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Old 01-13-2017, 08:02 PM
 
Location: Crappyville,PA
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My wife and I will be there, let's have beer!
Sounds great to me. I'll be there from 2/8 to 3/1.
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Old 01-14-2017, 01:13 AM
 
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I do have to chuckle a bit when I read some people here mention apprehension about traveling solo.

Try taking a NINETY mile boat trip, completely DIY on an 18 ft skiff, from Crooked Island to Hogsty Reef, in the very remote Southern Bahamas while knowing its you, and YOU only that is responsible for getting your butt there, and back, safely.

No one else to turn to when it comes to making tactical command decisions with the changing weather, knowing that if you have an engine failure, you WILL be spending the night, truly alone, adrift in the open ocean, while help doesn't arrive until 12 hours or more!

Now THAT is traveling solo. Taking a trip while surrounded by strangers is not traveling solo in my book!
Yes. especially in an urban environment in safe and stable countries with easy transportation such as subways, trams, buses, taxis and Uber. The only "scary" part is you do have not anyone to talk to most of the time.
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Old 01-14-2017, 08:57 AM
 
Location: Atlanta
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I'm a woman, and I solo travel frequently.

I went solo to Cancun in July and solo to the DR in December for my birthday. Both trips were absolutely amazing! I stayed at resorts, but I signed up for tons of excursions. Sure, people ask me why I'm alone, and they say I'm brave. I stopped letting that bother me, though. Some people are just so insecure that they can't do anything without company.

That's just not me.

The one thing that still bothers me is when clueless friends and co-workers use that [extremely annoying!] pity voice when asking why I'm going solo. They truly don't know what they're missing. Solo travel is freaking spectacular!

I have a solo trip to Barcelona planned for September.
This.
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Old 01-14-2017, 09:26 AM
 
Location: Atlanta
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It's the same sort of people who "pity" people dining alone. I love going out to eat from time to time--checking out new restaurants, trying new dishes, or returning to old favorites. I don't need an escort, and the food tastes just as good when I am by myself as it does if I were with someone else or a hundred someone elses.

When I was younger I used to travel alone all the time. It's absolutely wonderful being able to do whatever you please whenever you please. I also find that it leads to a much richer series of interactions with locals, since you aren't traveling in your own little "bubble." Now that I am employed full time and in a serious relationship I tend to travel with my significant other. It is great in a lot of ways, but there are plenty of aspects of solo travel that I do miss.

I have a friend who has never left the country (and rarely left the region) because he "can't" go somewhere by himself. I don't get it.
This as well. I think it's easier to meet other locals when you're traveling alone. You're not focused on your own group of people you're traveling with, and others who might be local and alone are more likely to approach/strike up conversations/etc.

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Old 01-14-2017, 09:53 AM
 
Location: Atlanta
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I just came back from my longest solo trip thus far (about 3 weeks in Europe over the holidays).

To give some background, I'm 37 and I didn't even have a passport until 2014 when my job required one for travel abroad for several trainings I had to conduct with my Team. My first work trip wasn't the best due to a pic-pocketing experience I had in Paris where my passport was stolen** but even despite that happening I think the spark for more international travel was ignited on that first trip. Every work related trip going forward I would add a few vacation days on to and go exploring myself either in that city, or in another city. (We went to Vienna and I took a week off after work in Vienna to take my first trip to Italy-Rome and Capri.)

I just came back from doing London, Spain and Portugal (a total of 7 cities abroad I went to). I got a little overwhelmed with the planning at one point but at the end of the day, I was very glad I went.

I had an older coworker wrinkle up her nose at me when I got back who asked "And how was your trip that you went on BY YOURSELF, ALL ALONE?" while she's rolling her eyes. After sending her pics from the trip with no response it's obvious to me some people are just closed-minded and/or honestly just fearful and jealous that they don't have the motivation, self esteem, sense of adventure and confidence in themselves to be able to go somewhere alone.

All I have to say about that is don't project your issues on me because I'm not waiting on people to have the time off and money to go places with me anymore. There's no way I would have been able to round up even 2 friends who could have gone on the trip I just came back from, and I don't expect it. Most people I know work, have limited time off, plans with others around the holidays, limited funds and may or may not even be interested in going to all of the same places and doing the same things as myself. I definitely know that with other people I would have had to plan more around what they might be interested in, agree on the type of place they'd want to stay in, be considerate of what pace they'd like to travel at, how much time they'd want to commit to activities versus more go-with-the-flow and leisurely type days, etc., and on and on. Not to mention how their body may react to the time differences versus mine; I had no jet lag on my last trip. Some days I woke up at 7 am and did my best to get out asap while other days I was lucky to get out of the bed at 11 am.

Maybe the one downside I can think of to traveling solo for me is I sure am getting used to doing things my way which may make it harder to compromise on things if I tried to do a similar type of trip with other people.

**ETA: The experience I had in Paris made me a better solo traveler very quickly and made me aware of things I needed to do prior to and while on this most recent trip. In the end it helped me be a smarter solo traveler.
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Old 01-14-2017, 10:35 AM
 
Location: PNW
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I can't recall ever having encountered this problem but I've never taken a group tour (and I travel only domestically). Where I get this problem are from co-workers and even a few friends. People always thought I was ballsy or so independent and it was just a bit fascinating to them. Didn't let it bother me too much. I just told them that I prefer to travel alone and that's it. Friends know I'm a loner. Let me add that it bothered most guys ("I could never let my wife do that!"), whereas most women admired it. A few of the guys admitted that they wished their own wives would do stuff like that on their own.


Over time I just started traveling with my husband more. However, I'm vacationing to Palm Springs by myself in March. I want time by the poolside and a lot of shopping time. It would be boring for him, and I'd rather not have him dragging my heels.


Seriously, "friends" are not necessarily good traveling partners, as I found out long ago.
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Old 01-14-2017, 10:10 PM
 
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Well, my New Year's cruise was a blast! I'm now addicted. Granted, it was a singles cruise, and 90% of the women I wasn't interested in, but had a connection with one in my top 10%, as well as made some new friends. I now have some potential travel partners, finally. Great experience!
Glad to hear you had a good time!
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Old 01-15-2017, 04:15 PM
 
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If you travel to far away places, it is difficult to find friends or co-workers who want to go with you. Cost, schedule difficulty, different in interest, etc..

I prefer traveling alone anyway. I can go and see whatever I want and don't have to compromise with my traveling partner.
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Old 01-15-2017, 07:22 PM
 
Location: On the road
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Some people are just so insecure that they can't do anything without company.

That's just not me.
It is kind of funny shaking your fist at the people who dare judge you for traveling solo, then make above harsh judgement about people who prefer to travel with their friends of family.
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Old 01-16-2017, 05:13 AM
 
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It is kind of funny shaking your fist at the people who dare judge you for traveling solo, then make above harsh judgement about people who prefer to travel with their friends of family.
Preference and fear are two different things.
Many can't travel solo out of pure fear being alone in a foreign country.
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