Every Spring my brother comes to visit with his three children for 4-5 days. His oldest son is 11 yrs old and he is a special needs child.
The middle child plays with my son all the time and the 11 yr old is usually left out, no matter how much we encourage them to play with him. Also, he prefers to spend time with himself, so efforts to get him to play with them are usually pointless.
Two years ago, one of my sisters visited at the same time with her daughter as well. A lot of her DS games were lost. There was a lot of drama when everyone was hunting around for them, and they were never found.
Last year, I started noticing drawers/cabinets in my bedroom and other rooms slightly open which I ALWAYS keep closed (it's one of my pet peeves
).
The 11 yr old doesn't seem to respect property as I found him playing on the floor with my IPhone without permission. He also sneaks food out of the kitchen and eats it secretly and steals his 4 yr old brother's toys.
This year, after they left, we noticed that one of the WII steering wheels is missing. We really suspect all of this is the 11 yr old, because he is always alone and always prowling around the house.
So, here are my questions. Is it possible that he isn't aware that he is doing something wrong? When the DS games were missing 2 yrs ago, I KNOW he heard us turning the house upside down looking for them.
Also, how do I approach this? Should I share my suspicions with my sister that he took the games? Should I ask my brother to look for the WII steering wheel? My husband doesn't want them to visit with him anymore, but I think that is overreacting. He said, "What if he steals cash next time, or jewelry?"