Renting a room in an apartment (Chance: subletting, apartment complex, lease)

[Mizznadine28]

Hi Everyone, PLease i hope someone can help me becasue I desperately need answers.

I rented a room form this Nigarian guys in june. The rent is $550 a month becasue it's a 2bedroom 2bathroom apartment. He typed up a lease, per my request, that just states that i'm renting month to month and we split the electric bill. He told me the room comes with a bathroom becasue it's a two bedroom two bath. his bathroom is located in his room, mines on the outside beside my room. I'm a woman renting from a man so thats great i have my own bathroom. 3 months go by everything is fine and then me and him had an disagreement ever since then it's been unspoken tension between us so we just stick to saying hi and bye. He has his mother here from africa for the 2nd time in the 4 months i've lived here and she's here for about 2 weeks at at time. she uses the utilities and i still have to spilt it 50/50 with him even when she makes the electric bill high. he left the gas stove on for 1and a half hours and says he didn't smell the gas. when i'm in the kitchen cooking he brushed me when he walks by and does not say excuse me, now him and his guest are suing my bathroom when i'm at work finishing my tiolet paper and leaving stuff in my bathtub without asking my permission to use the bathroom i'm renting. my question is Does he have the right to use my bathroom him or his guest without my permission when he has his own in his room? If he's ebtering my bathroom when i'm not there he can be entering my room too becsue i dont have a key for the door without me knowing. ehat rights do i have and can i call the cops if he dosent stop using my bathroom hence invading my privacy.... Please help!!!

[reiflame]

Please call the cops because guests of the man who owns the house are using the bathroom in said house. Then, please record it and post it on Youtube so that we can see the expressions on their faces. Please. I'm having a bad day and this would make it so much better.

[slim04]

Seriously, make plans and moving out or make a serious effort to repair your relationship and try to diffuse the tension. If you choose to stay, repair the relationship FIRST, then later enter into a constructive conversation about boundries.

FYI, you are on a month to month lease, he has all the control. Your put yourself in a bad situation for cheap rent. If you continue to have an unpleasant relationship, he'll just terminate the lease and ask you to move out in a month.

Anyways, if the exclusive use of the bathroom isn't in the lease, which I seriously doubt it is, it is NOT a term of the lease and reasonable sharing is totally allowed. Your only recourse besides entering into to a constructive dialog with him to improve the situation is to move out.

Honestly, if you are even thinking of calling the police, I doubt this relationship is salvageable. Keep that in mind the next time you find yourself in this situation and don't let things get to this point again.

[rsh56]

Originally Posted by slim04

Seriously, make plans and moving out or make a serious effort to repair your relationship and try to diffuse the tension. If you choose to stay, repair the relationship FIRST, then later enter into a constructive conversation about boundries.

Yep, burning bridges is never a good thing.

[tgs_bg]

What "rights" do you have? Not many, considering you are subletting your apartment, which most likely violates the contract you have with your apartment complex. That lease you two made would not be enforceable.

[zrb2]

Back in the day, when i lived in an apartment and had a roommate, we had a similar setup. His bathroom was in his bedroom and mine was just outside my bedroom in a small hallway. As always, any guest of his that would come over would use MY bathroom because it was the one not located in a bedroom. Any small gathering we had, folks would always use and mess up my bathroom. That's just the way it is. It was annoying but i had to suck it up. At least i knew the person i was rooming with. In your situation, I'd get out and find another place to live under your own terms.

[John13]

I rented a room form this Nigarian guys in june

I can't tell if this is a troll post or not. I usually do not respond to first posts, bizarre topics/stories, and no profile.

With all the cheap rooms in apartments that are available, if this is real I'm baffled how you (or anyone else) could get yourself into this situation.

"(Nigerian) guys" that OP does not know w/ single female does not add up.

Putting this out there because others are reading:

Check craigslist. There are many cheap rooms in apartments, even with your own bathroom. Do some shopping around before you rent.

[motoreater]

You are basically stuck until you move out unless your lease stipulates other than what is happening.

[Tuneful]

You may not like it but if "your" bathroom is off the hallway and guests don't go into your room to use it it's technically not private. A good landlord would steer guests to use his bathroom but he's not making the effort to do that. Also, some women (maybe his mother?) have a hangup about using a man's bathroom. Having guests for 2+ weeks is inconsiderate. I'd get looking right away, You can consult the Landlord-Tenant Office for Montgomery County, their number is on the Internet. They can give you legal information and they sometimes do mediation to try to put some kind of temporary agreement in place--but I'm sure they will also advise you to move on. If you have to share you could try to find someone else who also needs a place, and look together--IF you get a good vibe about them (and you should each exchange references) and have an honest discussion first about what you are and are not looking for and what bugs each of you. Chances are the next roommate will have other things they do that irritate you. Shared housing isn't easy. Good luck

[sam2956]

Sounds to me that she needs to give notice and leave.
Is there more to this that the OP is not telling??
My crap meter is going wild.