Dad's too "macho" to make plans with other Dads? (how much, live in)

[FeelGood2011]

My original post is in the context of other dads who I know from around town, etc and our kids are friends with each other. These are not strangers. That is my point. Most of the responses seem to point towards the fact that there is a social taboo - or just cowardice- on the part of other men who don't want to make friends for themselves or for their kids. That is a shame. I was doing it for the kids.

Originally Posted by stan4

I kind of have to agree with this.

[richmondpics]

Honestly man, based on some of your previous posts, I'm convinced you just have some bad luck with your neighbors. This isn't your first thread about unfriendly neighbors. Dad's in my neighborhood all get together w/ the kids and hang out... playground, park flying squirrels, farmer's market, etc. Same goes for the dog park.

Good luck though... don't let em bring you down.

[FeelGood2011]

Richmondpics,
Exactly! What county do you live in? Maybe its luck of the draw.

Originally Posted by richmondpics

Honestly man, based on some of your previous posts, I'm convinced you just have some bad luck with your neighbors. This isn't your first thread about unfriendly neighbors. Dad's in my neighborhood all get together w/ the kids and hang out... playground, park flying squirrels, farmer's market, etc. Same goes for the dog park.

Good luck though... don't let em bring you down.

[richmondpics]

I live in Bellevue... which is in the City. Good neighborhood elementary school though.

[user8]

Originally Posted by FeelGood2011

User8:
Yes, you have completely missed the point.

Nope. They're weirded out and you can't take it. Sorry.

[Kreutz]

Originally Posted by FeelGood2011

Kreutz,
I am talking about other dads who I know from around town, etc and our kids are friends with each other. These are not strangers. That is my point. I am also very busy, have a full time job, happy with my family and have childhood friends, but I am willing to make the effort and go the extra mile for my kids. So your post and the other responses from some other posters seem to point towards the fact that there is a social taboo - or just cowardice- on the part of other men who don't want to make friends for themselves or for their kids. That is a shame.

There is in fact a social taboo on men being friendly towards other men.

We are to be independent after all. As I said I ain't macho man, but even I consider a male openly in need of male friendship defective in some way, sorry, its just instinctual.

The fact these guys are acquaintances changes nothing; they are comfortable leaving it as just that, why aren't you?

[FeelGood2011]

User 8- you are wrong again! Each time you post a comment, the buzzer will go off and you will be wrong again, ha ha, this is kind of fun!

Originally Posted by user8

Nope. They're weirded out and you can't take it. Sorry.

[FeelGood2011]

Kreutz - my family and I are socially established, and we have a good set of friends. I extended new friendship opportunity for the benefit of their kids and my kids, but it appears that some other dads are afraid to make new friends. Based on the limited useful reponses on this forum, it appears that some other males such as the ones I mentioned have a social phobia and are the ones who are defective. It is very easy to move forward with other friendships, but again, it is a shame that American culture contains a defective male social ability, perhaps just plain lack of courage, to make new friends. It's no sweat off my back, but it was interesting to obtain feedback on the forum as a social study.

Originally Posted by Kreutz

There is in fact a social taboo on men being friendly towards other men.

We are to be independent after all. As I said I ain't macho man, but even I consider a male openly in need of male friendship defective in some way, sorry, its just instinctual.

The fact these guys are acquaintances changes nothing; they are comfortable leaving it as just that, why aren't you?

[user8]

Originally Posted by FeelGood2011

User 8- you are wrong again! Each time you post a comment, the buzzer will go off and you will be wrong again, ha ha, this is kind of fun!

Nope.

I keep getting approval rep points for this thread so apparently I'm not alone in my assessment.

[MrsMeredith]

My husband doesn't care for 'forced friendship' as he calls it. I will go out of my way to befriend other moms but he has no interest in making new friends with their husbands. Maybe it is a culture thing? Dunno.