high maintenance and stuck up women in Draper (Virgin: condo, school)

[Tim Tim Tim]

yeah, she would probably know more then me as well but just from what I have seen with other kids raised. the young age is the most important to teach them rules, discipline and respect. Its like laying the foundation. You cant build a house without a strong foundation. The people want to let there kids to whatever they want and expect them to be decent when they hit there teenage years, there crazy.

[aneal00]

I think the original poster's observations are correct. People in Utah are overly occupied with appearance, especially for belonging to a culture that preaches to be humble and selfless. During the past 8 years I have lived in many places outside of Utah (Seattle, Phoenix), and when I moved here I saw a distinct difference in the appearance of Women, especially. No, there is nothing wrong with being clean. There is something wrong when you can't go to the park without peep-toe wedge heels on. These "modest" women dress and wear make-up like they are going to night clubs, but with sleeves of course.

I believe there are correlating factors here. Please consider the following Statistics of the Utah population:

Youngest marrying age
Youngest child bearing age
Most children born
AND...
Very significant rates of depression among women
Highest plastic surgery rates (again, humble and selfless?)
Highest prescription drug abuse
One of the highest rates of bankruptcy (The "Keeping up with the Jones'" is a whole different post)


Its like a puzzle that all fits together.

[AAbsolute]

Originally Posted by snowlover7

I agree with Tim... no matter what town you go to you will find folks that think they are "better than". It is my experience that the people that are the most stuck up, actually have the most to "hide". It's almost like the snobby attitude is a wall to keep you from getting to know how they really are. It is also my opinion that many that appear to be stuck up, do so to give the "perception" they are "better than", in reality they are the most insecure.

I thought about what you said. I think you are probably correct. Thanks for the psych lesson.

[ShouldIMoveOrStayPut...?]

Pride goeth before destruction, and a haughty spirit before the fall.
Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the
spoil with the proud.

~Proverbs 16: 18-19 (KJV)

[daisywolf]

why do people concern themselves about people who appear "stuck up"

[snowlover7]

I wish this board had some real meaningful topics to discuss. Talking about people is the lowest form of communication. We need to cultivate & share ideas to encourage each other.

[stycotl]

Originally Posted by snowlover7

I wish this board had some real meaningful topics to discuss. Talking about people is the lowest form of communication. We need to cultivate & share ideas to encourage each other.

seconded. way to bring us back to reality.

maybe we could all go to the great debates forum and create a thread that would actually be worthy of the great debates forum, since most of them there fir into the politcs&controversies forum, or the yet to be seen gossip forum. come to think of it, most of the threads here in the utah forum should go to that last one too.

[Moose1724]

I don't really think there are stuck up women per say, I mean have you ever tried to approach them? One cannot judge a woman based on her appearance or her attitude and a chance meeting. Having kids is tough and can be stressful, to really understand a woman you have to spend time with her

[osugirl2]

Women who have children shouldn't work outside the home. They are the primary caregivers to their children.

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In your opinion, right?? Unfortunately, some of us don't have a choice, although I have to honestly say I would choose to work in addition to being a mother even if I had the option to stay home.

[snowlover7]

well, yes, my opinion, that's why I wrote it. If you are going to have kids, you should make them your MAIN job...I feel really bad for kids' whose mothers would rather work (by choice) than be the child's primary caregiver... why have kids at all? they are only young once and if you choose to work, if you don't have to is just plain selfish. Sorry, but that's my opinion! No one can do the job of caring for a child better than their own mother. For those that need to "get away" you weren't cut out for motherhood.