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Old 03-31-2008, 01:43 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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This is a bit of a "touchy" subject for some.... as I have had it with several people and get very mixed feelings about it.

First, I have to say that I am HUGE into giving to the less fortunate. I donate most of my items that I have in my house that we no longer need or use. Clothing being huge of course. I also find organizations that help others, such as the one in NYC that helps woman find jobs (I have donated several suits,etc.... ) (can't remember their name right now...)
This isn't to give myself a hand , it is just a prelude to my question..

I would like to see what others feel about consigning items that were given as a gift to you? That can be clothing for you,for your children or household items?
I have a "problem" doing it, simply because I feel as though I would be making money off of something that I didn't even purchase myself.
I know that there are people who feel that it was a gift,therefore do as you wish..... it just feels wrong,to ME.
I know that when people consign items that it is typically a 60/40 split or something along that line with the consignment shops, but to me, you are still getting something for it....
Do I make sense?
Some also argue that when they give things to the consignment shops that they are helping the "less fortunate" and I have to argue that as well.
Let's be honest, the majority of people who shop in these consignment shops are looking for something for less-that is it. Not because they can't afford to go to the retail stores.

As I have said, I have had this conversation with others and it seems to get heated,as though ,those that do consign everything they have, feel the need to become extremely defensive. I think that just shows that yep-they are doing it simply to make a quick buck off of their items.

I figure, if you don't need it... someone else does and there are so many organizations to give things to without "making money" off of them....

Curious what others think....
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Old 03-31-2008, 04:13 PM
 
Location: Southern NC
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I guess I'm immoral....I either re-gift things I don't need or use or I sell them on Ebay....so the cash is my gift instead.
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Old 04-01-2008, 09:27 PM
 
Location: Southern Maine, Greater Portland
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I have weekend tag sales every few years and sold gifts that I've received at them. I never felt guilty. The money we make usually goes to a family fun day, quality together time. What better re-gift.
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Old 04-02-2008, 03:17 PM
 
Location: Looking East and hoping!
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I had an upscale consignment shop in NJ. Come June all the teachers would bring in the gifts given to them by their students. I felt so bad for the parents who purchased these gifts, the little eager faces of the child presenting a gift to their teacher .

One summer my step grand-daughter was in the shop helping (she was 7)-she looked on a shelf and saw the gift she had given her teacher. Her heart was broken.
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Old 04-06-2008, 10:14 AM
 
Location: State of Being
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Default Here is my take

I give most things to Goodwill or to the Blind or to the Veterans, b/c it is just easier for me to put the things in bags and have them pick it up (or I can drop things off at Goodwill nearby).

However, I have gotten aggravated b/c I know that when I give something really nice, it often gets bought by someone who is out there trying to find stuff to sell on Ebay. So my thought is . . . why shouldn't I sell it on Ebay myself rather than just give someone else an opportunity to make money off it? LOL!!! Yet, I have never taken the time to figure out how to set up an account w/ Ebay . . . and it takes time and work to package things up and mail them to the winning bidder . . .

I hate getting rid of gifts b/c I feel guilty . . . but dear me . . . when the things don't match my house, or fit us, or are just plain impractical or UGLY - what is one to do? I end up w/ boxes full of stuff I don't like or need. So it is better to "release it to the Universe" and let someone else enjoy it (or even sell it on Ebay!!!) I mean - what is wrong w/ someone being resourceful enuff to ferret out good stuff at Goodwill and then selling it on Ebay?

If you have the energy to bother w/ transporting stuff to a consignment shop, why not? Which is better - boxing stuff up you will never use - giving to Goodwill so someone else will buy it for pennies on the dollar and then sell it for a nice sum on Ebay? Or make $3 off it yourself at a consignment shop?

I continue to give things away . . . but every so often, I do think that I should be getting a return on it myself as I paid for it!! And if it is a gift - just b/c you didnt pay for it - why would it be better to hang onto it if you are never going to use it?

I think it is a good idea for all of us to also consider the gifts we do give. Rather than giving a pair of earrings or a set of napkins to a teacher . . . why not give her a $10 Starbucks card? Or a $10 Olive Garden card?

I have quit giving gifts to most people . . . I give gift cards. In my family, my brothers/law use Lowes regularly so I give them Lowes cards. My nephews like the $$ to buy games for their systems (Wii, Nintendo, whatever) so I give them Target or WalMart gift cards so they can go do their own thing (and their mother says they would appreciate this more anyway - no returns). Hair dresser? A nice bottle of wine or if I know they go to Starbucks - they get a Starbucks card. One hairdresser told me she got over $250 in Starbucks cards this past Christmas, wh/ means she can enjoy a lot of Starbucks no charge this year.

But back to the "give away" or "consign" question. Do what works for you. If the items are never going to be used . . . and it is convenient for you to place in a consignment shop . . . do it. Or if you are like me and it is easier to just bag things up and have some organization pick it up - do that. No use feeling guilty about it! Someone will appreciate it - whether they buy it at a Goodwill outlet and sell it on Ebay or they sell it at a Salvation Army store for a low price that someone can afford who otherwise could NOT afford the item.

It is no different than giving someone a wedding present. I have been shocked how many brides have a registry and so you think - okay - I will buy something off the registry cause that is what they really want - and then the brides take the stuff back to get the cash! So who knows what people are gonna do when you give a gift. No use getting emotionally involved in it - once you give something away - it is no longer yours to be concerned about - even if you put a lot of thought and caring into the gift.

I think this falls under "the thought is what matters," cause gifts are a way of saying "you were important enuff for me to want to do something unexpected for you" - so - even if it is a gift that has no meaning for the recipient - the thought was still what mattered (and the thought is always appreciated - even if the gift is not something that will be treasured).

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Last edited by brokensky; 04-06-2008 at 10:19 AM.. Reason: typo
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Old 04-06-2008, 06:35 PM
 
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I agree with "anifani" above about bagging up things and donating them to various charitable organizations, especially when you know you'll never use any of these items. I think it's better to give someone else a chance to use it. I recently bagged up some "gently used" items, along with a couple of brand new gift items and gave them to a shelter store in our area. When a "friend" mentioned to me that she usually regifted items she received (which meant my gifts to her weren't being kept), I got smarter and gave her a gift card to a store where she shops often. Knowing my gifts were being given away (and knowing how much of my time and planning goes into buying gifts for people), I thought this to be a better idea. I have sold some items at garage sales, and donated others. I'd never even thought to resell these regifted items on ebay or craigslist but I guess that's also an option. For me, however, donating is what I prefer.
I guess if people feel bad about reselling these regifted items and aren't in need of the cash, then they could always donate their profits to a charitable organization. It would be a win-win situation in that case.
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