority of racism, its a "fair question".

Your choice of words, and your attitude, betrays your own hypocrisy (dude).

Stop complaining. World's not fair. Suck it up.

[treedonkey]

Originally Posted by butlersingh

Simply because Chinese Americans (or Asian-Americans) are a minority in US. It is very common for any minority to want to be close to people of their own ethinicity. I am originally from India, there are a lot of whites working in High-Tech in cities like Bangalore and Pune, and they always tend to stay in the same neighborhood where there are other 'whites' and they tend to visit the same clubs/restaurants where they can see familiar faces. Nothing wrong with that at all.
Also, when you are so far away from your home country, you try to latch on to anything which closely resemble your home country. There is absolutely nothing racist about it.
This is only true for the first generation immigrants. You will be surprised to see how few of second or thrid generation Asian American will actually want to move to an Asian dominated area. They would rather be in 'American' neighborhood.

That sounds like a fair enough explanation, Butlersingh. Thanks. When I think about living in India, I probably would choose a US-dominant neighborhood to, if only for familiar food and customs.

[wasteland]

Originally Posted by treedonkey

Why is it okay for Chinese Americans to choose chinese-dominant neighborhoods when moving here, but it's racist when white people want to live in white neighborhoods? I say, stop segregating altogether, but that's just ME.

I don't even know that "it's racist when white people want to live in white neighborhoods"; but I do know that the culture one grows up in orients one's social behaviors: my daughter would prefer to live in this dominant white culture instead of moving to CA. People are basically the same no matter what. however, for me, a Chinese community would offer me a lot of things unavailable else where. this is not segregating. Segregating would mean you just want other people out of your world, while minority community is like you choose your family out of a large society that you still love and serve for. on the other side, white people are dominately almost every where, if you don't want other races to be with you, where do you plan to place them?

[treedonkey]

Originally Posted by wasteland

Segregating would mean you just want other people out of your world

Actually, that's not what segration means (look it up) but I understand your point.

Originally Posted by wasteland

on the other side, white people are dominately almost every where

The good news for you is that that's really just not true in the Bay Area, especially in Silicon Valley. There is very much racial diversity in almost all neighborhoods - White, Black, Latino, Spanish, Indian, and everywhere in between - White people are almost a minority here - which is not a bad thing, it's one of the things I really like about living here.