Bullying (home, schools, quality of life) - Utah (UT) - City-Data Forum

michelleleigh · 10-20-2011, 11:04 AM

We have been having a ongoing bullying problem at my sons school. The child told my son that he will bring a pocket knife to school and stab him. We have told my son not to play with this boy before, that he has to be kind because he is a fellow human being but he does not have to be friends with him. AT this point I am done, we have followed all of the schools rules to a T(not even allowing him to ware a baseball cap when other children, break the rule) I even went along with the idea of making my son responsible for being bullied, that if he is caught around the child trying to talk to him( I had the teachers and principle ask the boy if my child bugs him he said no) he will get punished. My son is not the bully, this other child has been known to bully other kids and nothing is being done. We are seriously considering pulling him out of school and home schooling him(however it seems to be punishing him more then anything) I understand that Utah schools are over extended in many ways however this is just icrazy. Does any one know the next step I should take with the school or state

dcisive · 10-20-2011, 11:35 AM

I don't have children and have long felt burdened with the taxes that are not rightfully charged to me. BUT with that said since I DO have to pay them to support the school system I sure wish they would adopt a NO TOLERANCE policy as they have for guns, for bullies. I think the parents should be stuck with the unruly brats they failed to bring up right. And that those who are decent shouldn't have to be forced to put up with them. that or another kid should stick that knife up where the sun doesn't shine and teach that brat a lesson he won't soon forget.

stycotl · 10-20-2011, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by michelleleigh

We have been having a ongoing bullying problem at my sons school. The child told my son that he will bring a pocket knife to school and stab him. We have told my son not to play with this boy before, that he has to be kind because he is a fellow human being but he does not have to be friends with him. AT this point I am done, we have followed all of the schools rules to a T(not even allowing him to ware a baseball cap when other children, break the rule) I even went along with the idea of making my son responsible for being bullied, that if he is caught around the child trying to talk to him( I had the teachers and principle ask the boy if my child bugs him he said no) he will get punished. My son is not the bully, this other child has been known to bully other kids and nothing is being done. We are seriously considering pulling him out of school and home schooling him(however it seems to be punishing him more then anything) I understand that Utah schools are over extended in many ways however this is just icrazy. Does any one know the next step I should take with the school or state

have you brought the bullying to the school's attention? if they don't take care of issues like that when they are notified of problems, they can get in trouble.

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I don't have children and have long felt burdened with the taxes that are not rightfully charged to me.

at the same time, realize that supporting education makes society as a whole better, which in turn betters your own quality of life. it's a slow battle to be sure (especially with how horribly government handles education funds), but it is one of the things that i think is most worth supporting financially.

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BUT with that said since I DO have to pay them to support the school system I sure wish they would adopt a NO TOLERANCE policy as they have for guns, for bullies. I think the parents should be stuck with the unruly brats they failed to bring up right. And that those who are decent shouldn't have to be forced to put up with them.

that sounds reasonable to me.

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that or another kid should stick that knife up where the sun doesn't shine and teach that brat a lesson he won't soon forget.

karma––it'll come around eventually. sometimes it is up to us decent citizens to speed it up a bit...

kaytidid · 10-20-2011, 12:40 PM

Most schools to have a zero tolerance policy for bullying. You can take it to the superintendent of the district if working with the principal does not seem to be doing the trick. Check your son's handbook for their policy on bullying.

Maybe this link might be helpful, too. http://stopbullyingnow.com/

Good luck and hugs to your poor son!!

michelleleigh · 10-20-2011, 12:55 PM

Thank you for the info, the schools handbook does say that bullying is not tolerated but their is no real guideline on how it will be handled. The good thing is its a long weekend, I will be able to decompress and Monday I will be going to school with my son and sitting in.

Huckleberry3911948 · 10-20-2011, 01:01 PM

bullying is a major problem here. its because gangsta culture has been allowed to thrive in the k12.
it breeds thugs not students.it is allowed to fester under the guise of culture identity. it stinks. running away wont solve it. you are proceeding well. picking your son up and dropping off from school will make the window smaller for bully behavior. since your son is not participating in violence with the the other child unlikely that knife threats will not escalate into reality.
prediction, the thug eventually will bring a knife to school and the school will nail him. one of the few ways you can get expelled. if your kid sees him with a knife he needs to report it asap. consider becoming catholic and going to a catholic school? i went to a really bad school. i left to go to a better. lots of the kids at the old school graduated to prison.

kaytidid · 10-20-2011, 01:17 PM

You do not need to be Catholic to attend a Catholic school. Just sayin...

At my dd's school, there was a boy in her class last year who was suspended for 3 quarters just for fighting. He was out from the beginning of 2nd term until the end of the year. Everyone has a boss. Don't quit until someone finally listens!

Huckleberry3911948 · 10-20-2011, 03:08 PM

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You do not need to be Catholic to attend a Catholic school. Just sayin...

At my dd's school, there was a boy in her class last year who was suspended for 3 quarters just for fighting. He was out from the beginning of 2nd term until the end of the year. Everyone has a boss. Don't quit until someone finally listens!

i know but makes a big difference how you are treated.

MaryleeII · 10-20-2011, 03:22 PM

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i know but makes a big difference how you are treated.

If you want to see some real bullying, try being in a Catholic school and not be Catholic

michelleleigh · 10-20-2011, 04:25 PM

The sad thing is the school does know about the situation, I think part of the problem is that the schools are a bit overextended out here. I feel for the little boy who is bullying and told my son that by telling an adult when things like this happen, we are also helping the bully get the help he needs.