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Old 12-13-2010, 11:35 AM
 
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DC is a great place for inter-racial dating. I am seeing more white male/black female couples lately. I guess that is a positive development.

I think this goes back to the growing inequality of gender in the black community. Black females are more likely to have college degrees and higher-paying professional jobs than their male counterparts. In a professional environment, black females will be socializing more with white males and a certain level of trust and commonality begins to develop. Meanwhile, black males are being left behind in this economy. They are not measuring up to standards for marriage and family life. The effects must be devastating.

There is a tremendous amount of fetishizing of female persons of color by the white-male dominated media. Black, Hispanic and Asian women are viewed as objects of sexual fantasy and domination. Black females have very good reason to be cautious around white men.
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Old 12-15-2010, 01:47 AM
 
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DC is a great place for inter-racial dating. I am seeing more white male/black female couples lately. I guess that is a positive development.

I think this goes back to the growing inequality of gender in the black community. Black females are more likely to have college degrees and higher-paying professional jobs than their male counterparts. In a professional environment, black females will be socializing more with white males and a certain level of trust and commonality begins to develop. Meanwhile, black males are being left behind in this economy. They are not measuring up to standards for marriage and family life. The effects must be devastating.

There is a tremendous amount of fetishizing of female persons of color by the white-male dominated media. Black, Hispanic and Asian women are viewed as objects of sexual fantasy and domination. Black females have very good reason to be cautious around white men.
While I agree with your first part, every post you make is burdened by bigotry and divisiveness. I spend time around people of all different colors and haven't seen any of them fetishized yet. Maybe the world isn't as bad as you've convinced yourself it is.
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Old 12-15-2010, 08:27 AM
 
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DC is a great place for inter-racial dating. I am seeing more white male/black female couples lately. I guess that is a positive development.

I think this goes back to the growing inequality of gender in the black community. Black females are more likely to have college degrees and higher-paying professional jobs than their male counterparts. In a professional environment, black females will be socializing more with white males and a certain level of trust and commonality begins to develop. Meanwhile, black males are being left behind in this economy. They are not measuring up to standards for marriage and family life. The effects must be devastating.

There is a tremendous amount of fetishizing of female persons of color by the white-male dominated media. Black, Hispanic and Asian women are viewed as objects of sexual fantasy and domination. Black females have very good reason to be cautious around white men.
Your first two sentences had some merit. After that, pure hilarity. Do you really believe that bs you spew?
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Old 12-15-2010, 08:33 AM
 
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There is a tremendous amount of fetishizing of female persons of color by the white-male dominated media. .
Link, please?
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Old 12-15-2010, 04:18 PM
 
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I have soul-crushing suburban white guilt
Cliffs notes for all of Coldbliss's posts. You're welcome.
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Old 12-15-2010, 06:02 PM
 
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Cliffs notes for all of Coldbliss's posts. You're welcome.
+1 for style and accuracy.
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Old 12-16-2010, 01:32 AM
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Let's stop with the personal trips, ok ?
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Old 12-16-2010, 06:31 PM
 
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I'm a single white male that will soon be moving to the D.C. area. I am curious to know what the dating scene is like between white males and other non-white ethnic groups?
Interracial dating between Black women and White men or White men and Hispanic women is rare in DC. From what I've seen, most of the immigrant Central American women are much more ethnocentric and adverse to interracial dating than Black women. I think it is because most of the Central American women are recent immigrants who aren't Americanized at all, unlike Mexicans on the West Coast or Puerto Ricans above the Mason Dixon line. If you want to get with Black or Hispanic women in DC, you better be one cool White dude. By "cool" meaning you have to be cosmopolitan and comfortable around all groups of people. Many native Whites in the DC area coexist and share sidewalk space and may even frequent the same nightlife areas and hangouts with Black and Hispanic folks in DC yet they exist in another alternate dimension where they never actually socialize with people of different races. But most of the segregation in DC seems more like an outdated custom more than an actual hateful prejudice. DC is a very mature city in this regard. If you want to see intense hateful segregation take a trip to Baltimore.

But ultimately, many non-White women in the DC area are exclusively attracted to White men. You can scan the profiles of local single women in the DC area on dating sites for proof.

