GF upset that I dont want to attend a wedding with her. (destination, polite)

[PA2UK]

Originally Posted by optiflex

So if I make a movie called Runaway Groom... people will accept it just as much as they did Runaway Bride? Wow it's all love and acceptance here. NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Incredible double standards.

You're making some pretty outlandish assumptions here. There are plenty of movies about commitment phobic men out there which were not only well received by women but were actually marketed as "chick flicks". Just off the top of my head, check out Ghosts of Girlfriends Past. Of course the moral of the story is that he changes his ways by the end... but so did the woman in Runaway Bride. I enjoyed both movies - no double standards here.

I'll just bet you women are giving in, left and right for his feelings. BWAHASHAHAHA

You know nothing about my marriage. I moved across an ocean to another country to be with my husband. The fact that you just assume all women are takers and never give anything in relationship suggests that you just have a sexist grudge against women. Maybe you've been picking the wrong kind of women, maybe you had some bad experiences... maybe you're just inherently ignorant and narrow minded. Whatever the reason, it doesn't justify blatant sexism. I'm not even the type to cry "sexism" at the slightest hint of it - but this is pretty extreme and obvious.

[optiflex]

Well, it's July 4th. and I have a life, a family, friends that want me to spend time with them. Ore I can stay here and fight all day on the internet, increasing my post counts telling everybody about my wonderful life/.....

[Davros]

I just re-read the original post. I noticed that it said the wedding was in September. I wonder if it might happen to be on a Saturday or Sunday ... Hmm ... Something to consider here.

I guess, based on these other posts, I realize that, yes, the OP should probably compromise and go to the wedding if it's important to the girlfriend. Unless, of course, he has tickets to Penn State Vs Alabama or something. And then, I say, let's get our priorities straight here !

But the thing nobody else has been talking about here is that "he heard it on the grapevine" that she's "a little mad" about it.

So I wonder if it really is all that important to the girlfriend whether he goes or not, or whether perhaps this is really all about some jealous friend spreading false rumors. It is odd that the OP doesn't mention that he noticed the girlfriend being disappointed at all.

Given the information we've received from the OP so far (and it's odd he hasn't come back to the thread yet), I stand by my answer that, no he is NOT WRONG to decline this invitation --- UNTIL --- he hears directly from her that she's disappointed he isn't going.

That's all.

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by optiflex

Well, it's July 4th. and I have a life, a family, friends that want me to spend time with them. Ore I can stay here and fight all day on the internet, increasing my post counts telling everybody about my wonderful life/.....

I'll do the same, I have some double pay to make. I'll pick this up after making some bread and eating some garlic bread and spaghetti.

[Shankapotomus]

I really don't have fun at weddings either. I'm hoping to get married in a private ceremony in the forest much like in the movie Braveheart.

[LexWest]

I don't care for most weddings (or graduations, for that matter). The expectation of gifts (money); the fawning over the wedding party's attire and the overall decor; the loud music and dancing (which I'm not great at); the borrachos (drunks); the random greeting, hugging and kissing from people I don't know (or remember), and asking what I'm doing in life and my relationship status; people who ask if/assume I'm "next"; and the list goes on... .I didn't mind going when I was younger, but maybe I'm at a critical period, since friends and family members around my age are marrying/already married.

Okay, so I generally dislike being around a lot of people and social events. However, I go because I recognize life isn't all about me, and it's an important time for the person/people. I'm willing to be supportive (even if it means waiting a couple hours later for the bride to show up, or swatting flies in the heat of an outdoor wedding). After all, for the people I do care for, I'd want them to come for my special events. (Not to mention, I'd have a reason to wear my dressier outfits and shoes. )

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by PA2UK

Being a grown up and being in a grown up relationship means sometimes having to do things you don't want to do to make other people you care about happy.

This. I don't like to go to corporate holiday parties, Super Bowl parties, funerals for people who aren't related to me, and I'd rather spend holidays with my family than his. But I do all these things because part of being in a relationship is making sacrifices for the other person. Sometimes, you suck it up and do things that aren't your favorite, for somebody else. It's life, and it's what people who care about one another's feelings do. Life isn't all about you and your likes and dislikes. Sometimes, you take one for the team, if it's a team you're interested in staying on.

[Dewdrop93]

Originally Posted by Davros

I just re-read the original post. I noticed that it said the wedding was in September. I wonder if it might happen to be on a Saturday or Sunday ... Hmm ... Something to consider here.

I guess, based on these other posts, I realize that, yes, the OP should probably compromise and go to the wedding if it's important to the girlfriend. Unless, of course, he has tickets to Penn State Vs Alabama or something. And then, I say, let's get our priorities straight here !

Well, if he had the tickets already - then of course he couldn't go! If my husband had tickets already to that game - I wouldn't be going either! My husband is a die hard Crimson Tide fan - and I'm a Big 10 girl - so we'd both be going to the game!

All joking aside, a relationship involves compromise. Suck it up and go to the wedding. My husband has gone to many weddings with me. He does not like weddings (except for our own wedding which was AWESOME!!!) but he goes for me. I've gone to many things for him, too. This is just part of being in a grown up relationship. I think the happiness that you get out of a wonderful relationship far outweighs a few hours of boredom. If not - then you should not be in the relationship to begin with.

[Chowhound]

I've gone to wedding, funerals, graduation.

I'm getting to the point of being done with that shyt.

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by Davros

I just re-read the original post. I noticed that it said the wedding was in September. I wonder if it might happen to be on a Saturday or Sunday ... Hmm ... Something to consider here.

I guess, based on these other posts, I realize that, yes, the OP should probably compromise and go to the wedding if it's important to the girlfriend. Unless, of course, he has tickets to Penn State Vs Alabama or something. And then, I say, let's get our priorities straight here !

But the thing nobody else has been talking about here is that "he heard it on the grapevine" that she's "a little mad" about it.

So I wonder if it really is all that important to the girlfriend whether he goes or not, or whether perhaps this is really all about some jealous friend spreading false rumors. It is odd that the OP doesn't mention that he noticed the girlfriend being disappointed at all.

Given the information we've received from the OP so far (and it's odd he hasn't come back to the thread yet), I stand by my answer that, no he is NOT WRONG to decline this invitation --- UNTIL --- he hears directly from her that she's disappointed he isn't going.

That's all.

Good points, I agree. The OP was straight up about his dislike of weddings, the GF needs to be straight up if she dislikes him not going.