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Old 12-12-2016, 08:00 AM
 
Location: Atlanta
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I haven't...until now.


I'm not sure why this is happening; I've been looking forward to this trip to Europe all year! But after the last 2 entire days of planning, I'm already tired lol. I feel like cancelling everything and just laying around the house for the next two weeks. Instead of focusing on all the fun things I have planned to see and do, now my mind is just focused on the airports, flights, and getting around from place to place during the entire trip. So I've suddenly gone from seeing it as fun to taxing.


Maybe because I just returned from a 10 day trip in November to Hawaii where I did nothing every day and was ok with that (at least somewhat...by the end I did surprisingly start to get kinda bored!). Compared to that, this will be a much different (busier) trip.


This is also the longest I will have been out of the country ever and I'm doing everything solo so not sure how much this is playing a part in me starting to feel a little overwhelmed.


Anyone else ever experienced this?
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Old 12-12-2016, 08:15 AM
 
Location: Sugarmill Woods , FL
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I never had traveled solo, but for me that would be an issue.
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Old 12-12-2016, 08:18 AM
 
Location: Omaha, Nebraska
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It happens to me all the time. I've learned to ignore it and proceed as planned anyway, and once I'm away the feeling passes and I generally have a wonderful trip.
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Old 12-12-2016, 08:35 AM
 
Location: Atlanta
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It happens to me all the time. I've learned to ignore it and proceed as planned anyway, and once I'm away the feeling passes and I generally have a wonderful trip.
Thank you! I'm glad to hear this is probably a normal thing and I can look forward to the feeling (hopefully) passing.


It's just come as a surprise as I am starting to incorporate more travel into my life, but I've never gotten cold feet like this before.


Like I said maybe I'm a bit overwhelmed by the past 2 straight days of planning and the amount of time I'll be gone which means...more logistical arrangements to take care of. Otherwise I usually don't have any issue with doing trips alone, planning everything and getting around.


I might just need to ensure I've incorporated enough 'down time' in my agenda as I want to see/do things but not be rushing around like some trips I've done in the past.
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Old 12-12-2016, 11:01 AM
 
Location: Omaha, Nebraska
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It's just come as a surprise as I am starting to incorporate more travel into my life, but I've never gotten cold feet like this before.

Like I said maybe I'm a bit overwhelmed by the past 2 straight days of planning and the amount of time I'll be gone which means...more logistical arrangements to take care of. Otherwise I usually don't have any issue with doing trips alone, planning everything and getting around.
I find that's what triggers it for me: pre-travel planning and arrangements are WORK, and the part of me that's lazy and over-stressed starts whispering "you wouldn't have to do all this work if you just canceled the trip..." But once the trip has actually started and the planning is over, sure enough the trip turns out to be worth the work, and I find myself relaxing and having a great time.

And I definitely feel it the worst if I've been traveling a lot prior to the trip in question. Even a relaxed trip still takes work to plan, and there's stress right before you leave with packing and last-minute things, and stress after you come back and you have to catch up with things. So I suspect your cold feet are also a response to the fact that you've been traveling very recently.

(One reason I've been taking tours more recently rather than traveling solo is that they reduce the pre-trip planning work quite a bit. I've been doing quick weekend getaways solo, but my bigger trips have been small group tours, and it seems to be a combo that works for me right now.)
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Old 12-12-2016, 07:50 PM
 
Location: We_tside PNW (Columbia Gorge) / CO / SA TX / Thailand
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It happens to me all the time. I've learned to ignore it and proceed as planned ....
It's normal for BUSY people. Often times you think "What am I getting myself into?"

Who knows! You won't ever know unless you GO.

Go soon, go often.

Don't plan to the detail, leave room to be spontaneous.

Don't worry about it being PERFECT, it won't be, yet you will survive and have great memories and new friends.

I get that 'oh-crumb' feeling when the wheels touch down, as THEN I have to make decisions and take risks. Getting there was EZ...

the good and memorable things in life come with LOTS of work. (such as a musical instrument or new language)

Just in time from Christmas Markets, you will have an adventure, and it will be unique.

Relax, go with the flow, stay flexible.
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Old 12-13-2016, 05:21 AM
 
Location: Pure Michigan!
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I have, but not because of the work of planning the trip or thinking about the logistics of the trip.

My cold feet, as a recent empty nester who is still adjusting, come from thinking that something might happen to my husband and me or to our kids while we are away and we would never see each other again. It was much less stressful when they were younger and we took them along everywhere we went, even though it involved more work and planning.

My cold feet come from emotional attachments to people back home rather than worrying about all of the work and potential trouble involved with traveling, but that's probably because I have planned, packed for, and done the majority of whatever needed to be done for every trip we've taken in almost thirty years so it's just second nature for me.
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Old 12-13-2016, 06:58 AM
 
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I had them before going to belgium after the bombings. But they were largely because we left our child in the states and
I was worried about what would happen if something happened to both of us while away. ultimately we updated our will and went anyways and had a great time. I say go for it and the worry will fade away once you get there!
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Old 12-13-2016, 07:50 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, NC, formerly DC and Phila
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I've had that feeling before and sometime for no apparent reason, just pre-trip jitters! Other times I'm perfectly fine. In either case, though, I have always had a good time once I got there.
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Old 12-15-2016, 11:13 AM
 
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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Not too much comfort to you, but: The beauty of the future is its uncertainties!

Once you get there and your previous feelings hang on, you can always pick a comfy place somewhere, perhaps along the Mediterranean, and put yourself back in Hawaii mode again.

I made 11 solo trips to Central and South America between 2004-2009, and solo'd it all over by bus in a number of countries, and I will admit it was stressful, at times, even got mugged a couple times, but, in retrospect, I'm so glad I did it, and never went into a panic, and flew back home and shortened the trip.

Love that saying: nothing brings you closer to eternity than travel!

And, nice goal, to get closer to eternity!
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