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Unread 08-06-2011, 06:48 AM
 
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Default Expensive American wedding tradition stupid

Really, blow $20-30k or more on a wedding? Spend $5k or more on a ring? All of this so that you only have a 50% chance that your marriage will last? Why is it a tradition here to burden yourself with years of debt for 1 stupid "special day"? Thank god I have a reasonable fiance that flat out told me we are spending less than $5k on the wedding by cooking all the food ourselves, having the celebration at the house, and that she'll do all the flowers herself. She also wanted a small ring so that all the money saved vs a traditional wedding can be used for a down payment on a house.
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Unread 08-06-2011, 06:53 AM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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People spend irrationally, I think the majority of people in the US who have credit cards utilize some 60% or higher of all their credit (the ideal is a max of 30%!)
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Unread 08-06-2011, 07:12 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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A wedding is really the bride's day. I persoanlly don't believe in the family cooking all the food, I think it has cheap written all over it. Just my opinion. I'm not wealthy, but like nice things. As my dad once told me; you don't bring a sandwich to a banquet. However, I do get the 20-30k on a wedding part. Both of my sisters had their weddings in the 7-10k range and they were nice and classy. It's your wedding do what you want, best of luck
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Unread 08-06-2011, 07:17 AM
 
Location: Back Home In TN…YAY:):)
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I think big weddings are a huge waste of money. I would much rather use the money for something more substantial like a down payment for the start of the rest of our life....not for a one day event.

I'm glad your fiancé has some common sense. You are a lucky man Too many women want to stay daddy's little princess for the rest of their lives
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Unread 08-06-2011, 07:25 AM
 
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Really, blow $20-30k or more on a wedding? Spend $5k or more on a ring? All of this so that you only have a 50% chance that your marriage will last? Why is it a tradition here to burden yourself with years of debt for 1 stupid "special day"? Thank god I have a reasonable fiance that flat out told me we are spending less than $5k on the wedding by cooking all the food ourselves, having the celebration at the house, and that she'll do all the flowers herself. She also wanted a small ring so that all the money saved vs a traditional wedding can be used for a down payment on a house.

"American tradition"?? I beg your pardon.

"the average wedding cost here in the UK falls anywhere between a huge £15,000 and a staggering £25,000, with the cumulative average figure settling around the £18,500 mark"...

"the average cost of a wedding in Australia, in 2009, was $49,202."

"As the 2010 wedding seasons kicks off, the price of tying the knot in Italy has increased by about 40% to 45% in the last seven years to an average of about 30,000 euros which if we go with today’s exchange, we are looking at about £27,600. "

Do some research before posting.
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Unread 08-06-2011, 07:25 AM
 
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A wedding is really the bride's day. I persoanlly don't believe in the family cooking all the food, I think it has cheap written all over it. Just my opinion. I'm not wealthy, but like nice things. As my dad once told me; you don't bring a sandwich to a banquet. However, I do get the 20-30k on a wedding part. Both of my sisters had their weddings in the 7-10k range and they were nice and classy. It's your wedding do what you want, best of luck
Couldn't disagree with you more. The whole spending $100 or more per plate of food per guest has rip off written all over it. It's unbelievable how much wedding couples get ripped off for food when 95% of all wedding food isn't even that good and is just prepackaged frozen stuff the company catering the event just heats up. I have no doubt at all we could cook fresh food way better for 200% less cost.
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Unread 08-06-2011, 07:26 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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I persoanlly don't believe in the family cooking all the food, I think it has cheap written all over it. Just my opinion. I'm not wealthy, but like nice things. As my dad once told me; you don't bring a sandwich to a banquet.
What if the "family" is comprised of people with exceptional culinary talents? It's rather a grand assumption that only a paid professional can provide "nice" food for a wedding and that the average family is only capable of throwing together some basic sandwiches!

I personally think it's daft to spend what you don't have on a lavish affair but, if you've got it then I guess it's each to his own.
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Unread 08-06-2011, 07:33 AM
 
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Ohhhhh! I can I help cook? Pretty please? That sounds like fun. I like your thinking.
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Unread 08-06-2011, 07:37 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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You don't even need a ring or a party. If you want to skip the "stupid day," just go to the justice of the peace and sign a document in front of witnesses. That's all a marriage is. Don't waste a penny if you don't think it's worth it.
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Unread 08-06-2011, 08:03 AM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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A wedding should be what you want it to be and hopefully, can afford. There's no 'rule' that says you have to spend a boatload of money.
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