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Old 04-10-2012, 10:05 AM
 
Location: Springfield VA
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That's just the way you and your friend think. I don't necessarily see it that way, but to each his own. I'm married and I limit myself. I know that there are attractive women around but I'm committed to my wife, so I'm not going to allow myself to fantasize about someone who isn't her. Are there times when you wish your wife would look more attractive? Sure, when you are married you see your wife on her good and bad days, but to get to the point of fantasizing, it sounds like perhaps your friend is unhappy with his marriage. Just my opinion.
Oh come on there's nothing wrong with fantasizing about whatever. As long as you don't act on it. To me sex and relationship are two seperate things. We're men we're supposed to be good at compartmentalizing right? Fantasizing about someone else doesn't mean that one is unhappy. On the other end of the spectrum one can be with the same person and not get tired as long as the couple works to keep things interesting.
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Old 04-10-2012, 10:25 AM
 
Location: USA
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it's not called chocolate city for nothing.
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Old 04-10-2012, 11:26 AM
 
Location: Woodbridge
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Oh come on there's nothing wrong with fantasizing about whatever. As long as you don't act on it. To me sex and relationship are two seperate things. We're men we're supposed to be good at compartmentalizing right? Fantasizing about someone else doesn't mean that one is unhappy. On the other end of the spectrum one can be with the same person and not get tired as long as the couple works to keep things interesting.
There is something wrong with it, because just like anything that goes to far, it starts off innocent. Marriage just gives you a different mentality. If you are single, you won't think the same when you're married. There are things that you generally won't allow, that is if you want to stay married.
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Old 04-10-2012, 12:12 PM
 
Location: Springfield VA
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There is something wrong with it, because just like anything that goes to far, it starts off innocent. Marriage just gives you a different mentality. If you are single, you won't think the same when you're married. There are things that you generally won't allow, that is if you want to stay married.
Hmmmm. We may have to agree to disagree on that one. Your scenario of not being allowed to have fantasies makes me sad. A fantasy is totally okay as long as you're not acting on said fantasy. Also sharing said fantasy might help it come true in a safe-for-marriage environment. Marriage shouldn't be about closing the book on things it should be about sharing the book and reading it together.
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Old 04-10-2012, 06:27 PM
 
Location: Montgomery County, MD
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Good article that tells it like it is for men in DC although some of the entries are obvious jokes
15 Reasons Why Washington DC Sucks For Guys

The most damning and true thing said in this article: There aren’t enough cute white girls for white men who don’t want to date minorities.
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Old 04-11-2012, 01:19 AM
 
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The most damning and true thing said in this article: There aren’t enough cute white girls for white men who don’t want to date minorities.
Or he could have just said there aren't enough cute white girls, period. I can't bring myself to be attracted to 98% of black women. I think it's the nose/hair/attitude.

PS: Awesome link and basically completely true.
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Old 04-11-2012, 08:03 AM
 
Location: Woodbridge
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Or he could have just said there aren't enough cute white girls, period. I can't bring myself to be attracted to 98% of black women. I think it's the nose/hair/attitude.

PS: Awesome link and basically completely true.
You do realize that all black women aren't the same right?
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Old 04-11-2012, 08:04 AM
 
Location: Woodbridge
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Hmmmm. We may have to agree to disagree on that one. Your scenario of not being allowed to have fantasies makes me sad. A fantasy is totally okay as long as you're not acting on said fantasy. Also sharing said fantasy might help it come true in a safe-for-marriage environment. Marriage shouldn't be about closing the book on things it should be about sharing the book and reading it together.
Are you married?
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Old 04-11-2012, 09:12 AM
 
Location: Springfield VA
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Good article that tells it like it is for men in DC although some of the entries are obvious jokes
15 Reasons Why Washington DC Sucks For Guys

The most damning and true thing said in this article: There aren’t enough cute white girls for white men who don’t want to date minorities.
My eyes rolled so far back into my head. The DC area has over a million black people and the 4th largest black population in the country. As mentioned they don't call it Chocolate City for nothing. Move to Utah or North Dakota and call it a day already.
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Old 04-11-2012, 09:15 AM
 
Location: Springfield VA
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Are you married?
No. That doesn't invalidate my opinion. I have an idea of what MY marriage will be like. Fantasies are good things. If you don't want to fantasize and that works for your marriage then that's great. However, you can't paint things with one broad stroke. What works for you doesn't work for everyone.
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