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Old 08-13-2014, 01:53 PM
 
Location: Greenville, SC
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I've been divorced for 25 years, my wife's still alive in another state and remarried, and I still have occasional vivid dreams that we're back together again and love each other. Same with my erstwhile stepdaughter. We're not meeting in heaven or hell or another plane, it's my mind working through unfinished business via dreams. I don't see any reason why I should view vivid dreams of dead loved ones any differently.
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Old 08-13-2014, 03:02 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I've been divorced for 25 years, my wife's still alive in another state and remarried, and I still have occasional vivid dreams that we're back together again and love each other. Same with my erstwhile stepdaughter. We're not meeting in heaven or hell or another plane, it's my mind working through unfinished business via dreams. I don't see any reason why I should view vivid dreams of dead loved ones any differently.
Sometimes there's a completely different quality about the dream: much more vivid, or other qualities that have never before been experienced in a dream state, or are rarely experienced. Something like that could lead someone to believe that something unusual and other-worldly had occurred.
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Old 08-13-2014, 04:07 PM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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Once or twice a year one of my deceased parents will be in one of my dreams. The dream is never about the parent; the parent just happens to be there in an everyday situation, as though they are still a part of my life. I find it comforting and wake up happy after such dreams.

By the way, my mom died in 1971, when I was in high school, and my dad died in 1998.

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Old 08-13-2014, 04:11 PM
 
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I can understand not believing this can happen, I myself have been skeptical in the past, but what about when the deceased person is in your dream and tells you something you have no idea about and then after the dream you find out it is true.
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Old 08-13-2014, 05:08 PM
 
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Yes! The "wedding" dream! Just after I got engaged, I dreamed my Aunt Louise was on the phone (I could see her, but she was talking to me), telling me that she was so pleased to hear I was getting married. She had died 10 years earlier.
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Old 08-13-2014, 05:12 PM
 
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BTW, I remember hearing somewhere that when the deceased come to visit us in dreams, often their lips don't move but you can still hear them. That was the case with my dream. Has anyone else heard this too??
Yes, this, too. I know what they are saying, but I hear it in my mind; I don't "hear" their voice, and I don't notice their lips moving.

This also occurred in a near-death experience; I knew what my Aunt Catherine meant, but her lips and even facial expression didn't move or change. And I don't know how, but you simply KNOW it is a visitation and not a dream. It's like the difference between watching live theater and a movie.
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Old 08-13-2014, 07:26 PM
 
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My mom, dad, cousin and husband have visited me in dreams. I know they were visits, especially by what they said.
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Old 08-13-2014, 07:28 PM
 
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This also occurred in a near-death experience; I knew what my Aunt Catherine meant, but her lips and even facial expression didn't move or change. And I don't know how, but you simply KNOW it is a visitation and not a dream. It's like the difference between watching live theater and a movie.
This is exactly how my dream was. It was like the thoughts were just there as opposed to him talking. And the description of watching live theater vs a movie is so accurate. My dream about my dad was just different than any other dream and just felt special. I have never experienced this before or since.
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Old 08-15-2014, 02:15 PM
 
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My dream about my dad was just different than any other dream and just felt special. I have never experienced this before or since.
A year after my mom died, she visited me when I was in that early morning not-quite-awake, not-quite-asleep stage.
It too had a different feel from a dream. If pressed, I'd describe it more as a vision. It was a very intense experience. I didn't initially recognize her. She appeared to me as a young girl, and it took a moment for me to recognize her as the girl in my mom's childhood photos. She didn't speak but wrapped her arms around me and her eyes held mine in an intense, loving gaze. That was the "message" I received: intense, unconditional, unwavering love. As long as I live, I'll never forget that gaze - the thought of it brings tears to my eyes even now, several years later.

The event took me by surprise because although we were far from estranged, we didn't have an especially close bond in life. She was quite old and ill when she died. I spent her last days and hours with her, was able to say good-bye, buried her, and had hardly ever thought about her in the intervening year.
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Old 08-15-2014, 03:45 PM
 
Location: Atlanta
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Sigh.

When I was growing up I lived in a house with my grandparents, mom, brother, and uncle. It saddens me that my grandfather passed away just weeks ago.

But years ago, when I was around 14 my uncle committed suicide; he was in his 20s. I really felt close to him growing up as he was the young/funny one in the household that was always clowning around...at least that's the way I remembered him. He had issues with drugs though, and it was sad/shocking to find out when he passed. It was my first experience with death at the time and it impacted me profoundly. I was the last one to see him alive.

Anywho, I used to have dreams about him shortly after his passing. The dreams were usually how he had played a joke on us and faked his death. But the most vivid dream I had, he was in the house with me. I think he knocked and came in through the door, or I had come into a room he was in and I could just feel the shock associated with him being there with me, followed by an intense feeling of joy that came with the realization that he 'was back'. What will always remain with me about the dream is how, after asking him why he left, he responded with a smile, chuckle, and the response, "But don't you get it? I 'never' left?"

And just like that he turns to leave and I awaken from the dream. But it's the experience I had between the point of the dream ending and myself awakening. It was a feeling I've never had in my life before and don't think I can explain, nor am I sure if I'll ever had it again. But have you ever had your heart broken? I mean, as in fallen in love with someone who you thought was the only one who could ever fulfill you in life heart-broken? Have you ever experienced that tear-jerking, heavy-hearted, log of a lump in your throat that swells until you burst with tears of sorrow? Well, it was 'sorta' like that feeling, except my whole body ached with it as I was transported back to a state of being awake, drenched in a pillow full of tears. It literally felt like I had been dropped back on earth from some other unknown place and it was so painful just not to be able to speak back or say anything more to him at the time.

Now when I look back on these dreams I can't help but live with a little hope that I will see my lost loved ones again.
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