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My son has moderate autism. He is in a school that is not meeting his needs, we are on a waiting list for a new school. Meanwhile, the newest latest thing the school does is call me whenever he has ANY behaviors and tell me to come get him. So far he has missed one day a week due to this. If I tell them I can't come get him, they threaten to call DHS. HE IS NOT SICK. Like today they called me, he was sick over the weekend. He couldn't keep down his meds on Saturday, so we had to "reintroduce" them on Sunday. He is now having issues getting back on medication. So he's crabby. He doesn't like the school, doesn't like the teacher, so he figured out that if he throws a tantrum, I will get called and he will go home. Anytime he is at home, it's a big reinforcement, so he's happy to be at home. So far the last 3-4 weeks he has missed at least 1 and sometimes 2 days for this behavior issue. For the six weeks he is at this school, do I have any recourse to keep him at school when he is well.
I have two answers for this. If they have a Behavior Plan for your son they should be following it. Any plan worth its salt uses positive behavior supports, not 'call the parents whenever it gets difficult'. If they cannot follow his plan perhaps you can call a meeting to discuss an alternatives such as a quieter space to work so he does not miss out on his academics.
However, from your previous posts it sounds like he is not in a great environment. If you do get them to keep him in school and not call you, what will happen? Could he face restraint and seclusion? You may have to consider that, as bad as it is, he may be safer at home. You could always have them send his work home with him if you wanted.
Is this coming from the principal? If not, I'd be in his/her office first thing Monday morning. If it is coming from the principal, keep going up the ladder over his head. Do you have an educational advocate? It might be worth it to hire one. Good thoughts to you. It sounds like they are doing everything in their power not to help your son.
Hello,
The other posters have made some good points. With more information I may be able to give you additional suggestions. I'm a retired special education teacher with years of experience, and advanced training with students with autism.
What is your child's grade? Is he "fully included" or partly included in regular education classes or is he in a special education classroom? Who is sending him home (a regular education teacher, a special education teacher, a school psychologist, the school secretary, the principal)? What types of behavior did he exhibit that resulted in him being sent home? Mild or severe injury to peers or adults or screaming & yelling or other tantrum behavior? Does the school realize that he is trying to be sent home?
I just read a few of your earlier posts. About how much time before your child can start in the new school? He may be better off at home with you than in a classroom/school like that.
My prayers and thoughts are with you & your family.
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