Black woman's guide to dating in Metro DC (college, live in)

[lovely40]

Originally Posted by Quaker15

Or the other way around.

True. I'm secure enough to appreciate the perspective. Not knocking professional men, just stating my personal preference.

[adelphi_sky]

Originally Posted by lovely40

Good point. I'm a very educated, well-traveled, attractive lady and am mostly attracted to blue-collar men. They balance me out and keep me grounded. They have a down to earth realness that I admire. I come from a family of hard working men who got their hands dirty earning a living to take of family. To turn my nose up at a blue-collar man, would be like turning my nose up at my daddy, uncles, my brothers, etc. And they love hard. When they get a great lady, they work extra hard to keep her. Similar to how they've had to work hard to keep everything they've ever worked for. I guess what I'm saying is blue-collar men have a passion that most take for granted. This makes them extra special in my opinion. Frankly, while they look good on paper and the whole power couple thing is intriguing, I just haven't met a professional man that quite does it for me. Yet.

I went south for my spouse. And your post reminds me of her father. Nothing fancy. Just a simple hard working man who's been on the job for 30+ years. Comes home every evening. Goes to church every Sunday. Can hold a conversation about current events, etc.

[justtitans]

Originally Posted by lovely40

Good point. I'm a very educated, well-traveled, attractive lady and am mostly attracted to blue-collar men. They balance me out and keep me grounded. They have a down to earth realness that I admire. I come from a family of hard working men who got their hands dirty earning a living to take of family. To turn my nose up at a blue-collar man, would be like turning my nose up at my daddy, uncles, my brothers, etc. And they love hard. When they get a great lady, they work extra hard to keep her. Similar to how they've had to work hard to keep everything they've ever worked for. I guess what I'm saying is blue-collar men have a passion that most take for granted. This makes them extra special in my opinion. Frankly, while they look good on paper and the whole power couple thing is intriguing, I just haven't met a professional man that quite does it for me. Yet.

I love your perspective. That is the mindset that is needed more in this region. There is a lot more to a man than what he does for a living. These superficial things that people often look at are fleeting and can change at the drop of a dime. What do you have left when the worst comes to worst? Your master's degree or your fancy car isn't going to make you a better person, so why focus on things like this.

My wife has a similar background as you. Although I am a professional man, my dad was a blue collar worker. He instilled some basic principles in us about how we should treat ourselves and what kind of woman we should look for. I never thought for a moment that my degree or my profession should entitle me to women. I knew I needed a woman that was genuine, had common interest with me and was going to be a good mother. Not enough professional men look for this, instead they look for women that are enamored with their status. I am a believer that you will get what you give back. If you are focused on superficial things, you will find a man focused on superficial things, but if you looking beyond those things, then you will find someone that has much more to offer in a relationship that will make it a long lasting one.

[Yeadon718]

I guess the final analysis is....if you are a black woman in the D.C. area trying to date either open up your mind or be content with dick and popcorn.

[Infinite_heights77]

*Who in the hell works for a company for 30+ years anymore?!! That is ludicrous!

Originally Posted by adelphi_sky

I went south for my spouse. And your post reminds me of her father. Nothing fancy. Just a simple hard working man who's been on the job for 30+ years. Comes home every evening. Goes to church every Sunday. Can hold a conversation about current events, etc.

[Infinite_heights77]

*I've dated so many dumb highly educated Black women who don't know the time of day it is. All they care about is Scandal, Beyounce', who's who at the current happy hour and etc.. INCREDIBLE!

Originally Posted by EdwardA

Lol exactly.

[Infinite_heights77]

Black women are dating and marrying each other!

Originally Posted by nonsence

I guess the final analysis is....if you are a black woman in the D.C. area trying to date either open up your mind or be content with dick and popcorn.

[Gia2342]

Originally Posted by justtitans

I love your perspective. That is the mindset that is needed more in this region. There is a lot more to a man than what he does for a living. These superficial things that people often look at are fleeting and can change at the drop of a dime. What do you have left when the worst comes to worst? Your master's degree or your fancy car isn't going to make you a better person, so why focus on things like this.

My wife has a similar background as you. Although I am a professional man, my dad was a blue collar worker. He instilled some basic principles in us about how we should treat ourselves and what kind of woman we should look for. I never thought for a moment that my degree or my profession should entitle me to women. I knew I needed a woman that was genuine, had common interest with me and was going to be a good mother. Not enough professional men look for this, instead they look for women that are enamored with their status. I am a believer that you will get what you give back. If you are focused on superficial things, you will find a man focused on superficial things, but if you looking beyond those things, then you will find someone that has much more to offer in a relationship that will make it a long lasting one.

It's funny that men do not find it superficial to judge a woman based on her relative attractiveness. I've never heard a guy say, I'd prefer date the chubby, unattractive girl and pass up the attractive, thin woman who is demanding.

[justtitans]

Originally Posted by Gia2342

It's funny that men do not find it superficial to judge a woman based on her relative attractiveness. I've never heard a guy say, I'd prefer date the chubby, unattractive girl and pass up the attractive, thin woman who is demanding.

I don't disagree about those things being superficial, but I thought we were talking about woman's guide to dating, not men?

[Gia2342]

Originally Posted by justtitans

I don't disagree about those things being superficial, but I thought we were talking about woman's guide to dating, not men?

The point is, it's hypocritical for Black men to lambaste professional Black women for wanting a man with similar professional attributes. The guys who criticize Black professional women for being too darn "selective" and "demanding" are often the very same ones who are only interested in dating/marrying a certain type of woman. Why won't those guys just settle for the nice, overweight single mom who works at CVS?

Why are most guys only interested in women who are inshape and attractive? Again, what is wrong with the nice, polite, hard working overweight women? Disclaimer: I happen to be a size 4, but I've witnessed a number of my friends experience rejection because they weren't deemed attractive enough or because their skin shade was considered too dark...

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