One of the great things about this area is the cultural activities - mostly in Norfolk and the historical areas. You could probably find a fixer upper in your price range - in Portsmouth or Chesapeake. You would not be right on the beach, but we are all 30 minutes away.
Nightlife.... with kids in the near future, your nightlife fun will be limited

Va Beach waterfront is college kid central at night, but there are places everywhere that have clubs. The neighborhoods here are so diverse - good and bad that it would be best to rent and explore the area before you bought something. Traffic in the tunnels can be a mess and your home should be as close to work as possible.
Our winters here are milder than New England! Last year we had a dusting of snow for about 20 minutes. The one good thing about Hampton Roads, is it a decent size area with jobs, a decent cost of living ratio and it is on the water. Not too many areas like that.