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I think you're looking in the wrong places .... plus I would question what kind of relationship it is that you want. Are you looking for a long term committed relationship or a casual friends with benefits type of relationship with no committments?
Speaking as a widowed older woman who knows a lot of older women such as you described that are in their 50's and 60's and older, I can tell you that most older, classy women with high standards do not hang out at night clubs and they aren't interested in meeting other people who do the night club thing. Older women who do the night club scene are usually trouble looking for trouble because trouble likes company, most often they're alcoholics or addicts with not much money and no positive goals and objectives, other than they may be gold diggers looking for a meal ticket that they can con.
For independent ladies with above modest means and higher standards you could try upscale casinos perhaps, (I'd try that first if I was you) or classy restaurants where they occasionally go with groups of their likewise independent girlfriends for a nice dinner out. Other places would include art galleries, museums, theatre, opera, garden clubs, nature clubs, photography clubs, equestrian or bird clubs, cooking clubs, travel clubs, or gymnasiums and golf clubs (oh, all kinds of clubs come to mind).
Also try investigating or getting yourself involved in several community volunteer organizations where so many older women are involved with doing good works for their community or the environment, or sponsoring other altruistic / philanthropic enterprises and good causes.
If you want to find a good woman with high standards and independent means of her own you better not be cheap. You will have to show that you are capable and willing to be generous and do good works of your own too. A cheap man is useless to a good woman.
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Re " A cheap man is useless to a good women" .........lol. I think I am going to be using it in convetsation with my husband from now on...lol.
Aren't there things like orchestra support societies, poetry readings, things like that? I don't see why an "older anything" is condemned to "clubs". Could take up tennis or golf and see who you meet that way. A friend of mine spent years in an outdoor club sponsored by Sierra Club. I think (not sure) she and her husband met that way. I met my wife in my late 30's when I decided to take up ethnic dance.
I am starting to dislike this thread..... I don't know why people assume all adults past 40 are just boring ... ex orchestra ... vs rock concert. A some edgy theatre production vs seeing The King and I. Urban educated women are usually pretty secure people and are not specifically going to be sitting at home knitting blankets for their grand kids. They are likely also involved in travel, going to lectures, festivals and fun events. I am not sure why people are throwing this drab suggestions out there. Based on the age group aren't we talking about people that grew up in times when protesting, drugs, sex and rocking and roll were all the rage? Also looking at the title it seems a bit like someone is looking for a sugar mama... what's the deal wanting someone financially secure?
I am starting to dislike this thread..... I don't know why people assume all adults past 40 are just boring ... ex orchestra ... vs rock concert. A some edgy theatre production vs seeing The King and I. Urban educated women are usually pretty secure people and are not specifically going to be sitting at home knitting blankets for their grand kids. They are likely also involved in travel, going to lectures, festivals and fun events. I am not sure why people are throwing this drab suggestions out there. Based on the age group aren't we talking about people that grew up in times when protesting, drugs, sex and rocking and roll were all the rage? Also looking at the title it seems a bit like someone is looking for a sugar mama... what's the deal wanting someone financially secure?
Nobody else has insulted you or the OP or criticized any of the suggestions that you have made. So why do you feel you need to insult other people and the OP, and try to criticize and invalidate the suggestions that other people have made?
It doesn't matter if you dislike this thread or that you think other people's suggestions are boring and drab. That's just your opinion so don't be a control freak about what other people suggest. Let the OP decide for himself what suggestions he wants to follow through on.
You are only in your 30's, you are still a young person and have no experience in what becomes meaningful and interesting for most people past 50. Hopefully when you have grown up and are in your 50's and 60's you will feel differently and have a better understanding about what is important to mature people. You may feel very differently about who and what you want to spend your time and money on.
Perhaps you'll realize that there are far more meaningful joys in life besides only indulging oneself in the hedonistic pleasures of the senses such as sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll. For your information, those things often become boring or even annoying and dangerous for more mature people who have found much better and more constructive ways to fulfill their lives and their capabilities.
Thanks to you all for your responses thus far. Totally appreciated.
To clarify, I am a heterosexual man looking for a woman. I am 54 years old, financially secure, own my own home and car and looking for well-off ladies as they will be less interested in having me provide them with all their needs. I hope I am right!. I am not interested in women in their 30s or 40s. I was hoping that women who fit my description have a certain place(s) where they hang out in Toronto/GTA that I can go with the hope of meeting someone.
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I am starting to dislike this thread..... I don't know why people assume all adults past 40 are just boring ... ex orchestra ... vs rock concert. A some edgy theatre production vs seeing The King and I. Urban educated women are usually pretty secure people and are not specifically going to be sitting at home knitting blankets for their grand kids. They are likely also involved in travel, going to lectures, festivals and fun events. I am not sure why people are throwing this drab suggestions out there. Based on the age group aren't we talking about people that grew up in times when protesting, drugs, sex and rocking and roll were all the rage? Also looking at the title it seems a bit like someone is looking for a sugar mama... what's the deal wanting someone financially secure?
Well, I suppose it all depends how one looks at it. It appears that drvconfig in his second post to the participants for their replies has shown not only his appreciation and gratitude but clarified his position as well as his reasons for what he seeks.
Seems quite reasonable to me that he is interested in meeting ladies who he can be aligned with in regards to socioeconomic, age, and like minded interests. Doesn't appear to be looking for a sugar mama but it doesn't appear that he wants to be a sugar daddy either; can't say that I blame him.
Nobody else has insulted you or the OP or criticized any of the suggestions that you have made. So why do you feel you need to insult other people and the OP, and try to criticize and invalidate the suggestions that other people have made?
