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Old 09-13-2010, 03:17 PM
 
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i know this is a dumb question, but if a girl is engaged, does it always mean that her fiancee will have bought her a ring at time of proposal? and if so, does it mean she will always wear it even if the wedding is 3 years down the road?
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Old 09-13-2010, 03:19 PM
 
Location: Nashville, Tn
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I've never been engaged but I feel pretty certain that the answer is yes. I'm just curious why a couple would have an engagement that lasts for such a long time.
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Old 09-13-2010, 03:23 PM
 
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i know this is a dumb question, but if a girl is engaged, does it always mean that her fiancee will have bought her a ring at time of proposal? and if so, does it mean she will always wear it even if the wedding is 3 years down the road?

Proposals can definitely happen before a ring is bought. Some couples like to choose it together after they have become engaged.

Once the ring is purchased however, the woman wears it all the time - unless she works around heavy machinary - or there is something wrong.
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Old 09-13-2010, 03:24 PM
 
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Default just a silly preoccupation

i have with someone that will pass. sometimes i hear things that aren't even true, or don't hear things that are true...
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Old 09-13-2010, 03:26 PM
 
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i have with someone that will pass. sometimes i hear things that aren't even true, or don't hear things that are true...
So you like someone who is engaged and you are trying to figure out just how serious she is about getting married??
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Old 09-13-2010, 03:29 PM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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i know this is a dumb question, but if a girl is engaged, does it always mean that her fiancee will have bought her a ring at time of proposal? and if so, does it mean she will always wear it even if the wedding is 3 years down the road?
Not necessarily. Traditionally, yes, but more women want to have a say in picking out the ring these days.

I wore mine almost all the time while I was engaged. It had to go to the jewelers a few times to be resized and replated (white gold wears off). There were a few times where I just completely forgot to put it on that morning, so my fingers were naked for the day.
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Old 09-13-2010, 03:31 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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My first husband proposed without an engagement ring. We simply wore gold wedding bands.

My second husband also proposed without a ring and then later we went ring shopping together.

I think couples can do whatever suits them, there are no hard and fast rules. In Hollywood movies a man proposes with a ring, but I'm not at all convinced that is a closely followed tradition.
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Old 09-13-2010, 03:32 PM
 
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I've never been engaged either. I always thought it was a rather antiquated tradition that really had no meaning in this day and age.

I know many people who have been engaged for years and never ever married. It seemed like the magical ring was all that mattered
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Old 09-13-2010, 03:36 PM
 
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Engagement meant something to me. From the moment I accepted the proposal I was officially "off the market" as a single.

The engagement period was long enough to plan the type of wedding we wanted, which for us, took about 10 months.
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Old 09-13-2010, 03:53 PM
 
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My proposal was kind of spontaneous, so we went ring shopping afterwards.

But I don't understand the notion of a long engagement either. Once she agreed, I could barely wait. If her pesky mother hadn't insisted on throwing the wedding of the century (And I was too new to the family to say, 'To hell with that'), then we would have been married in a matter of weeks, not 7 months.
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