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Old 09-14-2011, 08:39 AM
 
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I had a teacher in 9th grade who really hated me and whenever I had to go to his class I felt sick, it must really be bad for a 9 year old.

Would you say that your town is friendly and accepting in general though? Did you find a good school?
Homeschooled 5th through 12.

Friendly? Not particularly. Arrogant? Yes. (Our town is mostly people who have moved in from out of state.)

Good school? They think it is. They hide their heads in the sand and pretend. The high school if loaded with drugs and the principal looks the other way. The lower grades are run by mothers who think they are better than anyone else.

I don't mingle too much in this town, but I love Vermont.
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Old 09-14-2011, 12:41 PM
 
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Are most towns like that or are there any that are better
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Old 09-14-2011, 01:46 PM
 
Location: Rutland, VT
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Are most towns like that or are there any that are better
Experiences vary considerably, even among people living in the same town. I would consider what people say, then visit, do your own research, and decide for yourself.
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Old 09-14-2011, 09:14 PM
 
Location: Inis Fada
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Homeschooled 5th through 12.

Friendly? Not particularly. Arrogant? Yes. (Our town is mostly people who have moved in from out of state.)

Good school? They think it is. They hide their heads in the sand and pretend. The high school if loaded with drugs and the principal looks the other way. The lower grades are run by mothers who think they are better than anyone else.

I don't mingle too much in this town, but I love Vermont.
Did you grow up there, or have you moved there from elsewhere?
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Old 09-15-2011, 05:24 AM
 
Location: Winter Springs, FL
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Sherylcatmom brings up a very good point. Everyone will have a different experience. Someone with a child that was never bullied will defend a town (school), while a parent with a bullied child will have little good to say about the school system. The reality is that bullying is a problem in every town and in every town in every state. There is nothing that a law can do to change it and in reality the only way it will ever stop is if parents were responsible enough to teach their children to respect everyone, but as we all know, this will most likely never happen.
It's a fairly well know statistic that a child that was bullied in one school system and then transfers to another system has a high chance of being bullied again. The thought is that if a child has physical, social, or psychological differences, those same traits will be a target wherever they go. We never give it much thought, but when we are children, we are at our highest level of intelligence and one persons weakness or disability is very easy to discover and target. The issue is children are intelligent, but they are not mature.
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Old 09-15-2011, 07:26 PM
 
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Did you grow up there, or have you moved there from elsewhere?
I've been here for 12 years, and Mad River Valley for 11 years prior to here. Originally from Michigan.
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Old 09-16-2011, 07:17 AM
 
Location: Inis Fada
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I've been here for 12 years, and Mad River Valley for 11 years prior to here. Originally from Michigan.
In essence you're sort of from away, too.

My concern (outside of steady, good paying, year-round employment) was the impact of permanently relocating with one school-aged child. (jr high level)

There are misperceptions that would need to have bern tackled: being from LI she would be pegged as rich, a princess, an interloper, have a 'funny accent', not be skilled in things rural, etc., despite being a rather friendly and out-going child. Couple that with the onset of puberty and established cliques... I didn't care for the odds.

In fairness, my decision was made more out of concern for transition and maintaining grades and less with concern for potential bullying.
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Old 09-16-2011, 11:19 AM
 
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In essence you're sort of from away, too.
True, but even in the smaller community of the Valley, most thought I was a local.


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There are misperceptions that would need to have bern tackled: being from LI she would be pegged as rich, a princess, an interloper, have a 'funny accent', not be skilled in things rural, etc., despite being a rather friendly and out-going child. Couple that with the onset of puberty and established cliques... I didn't care for the odds. .
In all honesty, no one would care of any of the bolded around here. Seriously, we have lots of 'rich princesses' and accents seem to all blend over a little time with kids. The country things come in time, as well.

K-8 in our school (High School is a consolidation of 5 smaller communities), there are about 1200+-.
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Old 09-17-2011, 02:08 PM
 
Location: Inis Fada
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True, but even in the smaller community of the Valley, most thought I was a local.


In all honesty, no one would care of any of the bolded around here. Seriously, we have lots of 'rich princesses' and accents seem to all blend over a little time with kids. The country things come in time, as well.

K-8 in our school (High School is a consolidation of 5 smaller communities), there are about 1200+-.
You're not a 'lawnguylander' and are no matter where we go, people have a stereotype about LIers which is far from flattering. Going to college upstate (Albany) I dealt with a significant number of people who thought all LIers were rich Jewish people. Open one's mouth and the LI accent pops out -- no denying where one is from.

We're the ones who are from away who (despite people not knowing us) are presumed to be overrunning the state of VT and turning it into granola Disney. So on top of the concern of our children be accepted by their peers, we have to deal with being accepted by their peers parents. Come upon one myopic individual who labels you without getting to know you and you're sunk -- even if you are very much in agreement with them!

The high school sounds small for 4 grades. I attended a similar sized school in Massapequa. In comparison to bit the school you've mentioned and my HS, my son's graduating class in Setauket had over 650 students. To bring this back to the topic, I found there were fewer instances of bullying problems in the larger school as there was a much larger number of 'weak' students in the population which enabled them to be supportive of one another. The smaller school I attended had a few 'weak' students who were labeled targets early on and never were able to shed that.
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