Singles Over 30 in Seattle (Spokane: university, inspections, living)

[lavalake]

I may have a tempting job offer in Seattle, and I've always been interested in living out there. However, I'm quickly approaching 30 and in the next few years, would really like to marry and start a family, so moving to a city where I can maximize chances of this happening is really important. I've done a lot of searching through the threads, and I've read a lot about the single men-to-women ratio, which as a female, would definitely benefit me and is certainly better than DC, where I am now (miserable ratio). I also read, however, that Seattle has one of the smallest singles ratios in the country, which not only conflicts with the other ratio, but isn't very promising if you're close to 30 and still not married.

Anyone know what the singles scene is like for people between 30 - 35? Is everyone in Seattle pretty much married by that point?

[Jennibc]

We were and most of our friends were either married or seriously dating who would later become his or her spouse. Read the Seattle Freeze thread to get a sense of the difficulties some singles have in this city meeting new people. I am not sure but I think it links to the original article coining it "the freeze". It is worth a read.

[LIS123]

The rule of thumb is that, starting from the East Coast, the further West you move, the higher the single Male:single Female ratio. As you know, places on the East Coast tend to have more single Females than Males, while the MidWest is fairly even and the West Coast usually has more single Males than Females.

Both Coasts should have a fairly large number of people who are unmarried (and not in committed relationships) into their late 20s and 30s. Single men in your age range will be present, but meeting them might be tough.

Do you know people in the area? As they say, it's supposedly (I have no first hand experience) difficult to meet new people in the Seattle area. Knowing a few people going in could make a big difference.

You could try match or eHarmony. Females have the numbers in their favor on match and this may be exaggerated on the West Coast. Not sure about the ratio no eHarmony, but they say it's for people more serious about finding someone.

[seattlenextyear]

I second the internet dating thing. I know at least 3 Seattle guys who have imported their wives from the east coast after meeting them in chat rooms/dating sites/etc.

[SeattlitefromNC]

Originally Posted by lavalake

I may have a tempting job offer in Seattle, and I've always been interested in living out there. However, I'm quickly approaching 30 and in the next few years, would really like to marry and start a family, so moving to a city where I can maximize chances of this happening is really important. I've done a lot of searching through the threads, and I've read a lot about the single men-to-women ratio, which as a female, would definitely benefit me and is certainly better than DC, where I am now (miserable ratio). I also read, however, that Seattle has one of the smallest singles ratios in the country, which not only conflicts with the other ratio, but isn't very promising if you're close to 30 and still not married.

Anyone know what the singles scene is like for people between 30 - 35? Is everyone in Seattle pretty much married by that point?

The issue in this case is not so much about numbers (as the numbers favor women), so much as it is about access.

Simply put, there are lots of single guys here, but a lot of them work long hours, don't socialize in "open" circles (i.e., circles that are open to newcomers), and sometimes don't socialize at all outside of their internet lives. This is not to say that the average guy in Seattle is an asexual nerd. However, I do think that a lot of guys in this city are either (a) consumed by work, (b) consumed by hobbies that are gender-lopsided, or (c) are otherwise paralyzed by the fear of talking to people that they do not know.

Also, I think that there is less pressure to get married out here ... so guys will remain bachelors for as long as possible.

But, not to fear ... I think it is very easy to get a guy's attention in this city. Snagging a boyfriend is easy: just smile a lot! I have made so many guy friends from just walking around with a goofy grin on my face! I'm sure that you will have similar luck.

[sylvanarrow]

Originally Posted by lavalake

I may have a tempting job offer in Seattle, and I've always been interested in living out there. However, I'm quickly approaching 30 and in the next few years, would really like to marry and start a family, so moving to a city where I can maximize chances of this happening is really important. I've done a lot of searching through the threads, and I've read a lot about the single men-to-women ratio, which as a female, would definitely benefit me and is certainly better than DC, where I am now (miserable ratio). I also read, however, that Seattle has one of the smallest singles ratios in the country, which not only conflicts with the other ratio, but isn't very promising if you're close to 30 and still not married.

Anyone know what the singles scene is like for people between 30 - 35? Is everyone in Seattle pretty much married by that point?

Compared to Spokane, where I'm living now, there are a LOT more singles. Over here every one seems to be married by 25.

As far as meeting people, try Craiglist. Don't look in the dating section (where the weirdos seem to hang out). Look in the activities section for partners for tennis, jogging, or whatever your hobbies are. You're more likely to find a guy with common interests that way, and a lot of the guys are secretly looking for compatible girls that way too.

[pshinspections]

Welcome to Seattle!

Seattle women are rude feminists. Outside the city, they are more normal. Seattle men are either mean because they can't stand the feminists, or wimps because they are tired of being mad because they can't stand the feminists. You will find exceptions to each gender, here and there, thank God.

If you like city people, the singles scene is built around Pioneer Square, The University of Washington and the downtown upscale Symphony groups.

Craigslist is big here, but your best source of men will be the people you meet here doing whatever. Best advise is to join some hobby groups and enjoy doing something fun. Someone will get their best impression of you when you're happy and smiling.

[seattlenextyear]

Originally Posted by pshinspections

Seattle women are rude feminists. Outside the city, they are more normal. Seattle men are either mean because they can't stand the feminists, or wimps because they are tired of being mad because they can't stand the feminists. You will find exceptions to each gender, here and there, thank God.

I get the feeling that a rude feminist can be defined as someone who won't go out on a date with you.

[Journey2LS]

Originally Posted by seattlenextyear

I get the feeling that a rude feminist can be defined as someone who won't go out on a date with you.

Lol! Someone sure does sounds bitter.

[pshinspections]

Typical rude feminist response. Note that my response was general. Yours was attacking an individual. LOL

Don't worry, be happy!