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Unread 05-18-2011, 04:51 AM
 
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Default Dating in Seattle...

Any advice for a women in her mid to late twenties? I am kind of embarrassed to make this post. I am just kind of confused as to how to meet decent guys. It seems when I go out I have no problem getting guys attention but no one asks me out. They will come up and start conversations. Make some compliments but yea kind of ends there. I tried online dating a bit and that was horrid not sure what to try next.
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Unread 05-18-2011, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Puget Sound
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You could always ask the guy out if he seems interested. No different than any other place really.

Join a casual sports league like Underdog Sports or something along those lines (one of my favorite parts about Seattle). Most sports are coed and encourage people to be social instead of competitive.

Meetup.com also has some fun groups, but make sure you pick one that has a good turnout for their events. I was part of a flag football one for a while that was a lot of fun, but there weren't many women.
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Unread 05-18-2011, 03:37 PM
 
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Those guys you mentioned would likely appreciate it if you were the one that asked them out. Many men in Seattle are the type that often have difficulties knowing that you're actually interested.

I would try either a convention or an activity club. There are limitless outdoor activities and clubs out there.

Good luck.
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Unread 05-18-2011, 08:05 PM
 
Location: East of Seattle, originally from SF Bay Area
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I agree with the others, help them out.

Keep in mind that there are thousands of microsoft and amazon employees in Seattle. Enough said?
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Unread 05-19-2011, 08:46 AM
 
Location: Puget Sound
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I agree with the others, help them out.

Keep in mind that there are thousands of microsoft and amazon employees in Seattle. Enough said?
So true
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Unread 05-19-2011, 09:29 PM
 
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It's an odd passive aggressive dating environment. There are plenty of women who think like you do but then respond with a snarl if you even say hello. Not sure that helps.
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Unread 05-20-2011, 01:09 AM
 
Location: US Empire, Pac NW
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Men these days don't know how to read clues. And women place too large an emphasis on clues. Conversation alone isn't enough. And, yes, many of the men around here are shy.

Joining a league or common interest group is a great way to potentially get sparks flying and that way maybe you will know what you're getting into.

And finally, everyone has their down streaks. I know for like, three years after breaking up with this one girl I had this hopeless situation with a long distance girl who I had a thing for (OK I admit it, I almost moved to where she was) and zero luck on the local scene (all the good girls were taken it seemed). Just hang in there.
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Unread 05-20-2011, 11:28 PM
 
Location: Hunkering down atop Shasta
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Take a class in something like beginner art that would attract a wide variety of people. Wear a mini-skirt. Men will overcome their shyness if they see some leg.

Usually people find dates either at work or at classes of some sort, where they can get to know someone a bit before asking them out.
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Unread 05-23-2011, 01:14 PM
 
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Sounds like you just aren't good at flirting. If I meet a girl who seems cool but doesn't seem that interested I usually just move on. If guys are talking to you and throwing out compliments and end up leaving that's probably on you. Unless you have hot friends and they are just wingman-ing for their boys who are after your friends.

Plus you went to UCLA which is obviously a huge downside.

Fight On!
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Unread 05-23-2011, 08:31 PM
 
Location: Capital Hill
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Best ways to meet 'decent' guys is get involved with social activities at one of the churches. University Presbyterian Church has a great singles club. Also you might try getting active in the Outdoor Club or REI's many scheduled activites or you might join a volenteer club. I would not recomment the local bar or disco to meet 'decent' guys, they're just there to get some ass.
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