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In keeping with this topic, this morning I watched a re-run of the Dr. Phil Show in regard to Chester Stiles - [2007 - fugitive capture] for sexual assault[s] and one of the most egregious assaults, on a 3 yr old and video taping the assault.
One of the many issues presented on this show -- what could be warning signs that the neighbor next door, or the boyfriend, stepfather, coach, etc. could be a sexual predator were staggering. Certainly I was aware of some of those signs, but clearly, not all. Incredibly scary and ones that everyone, especially parents, should be aware of - further, these are signs that colleagues should certainly know.
In the beginning of the year, a friend of mine's husband was charged with two counts of L&L w/his stepdaughter [a minor]. It was shocking, disturbing and certainly devastating to my friend. She has always had a close relationship with her kids; they have also known they can go to her for anything and can talk to her about anything. Her daughter did not; her daughter told one of her school friends [we are talking elementary school] who told, her mom who told the teacher who called the authorities. After a short investigation, as in an or hour so, he was formally charged and led out of the house. He is out on bail w/conditions of release.
This happened in my town; everyone clearly was shocked. There are, basically, two divisions - he did it, he did not do it. It has been incredibly difficult for all of us to believe ths happened, by him as we all know him. I have vascillated back and forth.
What was astonishing to me was listening to the "criteria" [for a lack of better terminology] this morning and I must admit, everyone of the criteria described, fits this guy.
So, predators are in our neighborhoods; they can be the friendly neighbor who is always there to help pitch in when needed, they can be that coach who is helping that troubled and/or confused kid....
I hate to see anyone falsely and unjustifiably accused of any crime - no matter what, at least depending upon the crime, there is always the scarlet letter that accompanies them wherever they go, yet, to not question someone's actions that "do not feel right" and/or are not addressed when another person has knowledge that assaults are ongoing is unacceptable, egregious and irresponsible, in my opinion.
But there have been some reports about what Sandusky did that I think are undeniably sexual abuse....
There are a lot of "gray area" cases, but I don't think this is one of them.
Oh, the allegations, if true, are obviously abuse. Nobody disagrees. But the showering does not, by itself, prove the allegations are true. I think we agree on that.
I am not aware that he has admitted this. Citation?
So if he doesn't admit to the accusations it never happened...right.
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Originally Posted by djacques
Oh, the allegations, if true, are obviously abuse. Nobody disagrees. But the showering does not, by itself, prove the allegations are true. I think we agree on that.
I see you're back to defending worthless pedophiles.
Well, that is correct. The act of taking a shower with a child does not equal child molestation. However, in Sandusky's case, there are allegations of other activities, ie..child who stated he was molested at Sandusky's home.
It seems that 9 mile, his "charity" for children, also terminated his activities with children because of "problems".
So, now, we have allegations from several sources, in various activities. If nothing else, all of these issues merit investigation.
Oh, the allegations, if true, are obviously abuse. Nobody disagrees. But the showering does not, by itself, prove the allegations are true. I think we agree on that.
It depends on the intent of the showering. A coach could be "checking out" his or her students while in the showers, which would be inappropriate. It's hard to say whether any particular activity is or is not sexual because it depends on how it's done and the cultural context. In some cultures, nudity itself is sexual, whereas in others, it's not. A glance or a light touch on the shoulder isn't always sexual but it can be sexual. Again, it's hard to draw the line firmly in the sand. It's one of those things where you have to be there to know if a line was crossed.
It depends on the intent of the showering. A coach could be "checking out" his or her students while in the showers, which would be inappropriate. It's hard to say whether any particular activity is or is not sexual because it depends on how it's done and the cultural context. In some cultures, nudity itself is sexual, whereas in others, it's not. A glance or a light touch on the shoulder isn't always sexual but it can be sexual. Again, it's hard to draw the line firmly in the sand. It's one of those things where you have to be there to know if a line was crossed.
"It depends on the intent of the showering." No, this has nothing to do with intent of showering. This wasn't about "showering." This was about an indecent assault. Why do people on this thread keep talking about showering? An indecent assault allegedly was commited in a shower. The crime is not showering despite the idea that some people on this discussion seem to think showering in a public facility is a crime. Read the grand jury report and get the facts straight. http://www.attorneygeneral.gov/press.aspx?id=6270
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