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Old 04-25-2010, 11:54 AM
 
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Does anyone else run into california people who think they are better than everyone else? That eveyone is in awe of them because they are from the golden state. I run into these types of people all the time in my travels. I mention I'm from St. Louis and they don't even know where St. Louis is.
Ya, I'm not so friendly toward those people. Same thing with NY'rs who only think of the midwest as fly over country. . And you guys point out West County elitism. Um HELLO!?
I can only speak for myself and being from California. When I moved to STL I had an open mind toward the move, meeting new people, and having new adventures.

What I found here was some very unhappy people that wanted me to be just like them. I quickly found myself under attack and very home sick.

I must say that one of my most ugly experiences was when our alderman knocked at my door looking for my vote so he could be the mayor. In the course of our conversation he learned I was from California. He quickly informed me that he lived in California once upon a time, and he did not like the people. There are how many millions of people who live in California, and he could not get along with any of them?? Telling, very telling.

While I have met one or two friendly locals, the friends I have made here, are not from here. It seems that we outsiders have developed a homing device, a sixth sense if you will, to locate each other.

STL will never be my home as it has been made very clear the I am not welcome, because I'm from a different state. I guess I though we were all Americans, this was a mistake in my thinking.

As far as thinking I am better than anyone else, because I'm from California, well....the truth.....California has nothing to do with me feeling that I'm far better than some others here in STL. I just don't carry around self-hate, and the level of unhappiness that I have experienced in this place.
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Old 04-25-2010, 11:59 AM
 
Location: Huntington Beach, CA
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I can only speak for myself and being from California. When I moved to STL I had an open mind toward the move, meeting new people, and having new adventures.

What I found here was some very unhappy people that wanted me to be just like them. I quickly found myself under attack and very home sick.

I must say that one of my most ugly experiences was when our alderman knocked at my door looking for my vote so he could be the mayor. In the course of our conversation he learned I was from California. He quickly informed me that he lived in California once upon a time, and he did not like the people. There are how many millions of people who live in California, and he could not get along with any of them?? Telling, very telling.

While I have met one or two friendly locals, the friends I have made here, are not from here. It seems that we outsiders have developed a homing device, a sixth sense if you will, to locate each other.

STL will never be my home as it has been made very clear the I am not welcome, because I'm from a different state. I guess I though we were all Americans, this was a mistake in my thinking.

As far as thinking I am better than anyone else, because I'm from California, well....the truth.....California has nothing to do with me feeling that I'm far better than some others here in STL. I just don't carry around self-hate, and the level of unhappiness that I have experienced in this place.
Seems like I could have written that.
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Old 04-25-2010, 12:23 PM
 
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Please. Every other city's forum has the same garbage about how "unaccepting" the locals are. It's funny how I used to think dinsdale maybe was right about insular St. Louisans. Then I started frequenting other forums and you see the exact same posts! It's remarkable how similar the complaints are.

The fact is you have come across maybe 0.5% (if that!) of the locals so don't paint us all with same brush. I also think your experiences with other people often reflect on yourself.
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Old 04-25-2010, 12:31 PM
 
Location: Huntington Beach, CA
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I have lived in many places across the USA, and yes there was a degree of being wary to outsiders in many of those places., but the same time I never felt left out. I was always being invited to tag along with new local acquaintances and was brought into there social circles when They got to know me better.

Except for proselytizing churches and other transplants, I never felt welcome in StL.
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Old 04-25-2010, 01:02 PM
 
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I have lived in many places across the USA, and yes there was a degree of being wary to outsiders in many of those places., but the same time I never felt left out. I was always being invited to tag along with new local acquaintances and was brought into there social circles when They got to know me better.

Except for proselytizing churches and other transplants, I never felt welcome in StL.
I agree, having traveled this country and overseas, STL is most unfriendly. Don't let it get you down as the ugly STL folks are not worth that much.

I hope your having a nice day and life is treating you well.
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Old 04-25-2010, 01:32 PM
 
Location: Saint Louis City
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Are you joking? No wonder you have no friends. I have friends from all over the country that absolutely love it here. Just last night my friend from Atlanta said she turned down a job offer to move back because this is home now. Have you ever thought you just moved to the wrong area? Everyone in our CITY neighborhood raves about how friendly and inviting everyone has been. Just last night I was with friends from STL, Chicago, Atlanta, New Mexico, Manhattan-NY, San Diego and San Francisco. I have also traveled all over the world, and I love the people I have met in STL. I would seriously start doing some inward reflection about your character if you can't make friends here.
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Old 04-25-2010, 02:20 PM
 
Location: Huntington Beach, CA
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Are you joking? No wonder you have no friends. I have friends from all over the country that absolutely love it here. Just last night my friend from Atlanta said she turned down a job offer to move back because this is home now. Have you ever thought you just moved to the wrong area? Everyone in our CITY neighborhood raves about how friendly and inviting everyone has been. Just last night I was with friends from STL, Chicago, Atlanta, New Mexico, Manhattan-NY, San Diego and San Francisco. I have also traveled all over the world, and I love the people I have met in STL. I would seriously start doing some inward reflection about your character if you can't make friends here.
Maybe you have just have a better personality than the status quo.

Just seems odd that the only people I was able to connect with were other transplants.
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Old 04-25-2010, 02:22 PM
 
Location: Huntington Beach, CA
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Crown Winery, which is on the Route, has a great microbrewery.
The beer is awesome
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Old 04-25-2010, 02:23 PM
 
Location: Huntington Beach, CA
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When I look at West County, especially seeing osme of the people there, I think of Orange Couny housewives
Might be nice if you actually visited Orange County and see reality
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Old 04-25-2010, 02:29 PM
 
Location: Edwardsville, IL
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Might be nice if you actually visited Orange County and see reality

I was TDY at El Segundo for six months in 1996 and saw a LOT of beautiful women, DP!
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