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Old 08-21-2014, 11:28 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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Our neighbors right next to us are like family now. We do things together and have keys to each others houses. Some new neighbors moved in about a year ago across the ally and we've already done things with them. I actually like them better then the old neighbors. Their dog comes over for play dates with my boys. Our neighbors directly across the ally have a dog that comes over and plays and so do the neighbors dog next to them. Those two neighbors have been at war for decades and hate each other. They both try to drag us into their drama but I just give an honest opinion and tell them both how sad it is to live like that. I like them both but one is a retired police officer from our town and an untreated bipolar. I've had to avoid talking to him on occasion as well. The new neighbors across the street will never come close to the ones that moved taking my three boy shorties with them. They're not bad people, just not my cup of tea. The neighbors a couple of doors down have a pool that I can go to any time I want. The kids used to come and get me to swim with them when they were younger, but they're teenagers now. Sigh. The one neighbor shortie spends the night with us when the two crazy sisters come. I just had them for three nights a couple of weeks ago. It was so much fun. It's nice when you enjoy the people around you. I couldn't imagine not being friends with people that can make your life so miserable if things go wrong.
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Old 08-21-2014, 11:38 AM
 
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I personally feel that yard size, density, and neighborhood layout have A LOT to do with it.

My block is very tight. It's a suburban neighborhood, but the yards are fairly small and the street is narrow. We can use talking voices when conversing with neighbors across the street, etc.

I have friends who are astounded over how many of our neighbors we know. They live in a larger house in a neighborhood with big lots. They simply do not have the ability to see and talk to neighbors a few houses down because of the distances.
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Old 08-21-2014, 01:02 PM
 
Location: Princeton
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I just cut a couple of good cigars and had a coffee with two of my Neighbors, actually, my Neighborhood is considered quite and in the sticks, everyone minds their own business but we're all pretty much friends on a first name basis and we enjoy our early Saturday and Sunday Morning coffee at the coffee shop. It's a very cool neighborhood..
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Old 08-21-2014, 01:12 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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My own parents never interacted with neighbors at their old house. I found it very odd that when they finally moved out a few years ago, no one said a word to them because no one even knew who the were. But my parents aren't the social type either. This article mentioned the people who only have their spouse as a human contact. That's my mother. Once my dad's gone, it's just her and the TV.
In my childhood neighborhood, we kids played together, and the moms did some chit-chatting together. My dad was a volunteer fireman, and in later years was elected to the borough (this was Pennsylvania) council. My mom was on the Ladies' Auxiliary, and active with the PTO. Yet, they never socialized with the neighbors a la having people over for dinner, being invited over for dinner, etc. Most of their socializing, little as they did, was with family and/or church. Our borough (~800 people) did have a "Lawn Fete" every year to raise money for the FD, and people got together then. Maybe others did more with the neighobors.

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Our neighbors right next to us are like family now. We do things together and have keys to each others houses. Some new neighbors moved in about a year ago across the ally and we've already done things with them. I actually like them better then the old neighbors. Their dog comes over for play dates with my boys. Our neighbors directly across the ally have a dog that comes over and plays and so do the neighbors dog next to them. Those two neighbors have been at war for decades and hate each other. They both try to drag us into their drama but I just give an honest opinion and tell them both how sad it is to live like that. I like them both but one is a retired police officer from our town and an untreated bipolar. I've had to avoid talking to him on occasion as well. The new neighbors across the street will never come close to the ones that moved taking my three boy shorties with them. They're not bad people, just not my cup of tea. The neighbors a couple of doors down have a pool that I can go to any time I want. The kids used to come and get me to swim with them when they were younger, but they're teenagers now. Sigh. The one neighbor shortie spends the night with us when the two crazy sisters come. I just had them for three nights a couple of weeks ago. It was so much fun. It's nice when you enjoy the people around you. I couldn't imagine not being friends with people that can make your life so miserable if things go wrong.
Re: the bolds-neighbors come in all sorts of personalities. You don't have to like them all. The "evil neighbor" is a theme in many a movie, TV show, etc. I like most of my neighbors too. Just sayin'.

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I personally feel that yard size, density, and neighborhood layout have A LOT to do with it.

My block is very tight. It's a suburban neighborhood, but the yards are fairly small and the street is narrow. We can use talking voices when conversing with neighbors across the street, etc.

I have friends who are astounded over how many of our neighbors we know. They live in a larger house in a neighborhood with big lots. They simply do not have the ability to see and talk to neighbors a few houses down because of the distances.
Why would you yell across the street? Why not just walk up and talk? I lived in a 'hood once with large lots; that's what we did.
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