I'm not White or Black and I'm mixed. I am Asian, White and Hispanic, but I can pass for many different races including straight up White to certain people. Because I've always been a token, I am comfortable everywhere I go and can relate to all different types of people. Since I am mixed and the way I grew up, I know that people are just people and that it is not all that different on the other side of the fence. People who date interracially are aware of this as well. I have met and dated a bunch of Black women in DC. However, my appeal is that I am different from most of the guys in DC. I look, talk, walk and dress differently than DC natives and yuppie residents. All of this mystique is appealing to many Black women in the District. That is not to say I don't strike out sometimes because I do like any guy. Also, the fact that I am a round peg in a square conservative city works to my disadvantage just as much as it does to my advantage in terms of dating any women in DC. It's a gamble. Even though I stand out in a crowd at most DC bars, clubs, concerts and functions, I am very comfortable with my surroundings because I have experienced the vibe of life on both coasts in the city and the suburbs and have lived in the DC Area for many years. Also, DC is a pretty laid-back city where people mind their own business. I guess it also stems from the fact that I have been around Black folks my whole life. I was born and raised in a Black enclave in the cosmopolitan city of San Francisco, albeit it was a Black neighborhood 3,000 miles away. Ultimately, race is meaningless to me. If you are able to get along with people of all different backgrounds, you can date all different types of women. At the end of the day, DC is a cosmopolitan city. Who cares what dating trends are like in DC. You just have to be that cool guy that breaks the mold. After all, that is exactly the type of guy I am. All of the Black women I dated in DC told me that "I wasn't their type, but I quickly grew on them" and that they were glad they stepped out of their comfort zone and gave me a chance because I gave them something different, refreshing and unique. You can be this guy too.

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Old 12-16-2010, 08:36 PM
 
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I have to disagree with you a little bit. I see many, many interracial couples.
One measure of this might be on page 12 of this Census report on marriages & unmarried/cohabitating couples:
http://www.census.gov/prod/2003pubs/censr-5.pdf
Turns out that interracial marriages/couplings (well, at least those reported to the census in 2000) are about as common in the South as in the Northeast (and the Midwest is behind both). Straight DC residents are about as likely to be coupled to someone of a different race/ethnicity than the typical person in the NE, South, or Midwest -- but more likely than their regional peers to be married to someone of a different race/ethnicity. And gay Washingtonians are very likely to be coupled to someone of a different race/ethnicity -- about as likely as their peers out West (where interracial couples are indeed practically the norm).

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the only thing i do disagree with is folks of any race who go out of their way to not date within their race if you understand what i'm trying to say.
No sillier than someone who strictly dates within their race -- and just numerically, it's easier for people within the majority to do that. If Antarcticans were 5% of the population, then an Antarctican who dated 95% non-Antarcticans would actually be spreading the goods pretty fairly.
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Old 12-16-2010, 08:47 PM
 
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One measure of this might be on page 12 of this Census report on marriages & unmarried/cohabitating couples:
http://www.census.gov/prod/2003pubs/censr-5.pdf
Turns out that interracial marriages/couplings (well, at least those reported to the census in 2000) are about as common in the South as in the Northeast (and the Midwest is behind both). Straight DC residents are about as likely to be coupled to someone of a different race/ethnicity than the typical person in the NE, South, or Midwest -- but more likely than their regional peers to be married to someone of a different race/ethnicity. And gay Washingtonians are very likely to be coupled to someone of a different race/ethnicity -- about as likely as their peers out West (where interracial couples are indeed practically the norm).
Might have to do a lot more with classism than anything.

I mean, gays in DC, are most likely of the same class - similar lifestyles, and social circles regardless of their race.

Whereas when you break things down to race, DC seems predominately black and white. I think it is rare for a white person without money to live in DC, so by default, the ones who are in DC are generally of a high education, and high income bracket.

Whereas for blacks, many in DC for generations, and many neighborhoods where blacks of modest means do and have lived, and don't necessarily have high incomes or high education. Basically, you get two different classes of people who probably aren't mixing it up in the same social circles.

From the sounds of it, if you move a bit west into NOVA...where most everyone, regardless of race, has more class similarities. Similar lifestyles, similar incomes, similar everything...I think the intermixing goes up quite a bit.

I think it basically comes back to the ANY two people of similar incomes, similar lifestyles, similar educational backgrounds can become a match. Whereas ANY two people with drastically different incomes, different lifestyles and different educational achievements statistically won't attract each other to the same degree at all.

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