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Old 12-15-2009, 11:00 PM
 
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My husband & I will be celebrating a very special anniversary next September. I've done a lot of traveling in my life & think the most beautiful and special place I've been to is Bora Bora in the Society Islands. (Same island chain as Tahiti). I've talked to DH over the years about Bora Bora & he has always said that he would really like to see it "some day". I'm thinking about surprising him with a trip there for our anniversary. My idea is to literally not let him know we are going anywhere until we are on our way to the airport & not tell him the final destination until we are ready to get on the international flight out of LAX. As far as logistics....I know his boss well enough that I could work with him to get the vacation time off for my husband, I know his passport is valid and we have been married more than long enough for me to know what he would want packed. I mentioned my idea to my sister and she thinks its a really, really bad idea to plan and book the vacation without his input.

What I was going for was romantic...

So.... what do y'all think? Good idea or way off base? Especially interested in what the men on here think....would you find it romantic for your wife to "whisk you away" to an exotic and tropical location with no advanced notice...or would you be checking to see if she had a screw loose?

Thanks!
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Old 12-16-2009, 04:40 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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I guess it depends what kind of person he is. My husband did something like this for me once - although he did warn me he had booked a trip (didn't tell me he was booking it, just came home one day and said "I've booked us a trip"), he just didn't tell me where we were going until we got to the airport and got in the check-in line. I thought it was the most romantic he's ever done - even though I can be a bit of a control freak when it comes to planning, at the same time, I love surprises and that one took the cake!
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Old 12-16-2009, 06:29 AM
 
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I guess it depends what kind of person he is. My husband did something like this for me once - although he did warn me he had booked a trip (didn't tell me he was booking it, just came home one day and said "I've booked us a trip"), he just didn't tell me where we were going until we got to the airport and got in the check-in line. I thought it was the most romantic he's ever done - even though I can be a bit of a control freak when it comes to planning, at the same time, I love surprises and that one took the cake!
DH is very laid back. I'm the one that keeps our personal life (house, insurances, bills, etc) running on an even keel. Hmmmm - Maybe it would be a good idea to at least let him know a trip is planned. Thanks!
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Old 12-16-2009, 07:43 AM
 
Location: Hampton Roads, Virginia
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Many years ago I did this same thing. However, it was 4 day trip to New Orleans. It worked out great and he had no idea what we were doing until I pulled into the airport. Then I sat somewhere else to wait and he didn't even know WHERE we were going until we boarded. I saved nearly empty bottle of toiletries and left them out so I could start packing early. I had a few hours alone to pack last minute for hubby.

However, I would have many concerns for an overseas trip. First, there is MUCH to pack, and whenever you take a weeks vacation there is still a lot of things to do to prepare at work.

Maybe you could tell him you are planning a trip (close to the time) and just tell him to pack warm etc and leave the whole destination a secret. That would allow him to prepare at work and pay bills etc for an extended time. You could even 'accidently' leave out brochures for other places - Florida, Carribbean etc - nice, but not the spectacular trip you have planned.
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Old 12-16-2009, 07:50 AM
 
Location: Colorado
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My Dad did that for one of my parents' anniversaries. We told Mum she was going somewhere nice BUT he and I kept the destination (St Lucia) quiet until they checked in at the airport and my mother was absolutely thrilled. I did the packing for her and they had a wonderful time. Unless you can think of a reason why your husband wouldn't be delighted or any legal (visas, etc) or health issues that would require his involvement I think you should be just fine.
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Old 12-16-2009, 09:31 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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Many years ago I did this same thing. However, it was 4 day trip to New Orleans. It worked out great and he had no idea what we were doing until I pulled into the airport. Then I sat somewhere else to wait and he didn't even know WHERE we were going until we boarded.
How did you avoid him finding out during check-in? Maybe it was different, you say it was many years ago... but nowadays, the check-in desks usually have big screens above them with the destination. Sometimes the airline has multiple flight check-ins at the same desks but not always.
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Old 12-16-2009, 09:54 AM
 
Location: Durham, NC
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Go for it! I'd love to do something like that, but with 2 children under 5 years old it's not an easy thing to pull off.
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Old 12-17-2009, 10:44 PM
 
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Go for it! I'd love to do something like that, but with 2 children under 5 years old it's not an easy thing to pull off.
LOL - you'll just have to wait just for the right moment. Our kids are grown, out of the house and all the school loans are paid off. I put the deposit down on the trip today
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Old 12-17-2009, 10:49 PM
 
Location: SW Missouri
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My husband & I will be celebrating a very special anniversary next September. I've done a lot of traveling in my life & think the most beautiful and special place I've been to is Bora Bora in the Society Islands. (Same island chain as Tahiti). I've talked to DH over the years about Bora Bora & he has always said that he would really like to see it "some day". I'm thinking about surprising him with a trip there for our anniversary. My idea is to literally not let him know we are going anywhere until we are on our way to the airport & not tell him the final destination until we are ready to get on the international flight out of LAX. As far as logistics....I know his boss well enough that I could work with him to get the vacation time off for my husband, I know his passport is valid and we have been married more than long enough for me to know what he would want packed. I mentioned my idea to my sister and she thinks its a really, really bad idea to plan and book the vacation without his input.

What I was going for was romantic...

So.... what do y'all think? Good idea or way off base? Especially interested in what the men on here think....would you find it romantic for your wife to "whisk you away" to an exotic and tropical location with no advanced notice...or would you be checking to see if she had a screw loose?

Thanks!
I am a control freak and I would not appreciate anyone (even my dh) making travel plans without my input. There are things in my life about which he has no clue and which going away without sufficient preparation would be unsettling and distressing to me.

But hey, you know your dh better than I do. LOL

20yrsinBranson
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