It doesn't matter if you dislike this thread or that you think other people's suggestions are boring and drab. That's just your opinion so don't be a control freak about what other people suggest. Let the OP decide for himself what suggestions he wants to follow through on.
You are only in your 30's, you are still a young person and have no experience in what becomes meaningful and interesting for most people past 50. Hopefully when you have grown up and are in your 50's and 60's you will feel differently and have a better understanding about what is important to mature people. You may feel very differently about who and what you want to spend your time and money on.
Perhaps you'll realize that there are far more meaningful joys in life besides only indulging oneself in the hedonistic pleasures of the senses such as sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll. For your information, those things often become boring or even annoying and dangerous for more mature people who have found much better and more constructive ways to fulfill their lives and their capabilities.
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My discontent with this is it paints all people past that age at being a certain way. I might not be that age, but work with and associate with many people that age especially in Toronto. There are people of all ages that like the things we have all suggested.
I also take part in both types of activities suggested ex. I would see the King and I and I would see something more edgy too. This could also be the same as most other people of any age.
May I also remind that people like Iggy Pop, Madonna and all Steven Tyler is this age group and still creating music new and touring. Their fan basis are not exclusive to any age.
There are people that like those sorts of getting involved in charities or volunteering in many ages. These roles are not exclusive to older women.
I meet people are of all ages at different events. I meets lost of people over 50 going to concerts and more trendy urban spots all over the city. This could be different in different cities.
Regardless if you read any of threads regarding dating in Toronto... people in their 20s, 30s and 40s expressing finding difficulty meeting someone.
Well, I suppose it all depends how one looks at it. It appears that drvconfig in his second post to the participants for their replies has shown not only his appreciation and gratitude but clarified his position as well as his reasons for what he seeks.
Seems quite reasonable to me that he is interested in meeting ladies who he can be aligned with in regards to socioeconomic, age, and like minded interests. Doesn't appear to be looking for a sugar mama but it doesn't appear that he wants to be a sugar daddy either; can't say that I blame him.
I appreciate that ... but people are not always slapping their bank statements out in front of you at first meeting. There are people that present has having no money or that are very well off and their are people that seem like they are well off but don't have the means to support their lifestyles.
I appreciate that ... but people are not always slapping their bank statements out in front of you at first meeting. There are people that present has having no money or that are very well off and their are people that seem like they are well off but don't have the means to support their lifestyles.
True enough k, I know I would certainly not be flashing my bank statements out anywhere, nor for that matter, even discussing my personal finances with anyone; I do not even discuss it here (on a 'safe, secure and anonymous public forum). Thus the meeting/introduction of various people at an event, hobby club, activity, meetup or what have you. Even if you are interested in someone you can maintain a safe distance (mentally and spiritually), participate and enjoy the activity all whilst 'getting to know' someone from afar. You know, their attitudes about life in general such as their viewpoints on politics, religion, world affairs, etc.; camaraderie allows people to feel comfortable in their environment and share their viewpoints...for better and/or for worse.
I don't have any pat answers I am a widowed, senior and single lady who grew up in the 70's (and most of us recall how that went) but I am not 19 years old anymore and my worldview has changed significantly since then but I am not 'out there' looking for anyone as I am pretty comfortable just the way things are. Most importantly I thank 'the stars above' for my good health, the rest I can navigate quite well.
There is an old adage that says "you can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can not fool all of the people all of the time"...or something to that affect.
True enough k, I know I would certainly not be flashing my bank statements out anywhere, nor for that matter, even discussing my personal finances with anyone; I do not even discuss it here (on a 'safe, secure and anonymous public forum). Thus the meeting/introduction of various people at an event, hobby club, activity, meetup or what have you. Even if you are interested in someone you can maintain a safe distance (mentally and spiritually), participate and enjoy the activity all whilst 'getting to know' someone from afar. You know, their attitudes about life in general such as their viewpoints on politics, religion, world affairs, etc.; camaraderie allows people to feel comfortable in their environment and share their viewpoints...for better and/or for worse.
I don't have any pat answers I am a widowed, senior and single lady who grew up in the 70's (and most of us recall how that went) but I am not 19 years old anymore and my worldview has changed significantly since then but I am not 'out there' looking for anyone as I am pretty comfortable just the way things are. Most importantly I thank 'the stars above' for my good health, the rest I can navigate quite well.
There is an old adage that says "you can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can not fool all of the people all of the time"...or something to that affect.
My message the was likely not presented in the best was really intend to express that I think people should not give up on getting out and having fun regardless or age. As someone in a different age group I appreciate am I not living that experience right now ... but as someone who is actively experiencing a lot of things I was always taught to believe I could not do I really want to caution anyone at any age do not let ideas of what is or is not appropriate based on age or gender limit you. I missing out on a lot of experiences do to fear or being mislead years ago... and now I am living out these experiences and it is an amazing feeling.
The comment regarding the sugar mama... was actually a joke and in poor taste so I apologize.
My message the was likely not presented in the best was really intend to express that I think people should not give up on getting out and having fun regardless or age. As someone in a different age group I appreciate am I not living that experience right now ... but as someone who is actively experiencing a lot of things I was always taught to believe I could not do I really want to caution anyone at any age do not let ideas of what is or is not appropriate based on age or gender limit you. I missing out on a lot of experiences do to fear or being mislead years ago... and now I am living out these experiences and it is an amazing feeling.
The comment regarding the sugar mama... was actually a joke and in poor taste so I apologize.
No worries k, I (nor do I think anyone else here either) took any offense at the use of "sugar mama" at all and maybe it was an appropriate description for the discussion at hand.
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....lol. I think I am going to be using it in convetsation with my husband from now on...lol.
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