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Old 01-09-2019, 12:07 AM
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I'm a contract worker and staying in short to medium term housing, mostly month to month and sometimes shorter like airbnb. The other day I had my eye on a house with a private room, there shared kitchen and other common areas, but with a private bathroom. The reviews were good and the host seemed cheerful in her listing and profile pic so I sent her an inquiry about a potential 3 week trip (stay in her home).
I complimented her on the listing, on her reviews and asked if it was OK that I asked a few questions.

My questions:
1. Is your house near train tracks, does the bedroom face a busy road or are there other disturbances you can think of that would affect a light sleeper?

2. Does the room overlook the garden, driveway or side of the house?

3. Do you impose quiet hours?

4. Does anyone smoke or is a non smoking environment (I asked after I had visited a house the day before that had distinctive smoke smell that led to a sore throat and smelly clothing after I got back home).

Her reply:

Thanks for your inquiry, sedona, it would be my pleasure to answer them. Thanks for thinking of staying in my home for an extended period (3 weeks is considered longer than the usual for airbnb I guess).
1. There are no train tracks but the bedroom does face the road. It's a quiet place (although a previous reviewer said the neighborhood was noisy)

2. See 1, it faces the road.

3. No quiet hours , we expect mutual respect. (Turns out the host is a night owl, more on that later).

4. It's a non smoking environment but yes, I am (she, the host) a smoker. I respect others and smoke outdoors only.

Then she went on to say how she understands my sensitivities and rest assured it will be a peaceful and pleasant stay. (So far so good, except for the smoking part).

I didn't reply right away so she followed up asking if she had replied to my questions, enough to make a choice.

I replied: Yes you did, thanks. Sorry, but I won't be able to reserve the room as I prefer a strictly non smoking environment shared with non smokers and a room that faces a forest or backyard, not the street. I also explained how I had a bad physical reaction following recent exposure to third hand smoke /smell.

She replied immediately assuring me she's clean and not to worry, as compensation for not completely meeting my needs, she was willing to offer me a discount. She offered a price (still too high, IMO, and the smoking and street side were both deal breakers). She then tried writing her phone number in the app but it was blocked (against airbnb rules to give out phone numbers and avoid their booking system). Then when I didn't reply or call her (number was hidden), she concluded with:

Fine, you know what...you're not interested so good luck. (I thought that was the end of it).

I replied the next day pointing out her number was blocked by airbnb and wished her good luck - also told her: no hard feelings on the smoking thing.

A day passes, I've moved on and contacted other hosts, booking another room as a trial and am seriously considering moving out of my current place into there for the next 1-2 months...when the smoking host comes back with a petty message as follows:

--I sincerely hope you found another place that suits your needs. You're too demanding for me. I am happy not to have you here at my house anyway. --

She sent this at 1am on a weekday. Nice. What would motivate someone to write something like that , much less someone who's supposed to be a hospitable host? Would you report her for trying to circumvent the rules by trying to communicate her phone number to me and for that petty insult at the end, would you reply with an insult, or just block her and archive the conversation so I don't have to see her face and words in my inbox?

Old 01-09-2019, 12:12 AM
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You booked another room. I would ignore her and move on.
Old 01-09-2019, 12:39 AM
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I don't think a bitter, rude host like her who breaks the terms of agreement deserves to be on the platform. Maybe if her account was suspended she'd think twice about pulling those stunts again.
Old 01-09-2019, 01:26 AM
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you were pretty demanding, no doubt. You'd likely be trouble, that was some list.
However, that message isn't cool. If she has good rep, I'd ignore it.
Old 01-09-2019, 01:39 AM
Location: NYC
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You dodged a bullet, a few bullets really. Be thankful & move on.
Old 01-09-2019, 09:57 AM
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Move on. Not worth investing your energy in a negative situation.

Reading the story led me to wonder why the woman was so persistent. Is it because a three week booking is really, really good?

Or are there hidden 'issues' (smoking, night owl, street facing room, cleanliness, etc.) that the place doesn't rent well and she needs to be over the top to get anyone to rent from her?
Old 01-09-2019, 10:56 AM
Location: Gallatin, TN
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I'd also advise to just move on. If you get another message from her...report her as that's fairly close to being harassing and she deserves a time-out from airbnb if that happens.

She probably had $$$ in her eyes when she saw "three week booking" and is disappointed to miss out on the steady income. I can see where she might be disappointed, but there's really no need to continue to pressure and/or be snarky.
Old 01-09-2019, 10:59 AM
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Another vote for just move on. There's no need to reply or report.
Old 01-09-2019, 12:00 PM
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Originally Posted by sedonaverde View Post
I don't think a bitter, rude host like her who breaks the terms of agreement deserves to be on the platform. Maybe if her account was suspended she'd think twice about pulling those stunts again.

So you want a host to be banned from Airbnb for making a single rude comment to you? That's pretty hysterical (not to mention ironic), coming from someone who has not only been chastised by management for making rude comments to several other people, but may in fact, be terminated because of it.

Graduated, relocated, praised. A few months later I'm suddenly being accused of being rude and micromanaged. [MERGED]

Originally Posted by sedonaverde View Post
...complaints were lodged to management about me and I was called into the manager's office because she felt the need to share "feedback" with me. Well it started out with what do I think of my workload and there's been some feedback, I want you to listen. I was tired that day, not in the mood for my manager blasting me about so called incidents that I felt were largely exaggerated (remember this is the same manager that praised me months ago) and I didn't know where she was coming from, except that maybe I did something to offend someone, make them uncomfortable and now management was lashing out.

In short, what I thought was a steady contract job could soon vanish The manager has decided that I "need" closer supervision due to a "pattern" of rude behavior.
Old 01-09-2019, 12:18 PM
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Originally Posted by sedonaverde View Post
I don't think a bitter, rude host like her who breaks the terms of agreement deserves to be on the platform. Maybe if her account was suspended she'd think twice about pulling those stunts again.

Would you feel that way if she'd been sweet as pie through and through?

It kind of sounds like you're aggravated at her testy remark, and want revenge.

Also, it sounds like, to me, that she had a glass or two too much wine, when she wrote her last missive.

Sounds like you missed a bullet. But IMO, you should just let it go.
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