Dating scene for black women in Seattle? (Kent, Renton: law school, college)
Seattle areaSeattle and King County Suburbs
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I am waiting on the time of true equality between the sexes. Honestly women, how many men have you asked out? Are you choosing good men? Why does a man have to be "professional" to date you? Imagine if men only dated women who look like supermodels. Wouldn't there be a shortage?
What if a man told you he nor any of his male friends could find a woman? Would that increase his chances with a good woman? Anyone else find confidence sexy?
I have to say... walking around in downtown Seattle I saw about 3-4 interracial couples today, all a black woman with a white man. They were all teenager/mid-twenties.
Actually Vandygirl said the same thing I said: " I'm so tired of people assuming that I am a "ghetto hood rat" before they even meet me when I've worked so hard all my life to prove that I am an accomplished, educated lady. "
If we can't talk openly and honestly about real societal ills (on both or all sides), there's no chance of ever healing them.
I said it, but I was not applying it to you. Seattleite obviously gets it. You think you get it but you don't.
Why does a man have to be "professional" to date you? Imagine if men only dated women who look like supermodels. Wouldn't there be a shortage?
That is something I always found kind of amusing (the 'professional' requirement). I remember back when I was dating, I would come across all sorts of women who would list this as a requirement. Now, that's not a problem for me. But the thing that always made me chuckle was that at least 7 out of every 10 times the woman herself was something like a retail store clerk, a waitress, a student, a call center rep etc. I mean, as though someone like me wouldn't be able to see through the motives of someone like that. I'd have had no problems going out with quite a few of them beyond the first date....if not for the fact that they flat-out stated they were "requiring" someone more successful than they were.
All that being said, to my ladies out there who practice what they preach? Keep on keepin' on. You're wonderful, the lot of you (well, ok....A lot of you). To the ones looking to jump a few hoops on the status ladder? Back when we were in college, we called that "seeking your MRS Degree". Go back to school, you might find someone naive enough to fall for it.
As to the topic of the thread: When I was single, I never discriminated, as I find beauty in all forms. Neither did any of my friends, to the best of my knowledge. Seattle doesn't consider it a taboo, a stigma, or a scarlet letter, from w hat I ever saw.
Why does a man have to be "professional" to date you? Imagine if men only dated women who look like supermodels. Wouldn't there be a shortage?
Why does he have to be professional? Because I am a professional. I don't need his status, and just because he has status in the community doesn't automatically transform a lightweight woman into an intellectual heavyweight. Many of us women obtained our "status" on our own. We just want a help-mate and companion on our intellectual level who can identify with our life experiences and professional responsibilities and wants to share more of those types of experiences with us. A man does not have to be more successful than me. He just has to be able to relate.
Certainly you do not suggest that professional men (doctors, lawyers, teachers, accountants, etc.) are as rare as supermodels. That just is not true.
Last edited by vandygirl; 10-10-2010 at 02:13 PM..
I am on my way to Seattle for business soon, and I would like to find out some good places to hang out for a single black man.
I understand what you mean, but Seattle is not Atlanta, Houston or Detroit. It is totally integrated, and by that I mean all races present in a place in equal numbers. Every club draws everyone. You would be welcome and accepted just about anyplace you go.
If you are disappointed that Seattle does not truly have an African American singles scene, look at it this way. This trip is your opportunity to experience something completely different from what you are used to.
Last edited by vandygirl; 10-10-2010 at 02:31 PM..
I understand what you mean, but Seattle is not Atlanta, Houston or Detroit. It is totally integrated, and by that I mean all races present in a place in equal numbers. Every club draws everyone. You would be welcome and accepted just about anyplace you go.
If you are disappointed that Seattle does not truly have an African American singles scene, look at it this way. This trip is your opportunity to experience something completely different from what you are used to.
Yes, I so know that Seattle and Atlanta is different, as I had a friend that moved out to Seattle from Atlanta for a while. He did mention that things are quite differnet there. I will not be disappointed that there is not an AA singles scene. I would just like to know of some places where I could go and have a good time as a single man. :-)
OK. "Super" model is a stretch. However, there are many single models and no one seems to complain about a shortage of them. Many men make a VERY good living in labor, construction, government jobs and other fields without a degree. The fact that they didn't finish college doesn't mean that they couldn't hold a conversation with a professional woman. Most of these men probably also have TIME to talk because they don't bring their jobs home with them for the most part. It's bad enough that the marriage rate is so low in our community. Let's not worsen it with prejudice and stereotypes.
OK. "Super" model is a stretch. However, there are many single models and no one seems to complain about a shortage of them. Many men make a VERY good living in labor, construction, government jobs and other fields without a degree. The fact that they didn't finish college doesn't mean that they couldn't hold a conversation with a professional woman. Most of these men probably also have TIME to talk because they don't bring their jobs home with them for the most part. It's bad enough that the marriage rate is so low in our community. Let's not worsen it with prejudice and stereotypes.
You cannot convince me that there is the same number of male teachers, doctors, lawyers, judges, dentists and accountants as there is female models. Give me a break. Half of the men on walking around downtown in any city in America at 8 am are professionals. BTW, a man in a "government job" is probably a professional.
What you call "prejudice and stereotypes" I call having something in common with the person you're in a relationship with. Just the fact that a blue collar guy comes home with time on his hands is one more thing he does not have in common with a professional woman. What man who has plenty of time on his hands wants to come home to tug on a woman who's stuck in her home office until 11 at night? A professional man has the same pressures and schedule that she has. He might even be able to help her.
Can a guy who did not finish college have a conversation with a professional woman? Of course he can. Would he be interested in the same things she wants to talk about? Probably not. If he did not finish college out of his own choice, he probably is not nearly as interested in the kinds of topics she dedicated her life to mastering and promoting. Most likely she thinks on a high level all the time, even when she's "chilling with a beer." That can get very tiring to a guy who does not share that same level of enthusiasm. They will end up boring each other. He thinks she's uptight and can't relax. She thinks he doesn't care about what she has to say. In the end it doesn't work.
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