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Old 07-12-2014, 01:18 AM
 
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So I have always had anxiety about flying, but ever since the Malaysian Airlines flight I have been extra anxious. I am going on a trip next week and I am convincing myself that it will crash. I am afraid if I go on it it will be my last time I breathe life. I know the stats, but it doesn't help because it's almost like I convinced myself I'm having a psychic thought or something ( I don't believe in all that, but it's getting that bad.)

I do think it could be all the change in my life. The last few years have been chaotic and stressful, and now I am landing a good job, dating someone awesome, and finally having some stability. It also could be that I did not pay for this flight so my controlling nature is having a field day.

Any other thoughts? Has anyone else been convince they were going to die while traveling and found out that it did not happened?

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Old 07-12-2014, 02:29 AM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ > Raleigh, NC
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Many years ago, I was on a very turbulent fight in a storm. It did a mid-air drop that included many passengers shouting and crying, and the yellow oxygen thingys coming down. The episode actually was in the New York Times the next day.

And I suddenly developed a fear of flying. Very problematic as my job required semi frquent air travel.

Long story short, I self medicated with alcohol for several years. I realized this was not professionally a smart decision and, should there ever be a real in air emergency, being half sloshed was a bad plan. Finally, I spoke to my doctor who prescribed Xanex (prounounced zaanex).

That made flying tolerable and, over the years, I've become okay without it. Unless it's turbulent. Then, I'm popping a pill or ordering a vodka on the rocks.
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Old 07-12-2014, 02:43 AM
 
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I thought about pills…this is very hard because rationally I know it is very rare something is going to happened. I spoke to my flight attendant friend and she said…"well you never know"…not comforting!
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Old 07-12-2014, 02:50 AM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ > Raleigh, NC
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I thought about pills…this is very hard because rationally I know it is very rare something is going to happened. I spoke to my flight attendant friend and she said…"well you never know"…not comforting!
"Friend"?!!? Not by my definition.
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Old 07-12-2014, 04:10 AM
 
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Every time I fly I feel this way. Try not to think about it - your flights will be fine! I find it helps to read articles and stats about how safe flying is, and to take a mild sedative and some motion sickness pills a few hours before leaving. My anxiety usually disappears anyway as soon as I enter the airport, with all the activity and focus on other things. Then when I'm checked in, I keep my mind occupied by praying continuously for the pilots and for an uneventful trip. Lol! But you could read or do something else to keep your mind busy. My hubby listens to music and watches movies on his tablet. Good luck!
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Old 07-12-2014, 05:00 AM
 
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You probably have better odds of winning the lottery than your plane having a problem. heres a map of planes in the air right now.
Plane Finder ? Live Flight Status Tracker

That said i avoid flying myself not because i think anything will happen to the plane but i have claustrophobia issues..
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Old 07-12-2014, 06:36 AM
 
Location: Gatineau, QC, Canada
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Don't worry. You will become too preoccupied with how annoying something or someone on the plane is to remember that you are actually in the air. Sometimes I remind myself about the fact that I am actually soaring through the sky and it's only only then that I become a little scared myself. It is really weird, flying. But besides turbulence, the ride is so smooth that you mine as well just be sitting in a completely stationary tube with some whirring noise in the background.

The first time I flew (Vancouver to Toronto), I was really nervous sitting on the plane as they were loading all the luggage and getting everyone seated. You know that knot you get in your stomach at great heights kind of thing? But by the time we actually took off I was more annoyed at how long it took to taxi out and just wanted to get on with it already.
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Old 07-12-2014, 06:43 AM
 
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Speak to your doctor. Your fears are irrational. Therapy and medication would be appropriate.
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Old 07-12-2014, 07:33 AM
 
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I thought about pills…this is very hard because rationally I know it is very rare something is going to happened. I spoke to my flight attendant friend and she said…"well you never know"…not comforting!
Call your doctor Monday morning and get a prescription for Xanax. Take it 30 minutes before your flight is scheduled to depart. It will make a huge difference.
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Old 07-12-2014, 09:20 AM
 
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I got some great tips from a former airline pilot who does counseling sessions for fearful flyers.

1. Realize that modern aircraft have backups upon backups. Very unlikely a system will completely fail.

2. Turbulance is not a problem for the plane, its a problem for us. Think of turbulance as someone throwing a pail of ball bearings across the sky, and the plane is just bumping along them until they fly past.

3. When boarding, be in line early and ask to have a brief chat with the pilot. That helped me alot. May not be allowed post-9/11 but you can try.

4. I guess the rules changed to allow tablets and phones to be turned on during flight. Great distraction device. In the 90s, I heard a great distraction was, get this, porn! Magazines with lots of spashy color, such as the destination you're going to.

5. It always helped me to understand how the systems on the plane worked so I wouldn't freak out when the engines changed in pitch, ect. On landing, notice how the wings wiggle up and down? They have to be flexible or they would snap off. They are designed to move up and down quite a bit.
Test pilots for Boeing take those planes through maneuvers that would make us lose our lunch, but they are nothing but a day's work for an airplane.

These are some of the things I remember.
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