Girls, engagement rings, do you care about the size? (band, marriage, proposed)

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by TheImportersWife

I know quite a few women who bought their husbands pricey collector's watches as a gift for the big day.

You sound like an angry, broke dude. Believe it or not, there are some men who like to buy their girl diamonds...or jewelry in general.

In fact, there are MANY men that enjoy doing this. My brother-in-law buys my sister jewelry every time she burps. He LOVES seeing her reaction...frankly I have always thought that it's an ego thing for him. She never asks for anything...it's always his idea. He just dropped 15K on a new engagement ring (yeah that "upgrade" that our friend is always talking about) and she was perfectly happy with her old one. The new one is just too much ring, in my opinion. But she likes it.

[thatsong64]

Guys should be letting girls answer instead of popping in to post more generalizations about how all women care about is money.

[TheImportersWife]

Originally Posted by onihC

Sure! I’ve been with women who have executive jobs and even handicapped women (remember the story of my ex who was deaf/mute?) and even dated an erotic dancer – prostitute. Remember, men are not as strict as women when it comes to relationships. Even women have admitted that men are more simple and less demanding.

Sorry to say I missed all those stories/posts. Dating a handicapped woman or prostitute isn't what I was getting at. Let me rephrase my question: If you were in a strong financial position, would your thought process change in regards to what you would be willing to buy your SO?

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

Please. There is no such "rule". You are actually playing right into DeBeers marketing strategy.

Yeah, I tried the whole "2 months" marketing strategy, along with the "but it's an investment!" with my husband and he laughed in my face.

Originally Posted by crabman1

Yep, you can tell the advertising is working wonders when people actually believe it is true and parrot what they do not realize is a marketing ploy.

As to rings, I find that somewhere around 2 ct they start looking gaudy to me. IMO gaudy is not a good look.

I'm Gaudy and unapologetic!!!

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

In fact, there are MANY men that enjoy doing this. My brother-in-law buys my sister jewelry every time she burps. He LOVES seeing her reaction...frankly I have always thought that it's an ego thing for him. She never asks for anything...it's always his idea. He just dropped 15K on a new engagement ring (yeah that "upgrade" that our friend is always talking about) and she was perfectly happy with her old one. The new one is just too much ring, in my opinion. But she likes it.

My husband is one of those guys too. He bought me jewelry/diamonds before the engagement and after the wedding. This thread reminds me...he's overdue to buy me something sparkly. (I kid, I kid folks! Well, not really. I can't help it. I'm like a fish...always attracted to shiny things. )

[onihC]

Originally Posted by TheImportersWife

Sorry to say I missed all those stories/posts. Dating a handicapped woman or prostitute isn't what I was getting at. Let me rephrase my question: If you were in a strong financial position, would your thought process change in regards to what you would be willing to buy your SO?

I was just pointing out how I've had a relationship with different kinds of girls, even handicapped. It was quite an experience learning sign language just for her. And my thought of what I would be willing to buy doesn’t change. Their willingness to spend money on me doesn’t change either even if I am in a “lower level”. I guess women can be more demanding than others depending on their traditions/culture.

Yes, many men like to shower their girl with gifts, expensive stuff, jewelry, vacations, cars, flowers, etc. It’s common for men to do that for women, not the other way around. Hey! Whatever works for the couple.

[crabman1]

No worries Mrs Importer, this is a to each her own question. My ex was into jewelry, she had lots of it and mostly gifts from me. All diamonds. Some of that garish but I did not pick that stuff out, she did. In fairness while I have no use whatsoever for jewelry I do love a nice watch and have several. No one ever grabbed my wrist and went "OMG is that real?!" like women would over my wifes tennis bracelet which is how I prefer it.

[LeafsFan85]

Originally Posted by jamesblack201198

Girls, as to engaement rings, do you care about the size? I think the size is not an issue, as long as it fits your finger, right? But my gf don't think so. The other day, I bought this pair of rings for her. Who knows, she said it not big enough. And she even implied the size is sort of matters.. If I don't get a good ring- then what does that say for the rest of the relationship or marriage... It predicts bad things! I'm so confused now. So, what's your opinion?

If that was me, I'll take the ring back and walk straight out the door!

[LeafsFan85]

Originally Posted by LuckyGem

The rule is to save 3 months of salary (before taxes).

If what you earn is something the size of 5,000 that's what she gets.

If you earn 20,000 per month then something that costs 60,000 is what she gets.

To be honest, every woman doesn't want an engagement ring, it's just not important.

Engagement ring - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Still, the ring you posted is nice, and if you're not Donald Trump she should be happy to get that.

Said Who? DeBeers?

[onihC]

Originally Posted by Ulysses61

I am female, but have always thought that women who give one damn about the size or expense of an engagement ring are shallow, vapid golddiggers. Who cares about such a trivial thing? Put the money towards your honeymoon.

If I said that I would have gotten quite a reaction. Interesting to see a woman say it.

I don't think a woman is necessarily wrong for wanting a man to buy her a big shiny dreamy ring, shower her with gifts, take her on vacations, and so on. I just like it when women reciprocate instead of just being in the receiving end as it is the tradition.

Originally Posted by LuckyGem

The rule is to save 3 months of salary (before taxes).

If what you earn is something the size of 5,000 that's what she gets.

If you earn 20,000 per month then something that costs 60,000 is what she gets.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Engagement_ring

Hhhhhmm interesting

if you're not Donald Trump she should be happy to get that

So you're saying that if the guy is a millionaire he SHOULD spend a lot of money on her ring, among many other things, right?

To be honest, every woman doesn't want an engagement ring, it's just not important

Not exactly what women are posting in here, other threads, and outside the forum.

[miyu]

Originally Posted by Itz

I hate women who are blah blah blah about their engagement rings..
Come on.... really!!
There is NO RULE!
What matters is the fact soemone really cares enough and loves the woman enough to even ask her to marry them.

the size and style and etc of the ring only matter to woman who are shallow and only want a shiney to show off to other women.

its no wonder that couples no longer stay together and that men are hesitant about asking for a womans hand in marriage... "Gee honey, you cheap skate... i'm not marrying you because you bought me a 1 carat instead of a 2 carat."

If the woman loves the man enough = it won' matter... if it does.. they have no business being together.

But if a woman buys a guy a pair of shoes or a shirt that is really embarrassing and ghetto and wants him to wear it... or she bought him a really crappy car as a gift and wants him to drive it everyday, is he obligated to? Because she bought it out of love? There is no "rule" but there should be some preparation so you don't force something unwanted on somebody. A guy can't just go out and get any piece of crap jewelry without consulting somebody...

What if she accepts the marriage proposal and rejects the ring, saying she'd rather not put a piece of turd on her hand for the world to see?

[FrmlyBklyn]

Originally Posted by TheImportersWife

before the engagement and after the wedding. This thread reminds me...he's overdue to buy me something sparkly. (I kid, I kid folks! Well, not really. I can't help it. I'm like a fish...always attracted to shiny things. )

I could lend him some of my shiny fishing lures.