Why are Hispanic men in Texas so indifferent torwards non Hispanics? (Houston: living, food)

[Joei]

I have noticed that since I've come here from the east coast, I've had close to no luck in meeting Hispanic guys to date in the area. I only meet a small few here and there, which doesnt give me many options Myself I am mixed with a few different races, but I am told I look everything from Black, Dominican, Cuban, Half white etc...

My thing though is that many (I will not generalize, so when I say I dont mean everyone) of the Latin guys in this area dont seem to be interested that much in seeing someone who doesnt look or is 100% Latin. My thing is I used to exclusively date Latino men and now its gotten to the point where Im forced to date others because they dont seem interested around here. Just today I got 'turned down' because a guy I met online didnt think I looked 'Hispanic' enough in person. I say so because before and during the time we met he asked me; almost with scrutiny, "are you Hispanic?"

Why is like that here!? I have never met with such resistance until I moved here. When I was on the east coast this conversation would be non-existant. I wouldnt have even realized things are so much more different in the same country

Can someone help me out? Is it like this with other races around here too? I can almost care less at this point because Im counting down my last few weeks in this very mediocre place...

[doctorjef]

The east coast has so many more people of Puerto Rican and Dominican descent, whereas in Texas most Hispanics are of Mexican or possibly Central American origins. I suspect that explains a lot.

[texasdiver]

I teach at a relatively affluent suburban HS that has lots of Hispanic students. When it comes to dating, one seems to be constrained by race. I see Anglo kids dating Hispanic kids, black kids dating Hispanic kids, black kids dating Asian kids, Asian kids dating Hispanic kids, etc, etc. But most of the Hispanic kids I teach are 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th....generation Texans with middle class or professional parents. Most barely seem to even know much Spanish.

That said, the Hispanic culture in Texas is almost entirely Mexican and Central American. Which is a completely different culture than the Caribbean culture you see on the east coast (Cuban, Dominican, Puerto Rican) or the South American culture you find in big east coast cities (Colombian, Argentinian, Chilean, etc.). And there is some history of friction between the black and Hispanic communities in Texas. For example, in the last election, Hispanics, especially older Hispanics widely supported Hillary Clinton over Obama in the Democratic primary. If people read you as black then that could be part of the issue. Mexico is WAY different from the multi-racial countries of the Caribbean such as Cuba and the Dominican Republic.

Frankly, there really isn't any such thing as a generic Hispanic culture. I'm Anglo but my wife is Hispanic. She is originally from an upper class family in Chile and really has nothing in common with the dominant Mexican-Hispanic culture here in Texas. Which is of predominantly rural and lower class roots (middle and upper class Mexicans rarely immigrate to the US). She doesn't understand or much like the Mexican food we get here. She doesn't understand half the slang. And she's never heard of most of the traditions. Mexico is much more of a foreign country to her than it is for most Texans, even though she shares the language.

[Metro Matt]

Two things missing here...

For one you didn't mention what race/s you are mixed with & two where you live in Texas, both of which could make a huge difference as to how your question is answered.

[texasdiver]

Originally Posted by Metro Matt

Two things missing here...

For one you didn't mention what race/s you are mixed with & two where you live in Texas, both of which could make a huge difference as to how your question is answered.

True. I don't think we'd be having this conversation if the OP lived in central Houston.

[Lol_Stacey]

I think it must be the people you are meeting. I am white and grew up in predominant Hispanic culture around me, and most people donot think twice about inter-mingling.

[Steel Man]

Originally Posted by Joei

I have noticed that since I've come here from the east coast, I've had close to no luck in meeting Hispanic guys to date in the area. I only meet a small few here and there, which doesnt give me many options Myself I am mixed with a few different races, but I am told I look everything from Black, Dominican, Cuban, Half white etc...

My thing though is that many (I will not generalize, so when I say I dont mean everyone) of the Latin guys in this area dont seem to be interested that much in seeing someone who doesnt look or is 100% Latin. My thing is I used to exclusively date Latino men and now its gotten to the point where Im forced to date others because they dont seem interested around here. Just today I got 'turned down' because a guy I met online didnt think I looked 'Hispanic' enough in person. I say so because before and during the time we met he asked me; almost with scrutiny, "are you Hispanic?"

Why is like that here!? I have never met with such resistance until I moved here. When I was on the east coast this conversation would be non-existant. I wouldnt have even realized things are so much more different in the same country

Can someone help me out? Is it like this with other races around here too? I can almost care less at this point because Im counting down my last few weeks in this very mediocre place...

You are of mixed race, yet you used to date Latino men exclusively, and now you're "forced" to date other races. Many mixed marriages have gone through a lot of prejudice (and some still do) to get acceptance, yet you seem to reject that by dating only Latino men. Time for you to get past the color barrier and judge a person on their character, not color.

[Joei]

Thanks for the replies. I guess its true the differences between the coast too. I just remember a time in Florida when I would be asked out or approached (or do the approaching) to a Latino guy and I wouldnt have to think twice.

Yet I've been here a year now and feel I've lost touch. Now, I am attracted (dated and slept with) different races of men and I would not turn down a hot guy if he happened to not be Latino. Im just wondering why is it so hard to click with Latinos around here!

Originally Posted by Metro Matt

Two things missing here...

For one you didn't mention what race/s you are mixed with & two where you live in Texas, both of which could make a huge difference as to how your question is answered.

Im mixed with Black, Native American and White. I live in Dallas.

Originally Posted by Steel Man

You are of mixed race, yet you used to date Latino men exclusively, and now you're "forced" to date other races. Many mixed marriages have gone through a lot of prejudice (and some still do) to get acceptance, yet you seem to reject that by dating only Latino men. Time for you to get past the color barrier and judge a person on their character, not color.

Its not that, its just that is my primary type. Im not judging anyone or looking at color barriers. As you can see, Im not Latino background.

[Visitor2007]

Originally Posted by Joei

Im mixed with Black, Native American and White. I live in Dallas.

The thing that's holding you back is Black. Many hispanic guys see blacks as inferior race.

[Joei]

Originally Posted by Visitor2007

The thing that's holding you back is Black. Many hispanic guys see blacks as inferior race.

I wouldnt see it as 'holding me back'. Now maybe its that way with the people down here and the way they see it. I'd suggest they are just sheltered....

I think it has to do with the whole Texas B.S. thats bought up down here. This place has some really screwed up history which seems why there is so many narrow-minded people here with skewed ideas of people. I just cant see how the people who live here consider this dump 'normal' living and a normal lifestyle. Its not normal by any means. Im just thankful for the small percentage of native Texans here who actually are open-minded.

Its also funny that the Mexicans here would see me as inferior because of my background. You go a few hundred miles to the east and the comments I would here about Mexicans in Florida and along the east coast would make your jaw drop. These coming from mostly other Hispanics and whites. Far worse than what they'd say to another non-Mexican person. Being that I dont like to feed into those type of things, but still its that much different.