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Old 04-06-2010, 07:03 PM
 
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I am from Boston and am moving to Tulsa in August. This is a concern of mine as well. I have looked into meetup.com There seems to be a good amount of groups to look into depending on your interests. As awkward as it may be when I have moved to a new place I have gone to bars by myself and just struck up a conversation with people.
One particular place I recommend if you like beer and friendly people around - McNellie's. They "probably" have the best beer in town.
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Old 04-10-2010, 11:12 AM
 
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I ran into this problem 10 yrs ago when I moved to Tulsa from Kansas City. I hated it. I wound up moving after only a year there, but moved out to Claremore. It was a smaller town. But then I met some nicer people and branched out--now I've finally settled in.

I didn't find people in Tulsa to be very friendly. Kansas City was way different. People in Tulsa seemed kind of guarded or just stuck up or didn't care to make a new friend. Kind of kept to their own group...Don't know if that makes sense...and sorry to offend if you don't agree...this is just from the perspective of a former single gal who moved to Tulsa for a job...
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Old 04-13-2010, 10:19 PM
 
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Last weekend some of us went to Haven House in Muskogee to paint. (Haven House is where the female relatives of hospitalized Veterans can stay for free while the Vet is in the Jack C. Montgomery VA Hospital. It is an old house that needs some work and we want to make it nicer for these ladies.)

None of us knew each other...but we had a good time and decided to meet back there this Saturday to paint another room. Ages were from 19 to 50s, males and females.

Some of us didn't know what we were doing, while thankfully others did.

You are most welcome to bring a paint brush and join in.

We will bring food for a picnic so we can work and eat all day.
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Old 04-14-2010, 10:01 PM
 
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I ran into this problem 10 yrs ago when I moved to Tulsa from Kansas City. I hated it. I wound up moving after only a year there, but moved out to Claremore. It was a smaller town. But then I met some nicer people and branched out--now I've finally settled in.

I didn't find people in Tulsa to be very friendly. Kansas City was way different. People in Tulsa seemed kind of guarded or just stuck up or didn't care to make a new friend. Kind of kept to their own group...Don't know if that makes sense...and sorry to offend if you don't agree...this is just from the perspective of a former single gal who moved to Tulsa for a job...
We moved here from KCK in 1972. I guess people were friendlier back then because we are still here!
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Old 04-14-2010, 10:52 PM
 
Location: Charlotte, NC (in my mind)
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So, I moved to Tulsa last June. I am a 25 year old hairstylist and I have no children. Typically, it is not hard to make friends in my field but all the girls who work at my salon have children and are too busy to hang out.

I go to the mall-alone. I go to Barnes And Nobles-alone. I go to Starbucks-alone. I go to the gym-alone. I have always been social and had a lot of friends but since I have moved here I have become homesick and sad.

I have looked into TYPros but it doesnt seem like something that suits me. I go to a Catholic church but Catholics dont really talk to eachother.
I'm still young and silly and not ready to take myself too seriously. At home (Boston), people are more like me and it is never hard to meet new people.

I dont know what to do Today is my day off, it's going to be in the 80's and I will be stuck at home.
I find Oklahoma a somewhat difficult place to make friends. I lived in Oklahoma City for 4 years and could not make friends the whole time I was there, no matter what I tried. Its not me or a lack of sociability because I was fine in Kansas City before that and I was fine in Little Rock and now in Charlotte. I don't really know what to tell you other than get involved in stuff where you will meet other people. I am not sure what it is about Oklahoma but I think it has something to do with the lack of transients and the fact pretty much everybody there establishes their friendships in kindergarten and keeps the same friends through adulthood. Nothing wrong with that, except for those people are usually more closed off to making time for new friends.
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Old 04-14-2010, 10:56 PM
 
Location: Stillwater, Oklahoma
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I find Oklahoma a somewhat difficult place to make friends. I lived in Oklahoma City for 4 years and could not make friends the whole time I was there, no matter what I tried. Its not me or a lack of sociability because I was fine in Kansas City before that and I was fine in Little Rock and now in Charlotte. I don't really know what to tell you other than get involved in stuff where you will meet other people. I am not sure what it is about Oklahoma but I think it has something to do with the lack of transients and the fact pretty much everybody there establishes their friendships in kindergarten and keeps the same friends through adulthood. Nothing wrong with that, except for those people are usually more closed off to making time for new friends.
So did you go to church while in Oklahoma City? If not, maybe that was your problem.
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Old 04-14-2010, 10:59 PM
 
Location: Charlotte, NC (in my mind)
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So did you go to church while in Oklahoma City? If not, maybe that was your problem.
I was in church every Sunday and Wednesday when I lived in OKC. My parents had the same issue. Nobody in our family could make any friends in OKC no matter how hard we tried. I know it sounds crazy, but I also know I am not the only one who has experienced this. I have lived all over the US and Oklahoma is the only place I have had any issue making friends.
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Old 04-15-2010, 12:23 AM
 
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So did you go to church while in Oklahoma City? If not, maybe that was your problem.
Wow. How about not going to church, never ever.
How about not-going-to-casino is a problem?
By the way, there is the Tulsa atheists meetup group.
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Old 04-15-2010, 11:25 AM
 
Location: OKIE-Ville
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Wow. How about not going to church, never ever.
How about not-going-to-casino is a problem?
By the way, there is the Tulsa atheists meetup group.
BChris understands the culture in OK City/Oklahoma. He's from Arkansas which is just as Evangelically dominated as Oklahoma. Obviously it is an exaggeration to say that one HAS to go to church to make friends, but in a place like Oklahoma/Arkansas it sure helps with the process.

Sorry to hear that you didn't make a lot of friends in OK City, BChris. Give us Okies another chance to make it up to you.

Blessings.
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Old 04-16-2010, 11:52 PM
 
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Yep, church didn't work out too well for me in Tulsa either, tried various ones over the years I lived there, but never really found a fit. Some of it might be because I grew up in a different part of the state and attended college outside Oklahoma. It can be a little hard when you aren't from the area. Not that it isn't friendly on a casual level, just that it is hard to "break in." Sounds like I'm not the only one who had that experience in Tulsa.
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